Who is walking you down the aisle?

[SpringBride]

Who is walking you down the aisle?

My father passed away six years ago, when I was just graduating high school. I never really thought of my stepfather walking me down the aisle, so I'm considering walking alone. I've been independent since I was 18, and I don't really feel right being "given away" by anyone other than my real father.

On the other side of the argument, my stepfather has two daughters, and one of them eloped, and one of them had HER stepfather walk her. So he's never gotten a chance to walk anyone down the aisle, so I feel like it would be the nice thing to do.

I thought about having my mom and stepdad walk me, but I want her to walk down the aisle with my fiance's mother to light the unity candle.

What do you think?

[LaceyinPgh]

I think that you should do what makes you comfortable. If you never envisioned your stepfather, than don't feel obligated to have him do it just because neither of his daughters had him walk down the aisle. If you want Mom to do it, have mom walk you down. She can light the canlde then answer the "who blesses this union" question.

My father is walking me down the aisle because i can't imagine anyone else doing it. If he couldn't or wouldn't then I would hae my mother do it or go solo. He is isn't giving you away. He is showing what a happy and proud father he is and giving you the first support that you will need from all of your family in your marriage.

[CarlosHoney]

I'm torn on this as well. It's a very personal decision, and it's something that you will have to think about. Honestly, you will know deep down in your heart what is right. Either way, your father can be honored at your wedding.

Good luck!

[bnd94]

I am having my dad walk me down, but if he couldn't I would have my Mom. I think it would be a nice gesture to have your stepdad do it if you two get along real well. But of course it is up to you. I would just be nervous all by myself.

[rainbowtreat]

This is my second wedding, the first one I had my real dad and my step-dad walk me down the aisle. It was not possible to have them both walk me at the same time so one walked me half way to the other and he took me the rest of the way with the other walking behind us. They both stood and gave me away.

This time though, now that things have changed in my life i am having my mom give me away. I should have had her the first time but i was so yound and so into doint the whole tradional wedding thing. This time i am older and i know what i am doing now in my life and I want the one person who has always been there for me no matter what. With all I have been through my mom has always backed me in any choices i made. She is the one that should do it.

Rainbow treat

[CindySue]

Im kinda stuck here as well, although I am trying to plan my wedding so no one has to "walk me down the aisle". Ive done the eloping thing before and this is my first wedding. I kinda toyed with the idea of having my dad walk me, but because about 2 months into my relationship with my FH we realized he grew up with my half-brothers and was ones childhood best friend (they lived several hours from me growing up and the guys all lost contact when my brothers moved to where I lived with our dad......long story...deserves its own thread!), I even thought it might be appropriate for my "big brothers" to walk me down the aisle. The only thing with that is my FH wants one or both of them as groomsmen. How would we work that?
I mean either way, my brothers would be apart of my wedding. I dont think it matters to my dad either way what happens?

[LaceyinPgh]

Im kinda stuck here as well, although I am trying to plan my wedding so no one has to "walk me down the aisle". Ive done the eloping thing before and this is my first wedding. I kinda toyed with the idea of having my dad walk me, but because about 2 months into my relationship with my FH we realized he grew up with my half-brothers and was ones childhood best friend (they lived several hours from me growing up and the guys all lost contact when my brothers moved to where I lived with our dad......long story...deserves its own thread!), I even thought it might be appropriate for my "big brothers" to walk me down the aisle. The only thing with that is my FH wants one or both of them as groomsmen. How would we work that?
I mean either way, my brothers would be apart of my wedding. I dont think it matters to my dad either way what happens?

First of all, talk with your dad and see what he thinks. Maybe he won't care or maybe he really wants to but doesn't want to "butt in" to your planning. Are the two of you close enough that you want him to walk you down the aisle?

If you still want your brothers, they can walk you down the aisle, then take their place at the alter after the "Who supports this marriage" question.

[usahgrad]

My father passed away almost twenty years ago, when I was a little girl. My mother raised both me and my sister basically by herself, so I think it's only fitting that she give me away. There was no question in my mind; I think she deserves it.