Jack and Jill Parties and showers

[bnd94]

Are any of you having a shower or some sort of party before your wedding?

[LaceyinPgh]

I think that it might be kind of fun if you planned it correctly. You wouldn't want the traditional wedding party style if you were doing it that way. You would want more of a general or cocktail party style for a coed shower. Men just haven't been tortured with bridal and baby showers since they were old enough to sit up so they can't handle all the pastel, word games, and tea sandwiches.

I will never be able to talk Sean into it though. A friend of his had a coed baby shower that they ran like a traditional baby shower. Sean and all of his other guy friends were about ready to stab themselves with cocktail forks just to escape. The kicked was the guess the baby food game and how big around is Maria? Men really hate to guess how big around a woman is.

[bnd94]

Hehe Yeah your right. My cousin had a Jack and Jill party, I didn't go so I don't know how it went, but I am thinking it was probably like you just said. Maybe if there were enough things for each gender to do it would be entertaining for both but I don't know.

I'm not having any parties. No shower or bachelorette party and he doesn't want any either. We just feel that we have been living together for so long and after buying our house we already have everything we need. I guess I would feel kinda like you said the guys did, looking for a way out, ready to stab myself with a fork. I just don't get into the group of girls thing. I wish I did, it sounds like fun. We will be telling our guests no gifts too. I just want everyone to come and have fun and not worry about what to get us that we would like.

[CindySue]

We havent decided yet but instead of the regular his and her parties before the wedding we talked about having one together. We both have the same interests and our friends should not have any problems getting along together.
This is what we really want so this is probably what we will do.

[CarlosHoney]

We are thinking of having a co-ed baby shower, but it's going to be hosted at the clubhouse of a really nice apartment complex. So, there's a place for everyone to sit and 'ooh' and 'aah', but there is also pool tables and shuffleboard.

We might make it a dual party. Girls go to the shower, guys go to talk and have some beers. Except that Carlo doesn't drink beer.. But he'll probably get some good advice. He needs that!

[LaceyinPgh]

We are thinking of having a co-ed baby shower, but it's going to be hosted at the clubhouse of a really nice apartment complex. So, there's a place for everyone to sit and 'ooh' and 'aah', but there is also pool tables and shuffleboard.

We might make it a dual party. Girls go to the shower, guys go to talk and have some beers. Except that Carlo doesn't drink beer.. But he'll probably get some good advice. He needs that!

See, that would be fine. But the coed shower that we had was in a country club where were were all sitting in our little seats eating tea sandwiches and cake while playing guess what's in the baby food jar and guess the birth date. Men just can't handle that abuse, they aren't strong enough.

As for you girls that aren't having a shower or bachlorette party, do what makes you and you FH happy. Maybe you could get togehter with some close friends for a bbq or little cocktail party kind of like a pre wedding celebration. Just put "your presence is your present" or something like that.

[CindySue]

Lacey, thats what Brian and I are doing......just a small get together with our friends.we kinda done the family thing when I got my engagement ring in my birthday cake, in front of his ENTIRE family.
There are a lot of people that think we should go "do our own thing", but thats not what we want to do. We actually enjoy spending time together, and have no desire "to get away".