Need another Usher!!!

[kevinsbride2B]

So Kev and I got engaged in June. Within 2 weeks I had my side of the bridal party picked out, a little early but whatever. So now it's time for us to plan a little meet and greet for the wedding party. I think it'll be nice plus they all wanted us to have an engagment party so I think this will work both ways.
Kevin still needs 1 more usher! I've been asking him since I picked my side and still he has no idea. This meet and greet is goign to be in January or maybe February as we're getting close and still missing one.
I've mentioned ideas for an usher to him and knowone is right according to him.
I really want it even on both sides. I know that it doesn't have to be but I would really like it that way.
Currently he is making me CRAZY not being able to decide. In fact the other day we were talking about it while we were at Dairy Queen (yes I go to Dairy queen even in the winter in Canada) and he told me that he had knowone.
I think I'm gonna have to arrange some nights out with my guy friends and try to set him up with someone lol. A play date of sorts!!! Have any of you been in this situation?

[WhiskeyGirl]

We were in a similar situation as one of our GM dropped out of the wedding party because he was going to be going to the RCMP college in Regina. So we thought long and hard and ended up filling his position with Matt's older brother. I'm sure someone will come along!! Just keep thinking about who you want to share your special day with the two of you!! Good luck!

[kevinsbride2B]

Thanks Shawna, Kevin is just being so pig headed! I mention someone he says "no". I'm gonna force him to make a decision soon. He told me I had too many on my side, well I'm not about to ask one of my friends not to be in my bridal party!

[ladymelissa]

Get a little tough on him, say something like, "you have 1 week to either ask someone or I will ask someone."

[BriansBride07]

Good advice Melissa this is what I had to do to get my FH to pick his side. It was like pulling teeth I hope it all works out for you best of luck.

[Jenn060306]

I'm sorry. But i think if he doesen't have anyone he wants to have stand up there with him then that should be ok. Personally i think it is important to have people who mean alot to you stand up with you when you get married.
My mom tried to force DH to pick someone eles to be a groomsmen, she kept suggesting my cousins who he barely knows and it only made him more fustrated and annoyed because he didn't want to have someone he wasn't close with.
Personally i think you should talk with Kevin and tell him how you feel about the sides of the bridal party being even, But if he really doesen't want to ask anyone eles you should accept that.
JMO. I don't mean to sound mean or rude.

[Kacie_bride]

I wanted mine even too. Justin took forever to pick his. As you know my wedding is next month and he didn't decide all of them until early fall. He finally decided when we did the tux order!!!

[nic1124]

I agree with Jenn. I was freakin out cuz mine wasnt gonna be even. Me having 1 more girl. I suggested so many people to kevin but he only wanted the 4 he picked. So I just decided when they walk back down the aisle 1 guy will have 2 girls, one on each side. I do think it's more important to have people you really care about and who care about you to be in the wedding than to just throw someone in to even it up. JMO. good luck with your decision.

[janeandreawong]

I have to agree with Nik. If he can't find another perfect person to be on his side, don't force him to do so. Maybe he doesn't want to do it just for the sake of doing it. Maybe this also means a lot to him, having someone he really care about standing for him.


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[Twigler]

I am actually having the problem that your Fiance is having, I cannot find someone to be the usher on my side of the family. I have a cousin who I could choose, but I am just not that close to him. Since "being even" doesn't really matter to me as far as ushers is concerned, I am going to let my fiance have two of his good friends be ushers. It would mean more to him anyways.

[November Bride]

Do you actually need another usher in order to seat people as they get to the reception, or are you short a groomsman? If you actually need an usher, look to the partners of your BMs and family members. I'm sure an uncle or someone could step in.