Non-wedding related vent

[70707Bride]

I have a friend who was supposed to be engaged. She was living with her fiance. They got in an argument a week or two ago and ever since then, he's been a complete jerk to her! I don't even know what started it. Then she told him that she was pregnant and it was his. He doesn't believe it and refuses to take care of it if it is. He wants her to have an abortion. She's maybe a month along at the most.

She said she's so confused because she loves him, and he's trying to make her pay for the rent even though he always paid for it and she paid for everything else. He wants to take her to small claims court. Also, his mom completely turned against her and said that she wants to try to get custody of the baby because she thinks she's "white trash" (which she isn't).

He basically just kicked her outta the apartment, changed the locks, and says that the stuff she wants to come back and get isn't there. So now she's back at home, dropped outta college, and is confused out of her mind!

[ladymelissa]

Well she is the one that should be suing him! First for her stuff and then for child support! I will keep her in my thoughts, that is terrible!

It would be highly doubtful that his mom would end up with custody of her baby, so tell her not to worry about that. Your friend would have to be excessively unfit, his mom would have to pay thousands in court costs and lawyer fees and they usually keep children with the mother unless she is extremely harmful to them.

[70707Bride]

Oh I forgot to add this:

When they were arguing, he punched her in the stomach about 5 times because he didn't believe that she's pregnant. She said she never had sex with anyone besides him. Then she told me today that he asked her if she was pregnant all year and that's why she's fat. (she's not fat anyway).

[ladymelissa]

Oh I forgot to add this:

When they were arguing, he punched her in the stomach about 5 times because he didn't believe that she's pregnant. She said she never had sex with anyone besides him. Then she told me today that he asked her if she was pregnant all year and that's why she's fat. (she's not fat anyway).
That is terrible! She is honestly better off without him! Can she press assult charges?

[70707Bride]

That is terrible! She is honestly better off without him! Can she press assult charges?

I told her she's better off without him and that she deserves better. I don't know if she can press charges. If their was bruises or something I think she could, but I don't know if now would be too late.

The thing is, is that I know her fiance and I never thought he'd be someone to act like this! Now his brother is moved in with him (already) and I hope he doesn't turn out like this too! He's such a nice guy.

[hummingbird521]

From past experience myself (though not pregnant at the time) she can press charges against him for this. She also needs to get a restraining order as well. She can go to the police and explain the situation to them and they will more than likely go with her to get her things out of the house. I would not go without them present. If the rental lease is in his name she doesn't have to pay. If in both names then she should seek attorney's help with this. As she might be responsible for part of it. If so take her name off it as soon as possible. She should also seek child support in this as well. She really needs legal services to give her some advice on how to do so and what time would be appropriate and such.

Now as to her and her feelings. I know she thinks she is in love with him but she is much better off that this person remain out of her life and her babies life. Be there for her and support her. Tell her constantly that she can do better and that the baby does not need this in his or her life. For their safety as well. Good luck. she is definetly in my prayers.

[BriansBride07]

The poor girl is all I have to say. She is definetly better without that guy in her life. She really needs to go to the doctor and let him know that this guy hit her in the stomach so they can run some tests and make sure everything is ok. I understand that she is only 1mo. but still that baby could still have problems if he did do some sort of damage. I agree she needs to get a restraining order against him and contact the police immediatly to see if she can get her stuff back. Then after the baby is born have a blood test done and if he is the father take his arse to court and get some child support.
It sounds like its a good thing she has a friend like you. Tell her we are all thinking about her and wish her the best.

[70707Bride]

Thanks everybody. I will tell her what you all said.

[Jacklynn]

wow, I pray that she can get out of the situation very quickly! Do NOT let her allow abuse, my old babysitter was murdered by her husband a little over a year ago. Needless to say, even though shes having a baby, she needs to get out of there. He does not sound like he's good for her at all. I mean look what he has done to her life?

Be careful with the situation, pressing her too much to leave could cause her to want to stay even more, I dont know why some women do that, but they do.

And its nuts that his mom wants to try to get the baby! He wants her to take the life of the poor child. There is no way hes mother could get it...

[70707Bride]

Yeah, she did leave, its not like she's still there. She just keeps telling me that she doesn't want to deal with it anymore and she's just not going to talk to him at all. But he's also changed her passwords on some of her accounts on various things. (He's in computers and can hack into things).