Taking his name or not?

[SaralovesMike]

Just curious, did you take or do you plan on taking your husband's last name when you are married?

Why or Why not?

[SaralovesMike]

I am, call me old fashioned!

My new last name will be Sinclair, better and easier to say/spell! :)

[shawnsgirl]

I am mostly because I believe in more ways than one when you are married two are becoming one so why not take his name as yours. That's me and my way of thinking...

[Summerbmd]

I am taking his name, mainly because he probably wouldn't marry me if I didn't. J/K, but his name does mean a lot to him and it is important to him so I never thought twice about it!

[brewsells]

I already did, so I guess the answer would be yes.

[WebLady]

I took DH's last name after we were married. I just wanted to.

But I did want to somehow keep my family name, mostly for my father, but I didn't want a long hyphenated last name. So I just dropped my middle name and now I use my maiden name in it's place. It worked out well for me.

[mariaandmanish]

I did, though we talked about it for a while before the decision was made. If I had stayed at the same school that I was working at before we got married, I would have kep tmy maiden name there. But, since I completely changed positions as well, I changed to my married name everywhere. It's harder now than it was for people to pronounce, but it's not too different from my maiden name that I don't answer to it.

[hummingbird521]

Took his and wouldn't have it any other way.

[SerendipityCrafts]

I would have if I could have.

In all other provinces, you have the choice to keep your madien name or take your married name but in Quebec, you can't take your husband's name. Period.

I can use his name socially and I can even open a bank account under my married name but I can't file taxes, change my drivers licence or even be admitted to a hospital under my married name.

When we move out of this outrageous province, I will be able to use his name and I will do so happily!

[hummingbird521]

I would have if I could have.

In all other provinces, you have the choice to keep your madien name or take your married name but in Quebec, you can't take your husband's name. Period.

I can use his name socially and I can even open a bank account under my married name but I can't file taxes, change my drivers licence or even be admitted to a hospital under my married name.

When we move out of this outrageous province, I will be able to use his name and I will do so happily!

I did not know about this. I assumed all places that it was your choice as to take his name or not.

[WebLady]

I would have if I could have.

In all other provinces, you have the choice to keep your madien name or take your married name but in Quebec, you can't take your husband's name. Period.
Wow, that is weird ... I'd be curious to know why this is :huh:

[brewsells]

I have never heard about that either. Why do you think they do that?

[BriansBride07]

WOW what a strange law. Hurry move quick as you can LOL just kidding.

I plan on taking my FH last name. I just like it to be that way, I really never understood why some people marry and then keep there same name. Unless well you are like poor Elizabeth and have no choice.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Wow, that is weird ... I'd be curious to know why this is :huh:

I heard that originally it had something to do with protecting children born out of wedlock but as far as I am concerned it's simply another decision that the Quebec government has taken away from me.

Interestingly enough, it doesn't stop you from applying for credit under your married name. I have heard of several women that have got credit under their married name, their maiden name & their middle name plus their married or maiden name. What a mess.

This is what I found -

In the province of Quebec, as of 1981, married women are no longer allowed to change their names in marriage, in order that they may continue to exercise their political and civil rights as legal individuals under their birth name.

A name change is simply not legally allowed. As such, it actually results in the equal protection and benefit of the law for married women, as compared with the framework of 'choice'. Legal name changes can still be sought if there is a pressing reason, but marriage, nor any other contract (buying a house, leasing a car), is seen as a a pressing reason.

[Panthers Bride]

I'm planning on it. More because when we have kids it'll be easier if both parents have the same last name. Also, we'll be living in a small mountain town, and I don't want to shock any of the people. I plan on doing what Brandi did and make my maiden name my last name. One thing I will never be, or answer to however, is Mrs. Mark Whatever. I am NOT some appendage, but my own person. That tradition just irks me.

[Kacie_bride]

I am taking Justin's last name. I just want to. I am going to use my maiden name as my middle name. I thought about a hyphenated name, but that would be too long!

[hummingbird521]

I wish someone would explain to me why after a divorce the ex would still continue and keep her old name and not take back her maiden name. My DH ex still uses his name and now that she has remarried she only hyphenated her new name on. I hate it.

[WebLady]

I wish someone would explain to me why after a divorce the ex would still continue and keep her old name and not take back her maiden name. My DH ex still uses his name and now that she has remarried she only hyphenated her new name on. I hate it.
I kept my ex's name until DH and I got married, but I sort of had to. It is sort of a long story, but my divorce lawyer didn't fully explain things to me from the start ... I didn't change my name right away and by the time I cleared things up and wanted to, I couldn't. Well at least not without a bunch of hassel and likely more money too, so I just didn't bother.

