Hi, New and stressed

[max'sonlyone]

Hello everyone, I've been floating around this site for awhile now, and have finally signed up to be able to post. My name is Coreena, my FH, Max, and I are getting married in February, a mere four months away. So far we have our venue, our officiant, our wedding planner and are currently looking at djs. We are working on our invitations this weekend. Anyway, with our wedding being so close and having so little done it has been extremely stressful for me. We are on a semi tight budget, no more then 5,000, as we are paying for everything by ourself. I am looking into DIY projects to help cut down the costs and am loving everything I have seen on this board so far. Our colors are red and blue, but I don't want an "american" feel to the wedding. I just love those colors together. Anyway, just a quick introduction of myself, I'm happy to be here. Congrats to all the ladies who have recently, or not so recently, tied the knot and here's hoping the best for everyone who still has that step to go! :cheers:

[MOB Karen]

Hi Coreena!!! Congratulations on your engagement, and welcome to Onewed!!! Your baby is just precious!!! :)

[max'sonlyone]

Thank you! I love AZ btw, I used to go there as a kid to see my great aunt and uncle. Anyway, :bbredface: I guess I should of said something about her, she's my niece, but she's my world! She's even cuter now and is a little over 2 months so she's smiling and all that! I'll tell her you said she's precious though, she's a real princess and loves hearing those things! Thanks again for the welcome and the congrats!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Welcome and congrats to you and Max!

[SaralovesMike]

Hi Coreena! Welcome to Onewed and many congratulations.

[Jacklynn]

Congrats on getting married! Welcome to OneWed, I hope we can help you to not be too stressed :)

[countrygirl]

Hey Coreena, Congrats, and welcome to the board. You will find alot of help here!!!

[max'sonlyone]

Thank you everyone for your welcome! I never knew a board could be so friendly! My day is looking so much brighter already.

[countrygirl]

This is the best board if I do say so myself. We are one big fam here. We are happy to have you here w us. Cute baby pic too!!!

[Kacie_bride]

Hi Coreena! Welcome to onewed or should I say welcome to the forum!!! I'm sorry you're stressed! I'm stressed too!!!! I hope we can help you out!!! Congrats on your upcoming wedding!

[max'sonlyone]

I have a question with the mention of family. Our family's are on the um...how to put this, our family's don't get along within themselves. Both of them. Ok, well, with this being said, Max's dad, stepmom, little brother, older brother, SIL and niece are refusing to come to our wedding. they want to have our own little party after the wedding down there. They say it's so that they don't start anything at our wedding since it's my day and that's all that should matter, but I want them there. His little brother was going to be the RB, his niece the FG and his older brother the BM, but now with them refusing to come it's put a snag in the planning. The rest of the family is torn up because they should be there too, and I was just wondering if there is anyway that I could convince them to come anyway? I am going to send them invitations, I was wondering if I should stick little personalized notes in theirs telling them how much it would mean to me if they come and so on, but I'm not sure how to word it or how to talk them in to being there. I know it's up to them, but they shouldn't miss out because they are scared of the rest of the family, should they? I'm sorry if this is confusing, I know it is, I just got thrown into this a year ago and miss my chaotic family life compared. Thank you for any help

[countrygirl]

IMO, they should know how much you want them there. You shouldn't have to beg them to come. If they can't undertand that it's an important, then maybe they shouldnt be there. They should be big enough to not want to start anything, and saying that they aren't coming so that they don't start anything is not being very big people.

I'm sorry, I sound like a nasty you know what right now, don't I? I don't mean anything against your family in any way. I have dealt w alot in my planning, and come to realize that even though fam say 'it's your wedding, plan it your way', they don't actually mean it. But the truth is, you have to plan it your way, because in the end, it IS your day, and you can't let anyone ruin it.

Good luck, and honestly, I really am not a nasty person, but I think my statement may have come across that way.

