Feel like Romeo and Juliet!

[sabrina]

Hi everyone, my h2b and I have been together for nearly 1 and 1/2 and fell in love at first sight. We're both deeply in love, but have a major problem thats causing stress for both of us.

1) My family think he's "not a high enough class" for their only daughter. Ok, I'll be the first to admit my mum's a snob! but she's still my mum and I love her to bits.

2) Half his family think I had an afair with a male mate at work. Ok we're flirty, but so is h2b with girls at work. So anyways, they hate me.

3) The other half of his family that seem to like me drive me mad! What with they're constant swaering, burping, farting, crude comments etc. Now I'm not 'snobby' as such, but I draw a line at burping as loud as you can at the dinner table in people's faces! YUCK!!

My h2b is nothing like his family, infact I'm sure he's an intruder! :o but we're having to live with them at the moment due to money problem, plus we have a baby on the way that his whole family are practically desiding how to bring up! (Hello, our baby, get lost! we're the parents, we'll decide how he'she is brought up!) Righ down to saying "don't breast feed, you'll get sore nipples" surely thats up to me?

Arh! sorry to rant on, but its tearing our otherwise perfect relationship apart. I don't what to do, I really feel like I'm going to go mad! It not even 11am and his mum has already made me want to scream and shout!

[MOB Karen]

Congratulations on the baby, Sabrina! I'm sorry to hear about the family problems, you definitely don't need that right now. Living with his family must be really hard when you aren't getting along.

I guess I first have to ask if there is any way that you guys can move out on your own? If not, I think that maybe you guys can sit down and have a talk about everything. You know to try to clear the air and get everything out in the open, so that you're not letting everything brew. Who knows, maybe they are just waiting to clear the air with you too.

If you can't do that, is there any way that your Mom would let you and him live with her at least until you could get into a place of your own? Either way, I would suggest moving out of that house, because it doesn't sound like a good environment for you and the baby. I know you probably don't want to hear that right now, but you have to think about what's best for the baby right now. This must be really really tough on you, and I'm so sorry that you have to deal with it now. Good luck, Sabrina, with whatever you decide. :)

By the way, please go over to our "Baby Raising" website, and join over there. We would love to have you over there too. http://www.babyraising.com/forums/

[BriansBride07]

Congrats on your upcoming wedding and starting your own family. My suggestion to you is get out of that house ASAP. Take it from me I lived with my mom when I was pregant for both my children and we had a horrible relationship I even tried living with my FH's parents and that was even worse. I would do everything in your power to move. The relationship will get loads better. I'm sure of it. 2 families cannot live under the same roof and get along the stress is just going to get worse.

If the reason your living with his parents is b/c say you don't have a car then see if you can find a place near one of your relatives and have them pick you up.
As for your first place it doesn't have to be a palace just decent enough so there is no mold and or bugs. I wish you all the best.

[sabrina]

We found a flat and are meant to be moving in next week, but his mum is doing everything to stop us moving out. If it was just us we're sleep in our car!
Like you both said about the baby, thats all that matteres now, getting a place for bump! Its not a big place, its not really big enough, but it a roof. Afording it is another thing though. His mum keeps makingus spend our money. Either by refusing to let us eat 'cos she's sulking about something, so we have to go out and get food, or by saying she'll help and then changing her mind after we've relied on her for the help!
Its crazy, I could scream at her!!

My mum would let me stay at hime, but not Adam. And I don't want him to be over 100 miles away from him first baby. :( But if we don't raise £1000 in a week, we'll have no flat and I'll have to move back home alone. also, once I'm home, my mum will use all the emotional black mail in the world to stop me going back to Adam. (She hates him that much!)

[MOB Karen]

What a dilemma! That's just so sad! I hope everything works out for you, Sabrina, and you and Adam can happily live together with your baby! Good luck!!! :hug:

[ladymelissa]

I really hope you get the money you need for your own place. Good luck! :hug:

[hummingbird521]

Welcome to OW. Sorry to hear about your problems with mom and future IL"s. I agree with everyone else. The best way to handle it is to move out as soon as possible.

[sabrina]

everyone send goog vibes for us over the next 24 hours! we're hearing about a loan we applied for tomorrow. If we get it we've got the flat and will be jumping all over!

[hummingbird521]

Good vibes going your way from Arkansas. Wishing you the best.

[SaralovesMike]

This has to be the 3rd or 4th time I've seen that message, what the heck is that????

[shawnsgirl]

I think someone is trying to cast brides -to- be here and is spamming our forum!!!! I don't think it is appropiate, it may be my opinion but it is posted in like 4 different forums and the posts here the girls are putting there heart out. I don't think it's fair when people are seeking advice and support to be advertising something like this...It's just weird..Sorry for being so blunt and I don't sound to be mean here!

[WebLady]

I think someone is trying to cast brides -to- be here and is spamming our forum!!!! I don't think it is appropiate, it may be my opinion but it is posted in like 4 different forums and the posts here the girls are putting there heart out. I don't think it's fair when people are seeking advice and support to be advertising something like this...It's just weird..Sorry for being so blunt and I don't sound to be mean here!
Yeah it is spam, I am working on it ;)

[lea m]

Oh while Sabrinas thread is bumped up already, i thought id let you know, she did manage to get the money together (after her SIL let them down and someone hacked into her bank accounts) and she has moved into her new flat! She doesnt have an internet connection yet but shes working on it! the babys due soon! (feb) i just hope she back online before then!

[ladymelissa]

Well I am glad they got the flat! Best wishes to her in the last leg of the pregnancy! I hope she is able to get back soon!