[SerendipityCrafts]

LOL guess that is one good thing about living here after all. Because I could only use my ex's name socially, I just switched back to using my maiden name. Visa still hasn't changed the hyphenated name on my credit card though.

I love it when solicitors call and ask for Mrs. Ex - sorry wrong number! Nope, no Mr. Ex here either.

[Panthers Bride]

I wish someone would explain to me why after a divorce the ex would still continue and keep her old name and not take back her maiden name. My DH ex still uses his name and now that she has remarried she only hyphenated her new name on. I hate it.

It might be so she shares the same (somewhat) name of her kids? One of my best friends is divorced and she kept her ex's last name for that reason.

[nic1124]

I plan on taking Kevins last name.

[jeni740]

My last name gets butchered horribly, FH's is even worse I think it is great to have his last name then we can get butchered together:) JK, I am very proud to take his last name.

[4424]

i haven't decided. for me my MD and license is under my maiden name so i'm not sure what i want to do. i may use my FH's last name socially and keep mine professionally or go through the process of changing my medical license, etc. i don't think that's easy though but i have to look into it still!

p.s. i had no idea about that fact in quebec!!

[kevinsbride2B]

I will be changing my name. currently my last name is Innes and I will be changing it to Tomlinson.
The first reason is that I'm old fashioned that way. The second is that I lost my biological fathers name when i was about 8 because of some serious issues with him. Then my Mom remarried and my step dad adopted me and I changed my name to his last name which I have now. So realistically the last name of Innes really doesn't hold anything for me aside from my distant and strained relationship with my step dad.

[Trin]

I plan on taking his name

[Valmai]

Elizabeth what name do any children of the marriage then take - their mothers or their fathers??
I am definately taking Jamies name ive been stuck with this one for 40 odd years and am looking fwd to the change!! xxx

[SerendipityCrafts]

Elizabeth what name do any children of the marriage then take - their mothers or their fathers??

For that we had the choice (just like every other province does as well). They could have had mine, his or a combo of the two. We chose to give them his last name. My daughter's middle name is Elizabeth and my son's middle name is my maiden name.

I am the only one that couldn't take his last name.

[SaralovesMike]

I wish someone would explain to me why after a divorce the ex would still continue and keep her old name and not take back her maiden name. My DH ex still uses his name and now that she has remarried she only hyphenated her new name on. I hate it.

I never got that either. I did know someone that kept her ex husbands name. Her reasoning was she didn't want to have a different last name than her son. I guess that makes sense. When she got remarried she hyphenated her exes last name with her new married one.
I lost touch with her so I wonder how long it took her to drop the hyphenated name and just keep her current husband's name.

[Kacie_bride]

I wish someone would explain to me why after a divorce the ex would still continue and keep her old name and not take back her maiden name. My DH ex still uses his name and now that she has remarried she only hyphenated her new name on. I hate it.

My aunt kept her married name after her divorce because she wanted to have the same last name of her children. However when she remarried she took her new husband's last name. Both of my cousins were grown and out of the house by the time she married again. I don't know what she would have done if they were still young children.

[mariaandmanish]

When my parents got divorced, my mother kept her married name. She did it for 2 reasons. One, cause to change it would be another hassle like changing it the first time. But most importantly, she wanted to have the same last name as we (the kids) had. My father remarried, and I honestly never asked my stepmother if it bothers(ed) her that my mom has the same last name.

[Goin2thechapel]

My last name is changing on Saturday (Totally understand you all being sick of hearing this, but I'm excited) to Mrs. DeSousa!!!!


YAY!!!

[HalloweenBride]

I am going to be hypenating my name. I'm not in love with his name, and I'm afraid that people won't be able to find me for my work if I take his. I also don't want to give up my middle name, because it's special to my mom.

[kevinsbride2B]

I wish someone would explain to me why after a divorce the ex would still continue and keep her old name and not take back her maiden name. My DH ex still uses his name and now that she has remarried she only hyphenated her new name on. I hate it.
I know that when my Mom got divorced the first time she changed her name back to her maiden name. Then she remarried and hyphenated it to Green-Innes. When she divorced my step dad she had a really hard time trying to get ehr name changed again. She figured that she would just wait it out because of me. Whenever we would go somewhere when I had my biological fathers last name and had her Green-Innes she was given a really hard tiome about who she was to me especially at the border. So the day that I get my name changed to Tomlinson she's coming too and having her name changed back to just Green.
I know from having experiwence with ehr and I that when you change your name a couple of tiems they don't overly like it here, and can refuse it.