[BriansBride07]

Congrats on your engagement and your upcoming wedding. And welcome to onewed. So sorry you are so stressed and we are all hear for you.
As for the family I would send them an invite with some wording in it to the effect that it wouldn't be the same w/out them and that they really need to set aside their differences with each other just for the one day. There really is no reason why that many people can't be in the same room and act like adults. best of luck to you. Also I would let the other side of the family know this as well and all you can do is hope for the best. Hopefully they can set aside there differences for one day for you and your FH.

[max'sonlyone]

Oh no, you didn't sound nasty! Those are my thoughts as well, but I want them there for my FH, he's had a hard past with them, and now things are going right, I'm afraid he'll take it bad if they aren't there for us. My side of the family knows about it, and if they do go and anything happens, they are prepared. I told them all I want is a whistle and I'll ref. the fight! LOL! Max's other family is all broken up about this, his mom is even going to her sons house, she hasn't talked to him in two years, to try and talk him into coming. If nothing else I'm going to see if the ones we asked to be in the wedding will still be in it, his dad doesn't have to go if he doesn't want to. There is a lot of racial conflicts in the family, his stepmom being from germany and his sil being from Mexico, there are a lot of racial demeaning comments made. I'm cherokee, so I'm just waiting for the comments about that to come flying, but idc anymore, I'm not marrying him for his family! Thanks girls, I'll give it a whirl and keep you all up to date!

[ladymelissa]

Hello and welcome! I can't wait to see more of your ideas!

About the family issues, all you can do is ask them to please consider putting their differences aside for a few hours and be there for you and Max. Ultimately, if they refuse it is their loss, your day will still be glorious. Best wishes!

[max'sonlyone]

Thank you Mellisa, and btw, i was cruising the wedding pictures, and you looked stunning on your big day! I love your dress and am probly going to try one on now that's like that! I don't think it would do quite the same thing for me though since I'm short...but we'll see. No telling until it's on!

[countrygirl]

Thanks for not being offended. I really do hope that all works out, and you never know, as it gets closer, they may soften up a bit. Weddings do strange things to people.

What day in Feb will you be getting married?

[max'sonlyone]

I forgot to say huh!?! Opps, it's Saturday the 24th. We're having a small wedding, no more then 70 people in an art museum here in town that is a gorgeous colonial style building! I'm so excited I can't wait, and the excitment far outshines the stress!

[countrygirl]

I forgot to say huh!?! Opps, it's Saturday the 24th. We're having a small wedding, no more then 70 people in an art museum here in town that is a gorgeous colonial style building! I'm so excited I can't wait, and the excitment far outshines the stress!

Well congrats again. I only asked because my Bday is in Feb, and that was the day that Josh proposed to me. I am happy for you. Smaller wedding are easier to plan for too. We are up to about 100 people, and that seems so big for me, but alot are small children, so that helps.

[max'sonlyone]

Yeah it's nice planning for the smaller wedding! That's so sweet that he proposed on your B-day! I got woken up to get proposed to! I just remember what he said and falling back to sleep! Lol! I like my sleep!

[BriansBride07]

Yeah it's nice planning for the smaller wedding! That's so sweet that he proposed on your B-day! I got woken up to get proposed to! I just remember what he said and falling back to sleep! Lol! I like my sleep!

LMAO that's funny I like my sleep to but when I got proposed to when I was finished crying I called everyone I knew. How could you wait. LOL

[countrygirl]

Yeah it's nice planning for the smaller wedding! That's so sweet that he proposed on your B-day! I got woken up to get proposed to! I just remember what he said and falling back to sleep! Lol! I like my sleep!

It was neat. I wanted to be married by the time I was 30. I was 28 when we met, and he was going thru a divorce at that time. He waited to make sure he was ready again, and thought that since he couldn't marry me before I was 30, then he would propose, and we would marry when I was still 30. Works for me!!!!

