Please read, FH's sister...

[70707Bride]

...so FH couldn't get a hold of his mom at all today on the phone. His grandma just called and said his sister got in a wreck today! She's at the hospital getting plastic surgery. Please be thinking of her/praying for her (whatever you do). They said she might be released tomorrow, but not sure yet. I don't know how it happened, she doesn't drive. Thanks everyone!

[WebLady]

Wow, sorry to hear that! I will keep you guys in our thoughts and prayers :flower:

[70707Bride]

Wow, sorry to hear that! I will keep you guys in our thoughts and prayers :flower:

Thx I appreciate it! We're gonna drive back home in a little bit. Its about 45 minutes - 1hr. If we end up staying the night, he'll have to bring me back in the morning for class.

It just makes ya stop and think, when you walk out the door in the morning, you might not be going home. We just take everything for granted. No one that I know (that's close) has gotten in an accident like this so I'm afraid for her.

[nic1124]

I really hope everything is ok.

[LizabethDavis]

Your FSIL is in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us updated as to how she is doing.

[Kacie_bride]

She is in my thoughts and prayers!!!!!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Consider it already done. You are all in our prayers.

[70707Bride]

Thx everybody! I'll fill you all in as soon as I know more info.

[Jenn060306]

OMG how terrible! You and your family are definatly in my thoughts and prayers tonight! I hope she's ok. Take Care! :flower:

[70707Bride]

Ok here's what I found out. Chris' sister was huffing that aerosol stuff that you spray in the computer keyboard to clean it. I guess she had a reaction to it, I don't know if the driver was high too. They hit a fence or something with wood posts. They came through the windshield, one went through the driver's shoulder (if it was over a little, she would have died), the other went through his sis's face. Half of her right cheek was dangling off. She said that all she knows is when she snapped out of it, she heard paramedics were coming and she was holding her cheek on. Ugh. She's going to be fine. The other girl might end up loosing an arm. But hey, that's what happens when you're on drugs.

[hummingbird521]

So sorry this happened. They will all be in my thoughts and prayers today.

[countrygirl]

I am so sorry. I have chills right now.It's unfortunate that kids don't think more about these things. My son's school is doing 'Red Ribbon Week' right now, and teaching them about the dangers of drugs. He started learning about it in kinder. The earlier the better!!!!!

I will keep them both in my thoughts and prayers.

[cowboysbride]

Horrible circumstances! I will pray for their recovery and hope they all get some help!

[ladymelissa]

They will be in my thoughts, that is really unfortunate!

[AngelinLove]

I am so sorry I will definitely keep them in my prayers...that is just so sad.

[SerendipityCrafts]

OMG - I wasn't even aware that you could get high off that stuff.

I am guessing she will be scarred? What a horrible reminder about a serious lapse in judgement.

They are all lucky to be alive. I do hope this scares them all into ending their experimentions!

[Craigs_Girl]

I'm so sorry about this! I hope everything works out. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

[rainbowtreat]

OMG - I wasn't even aware that you could get high off that stuff.

I read about a boy who died from doing this, the straw that comes with it was still in his mouth, his lungs froze.


I am so sorry to hear this and hope all is going to be ok.

[SaralovesMike]

So sorry to hear about this, you're all in my thoughts!

[70707Bride]

OMG - I wasn't even aware that you could get high off that stuff.

I am guessing she will be scarred? What a horrible reminder about a serious lapse in judgement.

They are all lucky to be alive. I do hope this scares them all into ending their experimentions!

Maybe you can't get high on it, I don't know for sure. It was in their system. I think FH said it can freeze your lungs or something. Her cut was from her right eye all the way down to her lips. That is how big the cut/tearing of the cheek was.

The plastic surgery will help decrease the chances of it scarring bad. The sad thing is, is that even with an accident like this, it will not stop her from doing drugs. She started when she was younger, maybe a teen. She's 23 or 24.

The story goes: their dad just up and left when Chris was a baby. Their mom had to work like 3 jobs just to feed them with something. He never paid child support; she cleared him of ALL of it so she wouldn't have to deal with it. Later his sister begged to go live with her dad. So she gave in and let her, he introduced her to drugs and was never there for her. Something happened later and she came back home but was messed up for good.

She can't even get Title 19 or disability, and she cannot hold a job. FMIL has to pay for everything for her. She will call all the time and say "mom, something happened and I need money". She'll refuse up until she goes into her work and harasses her.

She used to be a genius, then got into drugs and is basically nothing now. So regardless of your GPA or how smart you really are, you can still mess your life up to drugs.

[BriansBride07]

So sorry that you and your FH are having to go through with this. Maybe since she got into such a bad accident and the Dr.'s now know that she was using drugs. She can get some help in a rehabilation center. I know they don't always work unless you want to help yourself.
But when my uncle was hooked on boose and pain killers he was in his late 50's and he had to go to the hospital for an overdose. They would not let him leave the hospital until he went through a rehabiliation program.Thank god it saved his life and his now on the road to recovery.
I will keep your future family in my thoughts and prayers.