[Craigs_Girl]

As funny as my first name and his last name will sound together (probably cause I've used my maiden name for 24 years now) I am taking FH's last name. I wouldn't want it any other way and it just makes sense to do so.

[cowboysbride]

I couldn't wait to be Mrs. Vinson....Eric takes great pride in his last name...

[JennF]

I wobbled back and forth on this...since I'm in my 30's and have never been married before I feel like I established myself with my maiden name. (Plus the whole name change thing seemed like it'd be hugely inconvenient.) So I was only about 80% certain that I wanted to change my name.

The wedding changed that. There's just something about being married after all these years that does feel a little different. And now I really want us to share the same last name. And that's the point I think. I don't feel like I'm taking his last name...I feel like we're sharing it.

Now I can't wait to have all of the paperwork finished. Since we were travelling overseas, I kept using my maiden name because of my passport. Now that we're back, I feel like I can't really start using my new name until I change it at work...and I feel like I can't do that until I change my driver's license and SS card. So I'm going to bite the bullet and get it all done today. I want to be Jenn W!

[LizabethDavis]

I took Pat's last name. I am very proud of my maiden name and my children still (for now) carry my maiden name, but I couldn't see any reason to keep my last name. Both of my children will be having their last names changed.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I took my DH's name. I thought it was disrespectful not to...if he was good enough to marry, his name was sure as hell good enough to take. Besides, my maiden name was a basterdized German last name and Matt's came straight from Germany eight years ago so there was no way I wasn't going to take his name. Besides I love hearing Mrs.******. It's wonderful!

[lea m]

I'll be proud to take joes surname of Mottershead! i'll be a little said as i'm the last in line as a Monaghan ( unless my dad has more??!?) but joe will be my husband and hes my family now so i'll happily take his family name!!

[ladymelissa]

I kept my name. I feel my name defines me, I have established myself with my name for quite some time and I am just as proud of mine as he is his.

[Jenn060306]

I took DH's name when we got married. I couldn't imagine not.
I feel more connected to him and like we are a bit more of a family.

[TheNewMissus]

I'm still debating if I want to take his name. I've just established myself professionally, so I doubt I would want to change my name at work. Is it really hard to juggle two different names? One socially/one professionally? Which one should be my legal name? So many questions!

[WebLady]

I'm still debating if I want to take his name. I've just established myself professionally, so I doubt I would want to change my name at work. Is it really hard to juggle two different names? One socially/one professionally? Which one should be my legal name? So many questions!
I think it you have established a career name for yourself then you might should keep that name, at least at work. If you want to take your husbands name in other areas, I don't see that as a problem.

When I got divorced and couldn't change my name when I wanted to (long story) I still used my maiden name socially.

Now that I am married, I love being Mrs. EECIV :wub: I am happy to share DH's last name.

As I said before, I now use my maiden name as mhy middle name, but I never really cared much for my given middle name so ... but my mom wasn't happy I dropped it :whyme: oh well, I am happy and that is all that matters ;)

[mj512]

I will be taking Matthew's last name, BUT his last name is Fry and I have always had a very even name My first name has 8 letters middle has 5 and last has 7, now my name will have 8-5-3 lol

I know that sounds stupid, but it is going to bother me at first! I like my last name, and it connects me a lot to my english background (Spencer is my last name) BUT its okay I am excited to share my last name with Matthew. I thought about giving myself two middle names, but I don't know... can you do that? I know people who have two last names hmm I wonder...

[ladymelissa]

I will be taking Matthew's last name, BUT his last name is Fry and I have always had a very even name My first name has 8 letters middle has 5 and last has 7, now my name will have 8-5-3 lol

I know that sounds stupid, but it is going to bother me at first! I like my last name, and it connects me a lot to my english background (Spencer is my last name) BUT its okay I am excited to share my last name with Matthew. I thought about giving myself two middle names, but I don't know... can you do that? I know people who have two last names hmm I wonder...
I don't see why you can't have 2 middle names, you can do just about anything you want. Some even drop their first name and use an initial, like H. Ross Perot. You could always hypenate your last name and be Spencer-Fry.

[GrantsBride2B]

i am definatly taking Grants last name it means so much its an honor for a man to offer that to a woman its means you are truly connected in more ways than one JMO i truly think that having the last name symbolizes a true union between the 2 parties....call me old fashioned... JMO!

[lea m]

You could always hypenate your last name and be Spencer-Fry.

I like that, Spencer-Fry, i'd go with that!!