I just gotta smile and take it

[kevinsbride2B]

I truly don't want to sit here and have you all think that I just coem on here to complain about my inlaws but I really don't have anywhere else to turn. So please forgive me for constantly boring you all with the drama in my life!
Kevin's parents called him tonight asking him to come up on December 4th for his fathers inaguration into city office. He just won for a city counsellor position in the little town they live in. Kev explained that I was having surgery that day. They still said "what does that have to do with you? your not having the surgery whay can't you come up?" I felt like **** again! But I figured whatever.
Kev found out that he won't be getting his Christmas time off anymore for the weeke to follow Christmas, so it kida sucks but we're making the best of it. So his parents said for him and Jamie to come up on the 15th. Kevin said, "ok I think we'll be able to make it, the 3 of us". They were a little taken back because they didn't realize they had invited me. They thought that they would be able to spend some family time with just Kevin and Jamie. But anyhoo, guess who gets to go up and spend all that QT with the inlaws. I wouldn't mind it, if they truthfully wanted me there, which apparently they don't.
I'm trying so hard. I'm going in for surgery and I'll still eb on bed rest when we're suppose to go up, but if I'm laying around I'll be considered "lazy". I don't know what to do. KEv really really really wants me there, and I know I should be there cause after all we're gonna be family in 10 months. Just a little extra stress that I just didn't need right now ya know?
And to top it off, that's the weekend after Kev moves in. I was really planning on making that the rest of our unpacking. I swear ladies I'm gonan go bald from pulling my hair out before this wedding.

[ladymelissa]

Boy, those FILs are wicked!

If you are not feeling up to the trip on the 15th then feel free to sit it out. Let Kevin and Jamie go and spend some time with them. You certainly have a good enough reason, no matter what they say. I would follow the doctor's orders, your health is of utmost importance.

[Valmai]

Its really not worth making ur self ill over is it - if ur not well enough then u cant go. You also wont be yourself so if there are anyproblems with ur FILs ur probably not going to be able to deal well with them, I dont know how id feel about FH going off and leaving me if i was ill but thats kinda up to u im not in your situation. BTW never worry about coming on here to sound off thats what we are here for ok! Tc and good luck with the op xxx

[BriansBride07]

Argh so sorry your FIL's are treating you like this. Sounds like they are the ones missing out on a wonderful girl not you missing out. At least you are trying. As for the operation I wish you all the best for a fast recovery.
As the other ladies have stated it's not really worth your health if your still not feeling up to par. You never know they may want everyone to go on a number of outing's that would put you in more pain. And really not worth the pain that it is going to cause you in the end. I would just have FH go by himself if your not up to it. I know that sounds horrible of me I hate if my FH has to leave town when im under the weather to but at times it has to happen. At least he stood up to his parents when it came to your operation, sounds like you have a keeper. That's great that he will be there for you during that. I wish you all the best. Don't feel bad for coming on her and boring us with your drama. I can only speak for myself. But your not boring me with it. It's better to get it out than to keep it in.

[hummingbird521]

They sound like a real piece of work those IL's. As everyone has said your health is the most important thing right now. So glad to know your FH is going to be there with you. As for the two of you going to visit, I myself wouldn't go there for anything. I do not like to go where not wanted and this would undoubtably cause you much stress that you don't need following surgery. If FH wanted to go then (if me) I would let him go. But only if someone were around to help take care of me. Maybe FH can use this time to drum it through their thick heads that you are going to be around for years to come.

[kevinsbride2B]

Thank you ladies so much for the support! Kev has taken off the week of my surgery to pack up his stuff as he's movign int he following weekend, and so that he can be there with me while others are at work. He and my Gramma are gonna take turns taking care of me.
Your right about the outings. With them living up in Ontario's cottage country, goign for a walk beside the beach isn't unusual, or going on snow mobiles as it is that time of the year up there adn they haev a ton of snow.
In the pas tI've gone up and kept my mouth shut, but this time not to much. I have DONE A LOT for the wedding, and I'm gonna show them just how much. That is if I go up at all. I may see if my neice wants to join us that weekend cause she's my little buddy and it would give me someone on my side lol. 12 years old are not she likes me! lol

[hummingbird521]

I may see if my neice wants to join us that weekend cause she's my little buddy and it would give me someone on my side lol. 12 years old are not she likes me! lol

Wouldn't doing this only make them more upset with you? If you weren't officially invited how do you think they will feel about you inviting someone? JMO

[kevinsbride2B]

Wouldn't doing this only make them more upset with you? If you weren't officially invited how do you think they will feel about you inviting someone? JMO
Oh no, sorry I didn't explain. It's their grandaughter. They want her to come up with us when she can cause she's stuck at home with 2 younger twin brothers and a very ill little brother and because of that her parents don't really get enough time to spend quality time with her.
No I would never just invite anyone up there. It's kevin's neice, but due to marriage or soon to be, she's mine now too.

[hummingbird521]

Oh no, sorry I didn't explain. It's their grandaughter. They want her to come up with us when she can cause she's stuck at home with 2 younger twin brothers and a very ill little brother and because of that her parents don't really get enough time to spend quality time with her.
No I would never just invite anyone up there. It's kevin's neice, but due to marriage or soon to be, she's mine now too.

Ok, then that is a whole different ballgame. Thanks for clearing that up for me. makes a big difference then. lol