I love my sleep too. When he left for work the other day, I didn't even realize he kissed me before leaving. I nearly chewed him out for it!!:icon_barbar: Apparently, I was wrong. That is what he gets for interupting my sleep!!

[max'sonlyone]

ROFL! I know it, I was sooo happy in the morning after I'd slept. I'm not one of those that doesn't like to be woken up, I just can't wake up, I'll hold conversations in my sleep instead of waking up, and you gotta know the truth always comes out that way! LOL! I do that to, get mad for something he didn't do, but he did do it, I was just passed out in bed, lol! That's cute that he made your dream come true the best he could!

[countrygirl]

I waited till the next day to tell anyone. My mom, dad, son, and (former) BF were in the room. I think every dog in the area was howling from my mom's screams. The neighbors prob thought there was an earthquake from her stopping too!!

[max'sonlyone]

Our family's weren't thrilled. I think I waited three weeks to tell my mom, my twin sister knew, but my mom didn't. The first word out of his mom's mouth was, "Why?" I was soooo mad at her about that, why do you think? My mom just kinda looked shocked and nodded her head, my stepdad asked if we were asking their permission to buy rings (he's the comedian of the family) and my dad had to wait a couple months before he knew and he tried to play the fatherly role, "I'm gonna have a talk with him..." um...hello? To late dad.....:snide: weird family, gotta love them though!

[countrygirl]

Our family's weren't thrilled. I think I waited three weeks to tell my mom, my twin sister knew, but my mom didn't. The first word out of his mom's mouth was, "Why?" I was soooo mad at her about that, why do you think? My mom just kinda looked shocked and nodded her head, my stepdad asked if we were asking their permission to buy rings (he's the comedian of the family) and my dad had to wait a couple months before he knew and he tried to play the fatherly role, "I'm gonna have a talk with him..." um...hello? To late dad.....:snide: weird family, gotta love them though!

Well, my dad's fam doesn't know. We don't talk to him anymore. He doesn't even know about my sister's twins that were born last year, or that she is preg again.

[max'sonlyone]

AWWW twins! I love twin babies, and congrats on becoming a i mean aunt not niece again, it is by far my favorite role in this life, besides the future wife of my one and only. yeah, my dad's family isn't invited to the wedding, just he is, and I'm questioning if I should invite him. My father-daughter dance is with my real dad, my stepdad, he's the one who taught me everything and helped me be who I am today. I'm gonna have it the country song he didn't have to be. I'm gonna cry my eyes out, but it's the one that fits.

[countrygirl]

AWWW twins! I love twin babies, and congrats on becoming a niece again, it is by far my favorite role in this life, besides the future wife of my one and only. yeah, my dad's family isn't invited to the wedding, just he is, and I'm questioning if I should invite him. My father-daughter dance is with my real dad, my stepdad, he's the one who taught me everything and helped me be who I am today. I'm gonna have it the country song he didn't have to be. I'm gonna cry my eyes out, but it's the one that fits.

I will be doing the father/daughter dance w my step dad as well. But it it will most likely be w both he and my mom. They chose the song, it's "Isn't she lovely" by Stevie Wonder. My mom dedicated that song to me when I was born.

[max'sonlyone]

Oh that's so sweet! I love that song! You'll have to tell us all the details after your big day, and share all the pictures too!

[countrygirl]

Well you are very welcome here!! Glad you feel that way!!

[max'sonlyone]

I started a topic under the dress section. There's a link to the dress I'm trying on, and hopefully getting, this weekend if anyone would like to see it!

[nic1124]

Hello. I hope everything works out with your family for the wedding. I am also having my reception in an art museum! I can't wait to hear more of your plans :)

[Panthers Bride]

Welcome Coreena. Can't wait to hear more of your plans.

[Mrs.B_08]

Welcome to Onewed!!! I am sure all the girls here will lend you an ear when you need to let stress out. Hope everything with the family situation works out.