I don't have to live with him but I can't shoot him either ... *vent*

[SerendipityCrafts]

Brother in laws!!!!

Some may remember how DH & I were planning to rent a ski chalet so that our families could get together in one central place for Christmas. Well that idea has been shot to h3ll.

DH mentioned the chalet idea to his brother last week. His brother didn't think that Mom & Dad would be well enough to travel so he suggested that we all go visit them instead. So ...... we nixed the ski chalet idea & figured out our schedules so that we could go to Mom & Dad's.

Then we get an email from BIL on Sunday. He says NOW that Mom & Dad are well enough to travel and that they are "thinking" about taking the train to BIL's & stopping on the way to visit with DH & I.

Well ... everything changed again with today's email. BIL has gone ahead and bought the train tickets for Mom & Dad. They will be spending Christmas with BIL and family. They won't be stopping to see us and if we want to see them, we will have to figure out our schedules, my children's schedules and DH's children's schedules and get everyone to BIL's.

So I guess we won't be getting together! I am so ticked. Looks like we will be doing Christmas solo. Anyone else got any alternate Christmas ideas for us?

[ladymelissa]

Why do you go through your BIL to make plans with the parents? Can't you just talk to mom and dad directly and maybe work something out?

As far as other plans, is there anyone on your side you could invite over or go visit? Or just have a nice relaxing Christmas at home, then there is always a cruise or other vacation you could take. I am sure you will enjoy yourself no matter what. :)

[SerendipityCrafts]

We don't have to go through BIL.

DH's parents couldn’t make our wedding because Dad needed an operation but they said that they wanted to get together when Dad was well enough to travel. Their idea was that we would all meet up in Montreal – Hugh’s brother & family & us.

So we started to make plans. We consulted BIL only because he was to be included in the plans & we thought he might have an opinion re: where we were all going to be staying. The next thing we know, he's buying the parents train tickets and changing all the plans.

Argggh!

[hummingbird521]

OH Elizabeth I know how angry and dissappointed you are as you have been wanting to do this for some time. so sorry about it. Would it be possible for your family to rent a cabin close to your BIL's and have mom and dad come there? you could still have some time with them and time with your family as well. Although if I were you I don't think i would invite the BIL. lol

[BriansBride07]

I agree with Tresia that maybe you could find a place close to your BIL and then spend the time with everyone if that doesn't work then maybe you could just make it for another time in the year. So sorry that you have to go through this. Sounds like your BIL is being selfish with your inlaws and just wants them to spend christmas with his family and if it doesn't go his way he will find a way they will come to him.

[BriansBride07]

sorry double posted.

[SerendipityCrafts]

OH Elizabeth I know how angry and dissappointed you are as you have been wanting to do this for some time. so sorry about it. Would it be possible for your family to rent a cabin close to your BIL's and have mom and dad come there? you could still have some time with them and time with your family as well. Although if I were you I don't think i would invite the BIL. lol

We could do that except that the challenge is still trying to figure out how to get everyone there. You see we live in between the two provinces that our kids live in. It's going to be near impossible to get his kids to a cabin close to BIL's. DH's kids work retail & they are in school FT so they do want to nab every bit of $$$$$$$$ they can, while they can (which is understandable). It's 17 hours for them to travel to BIL/their uncles. My daughter is in the same boat & my son has hockey games during the Christmas holidays.

f-it - we'll go rent a cabin by ourselves :)

[ladymelissa]

f-it - we'll go rent a cabin by ourselves :)

Now that sounds very romantic. ;)

[SerendipityCrafts]

DH agrees :) We are thinking that this is exactly what we will do.

[hummingbird521]

f-it - we'll go rent a cabin by ourselves :)

What a special memorable first christmas together. That sounds like a plan to me. :)

[Valmai]

Jamie and i are renting a farm cottage out int he wilds by ourselves - his mother wasnt too impressed last year when we did it. Our families both live close compared to urs (about 20mins max) but i dont like traipsing about the place to 'share ourselves' between families - this way we get to totally relax and just b completely by ourselves and it was/is wonderful! Go for it u'll have a great time! x

[SerendipityCrafts]

Jamie and i are renting a farm cottage out int he wilds by ourselves - his mother wasnt too impressed last year when we did it. Our families both live close compared to urs (about 20mins max) but i dont like traipsing about the place to 'share ourselves' between families - this way we get to totally relax and just b completely by ourselves and it was/is wonderful! Go for it u'll have a great time! x

Looking into last minute vacations now too. If we make enough $$$ at our upcoming craft show (to cover the bills, the presents and have some left over), we might just get away to someplace warm over Christmas. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh that would be so nice. Wishful thinking at this point but who knows!

[Jenn060306]

Renting a cabin sounds wonderful!
Invite your family to come for a visit in the new year.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Gotta love BILs. Mine always takes my FIL and MIL to expensive places that we can't afford because they know we won't be able to go. We have missed 6 birthdays because my BIL is a jerk when it comes to that!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Gotta love BILs. Mine always takes my FIL and MIL to expensive places that we can't afford because they know we won't be able to go. We have missed 6 birthdays because my BIL is a jerk when it comes to that!

My BIL is not hurting either. Great for him I guess.

[WhiskeyGirl]

My BIL is not hurting either. Great for him I guess.

Yeah owning and driving a mercedes is real easy for them too! And taking 7 holidays a year and yeah....

[SerendipityCrafts]

Yeah owning and driving a mercedes is real easy for them too! And taking 7 holidays a year and yeah....

I hear ya. Ahhhhhhhhhh look at it this way,are a happier person without so much $$$$$$$ to worry about. :)

[WhiskeyGirl]

I hear ya. Ahhhhhhhhhh look at it this way,are a happier person without so much $$$$$$$ to worry about. :)

lol yeah! I don't really care because I look at their relationship and see him avoiding her and she just goes shopping ot buy herself happiness and I think what kind of a marriage is that???