[ladymelissa]

That is really sad, I hope she can get her life together. Her mom is doing her so much more harm then good by giving into her monetary requests when she harasses her at work. She should get her into a rehab program or at the very least not give her any money, no matter what. Get a restraining order or have the company's security remove the daughter when she shows up at the mom's work. But giving into her not only enables the behavior, but also sends the message that harassing someone to get what you want is acceptable. I really do wish them the best and I hope things get better.

[MOB Karen]

Maybe it will be a wake up call for her. Wishing you the best! :)

[countrygirl]

It's a shame that her father didn't care enough to not get her involved in that.

Unfort, her mother HAS to put her foot down, or she will be dealing w this the rest of her life.

I really hope that you FSIL will see what a blessing it is that she lived thru that. Sometimes it takes a near tragedy for someone to see what they are doing to themselves.

[Summerbmd]

I am so sorry I will definitely keep them in my prayers!

[Jenn060306]

How scarey! I hope that her surviving this will be a wake up call for her. I hope that the hospital gets her into some sort of rehab and she can get back on her feet.
Take care.

[70707Bride]

So sorry that you and your FH are having to go through with this. Maybe since she got into such a bad accident and the Dr.'s now know that she was using drugs. She can get some help in a rehabilation center. I know they don't always work unless you want to help yourself.
But when my uncle was hooked on boose and pain killers he was in his late 50's and he had to go to the hospital for an overdose. They would not let him leave the hospital until he went through a rehabiliation program.Thank god it saved his life and his now on the road to recovery.
I will keep your future family in my thoughts and prayers.

I know she smokes pot and said last night that she is addicted to pain killers. I don't know for sure if she's on anything else.

She said something about orientation, maybe for rehab. I don't know about that either. I do know that she has a social worker. Everything just costs too much for her mom to handle. She's only a beautician. I don't think she even makes $10K a year. She has been re-married though for 10 years, but I don't think he knows as much of what goes on and he thinks. He doesn't know that she gives her money.

[Goin2thechapel]

hopefully this will be a turning point in her life!!

She's extremely lucky that she survived! I only hope that people can take these stories and turn them into something good!

[70707Bride]

That is really sad, I hope she can get her life together. Her mom is doing her so much more harm then good by giving into her monetary requests when she harasses her at work. She should get her into a rehab program or at the very least not give her any money, no matter what. Get a restraining order or have the company's security remove the daughter when she shows up at the mom's work. But giving into her not only enables the behavior, but also sends the message that harassing someone to get what you want is acceptable. I really do wish them the best and I hope things get better.

I know, I told Chris that any decision she makes is going to be hard. But the best thing to do is call the cops if she harasses her anymore. She says it goes for gas or something like that, but really its for drugs. FMIL works at a small salon, so no security. Her husband is an ex-cop though and his daughter from a previous marraige is into drugs too. Weird how stuff happens. You think "you're a cop and your kids are good".

Her glasses got shattered too, and she needs glasses. FMIL can't afford $300, but I think other family will have that part covered.

[70707Bride]

Thx everyone for your prayers and thoughts! Hopefully the driver had full liability! There's no way possible that FMIL could afford several thousand dollars! Plus a wedding coming up! And my selfish little butt is going to CA in January :bbredface: .

FSIL's "biological sperm donor" (as Chris calls him), blames everything on her and/or FMIL. He thinks none of it is his fault. And sometimes Chris calls him asking for him to help pay for his sister's electric bill (gov't funds the rent but you have to have electric & water or you're on the streets). He refused to pay. He's just a :censored: .

[septemberbride06]

WOW! I'm so sorry to hear about oyur FSIL.
Drugs are a very bad thing...I had a situation of my own a few years ago...I lamost lost everything, and that was my wake-up call!!

Good Luck! :innocent:

[WebLady]

Ok here's what I found out. Chris' sister was huffing that aerosol stuff that you spray in the computer keyboard to clean it. I guess she had a reaction to it, I don't know if the driver was high too. They hit a fence or something with wood posts. They came through the windshield, one went through the driver's shoulder (if it was over a little, she would have died), the other went through his sis's face. Half of her right cheek was dangling off. She said that all she knows is when she snapped out of it, she heard paramedics were coming and she was holding her cheek on. Ugh. She's going to be fine. The other girl might end up loosing an arm. But hey, that's what happens when you're on drugs.
OMG ... glad she will be ok, I hope she learns something from going through all this :huh: I read a story a while back about some kid dieing from huffing that stuff. I don't know why kids do stuff like that.

ETA - Sorry to hear how she and FH had to grow up, but that really isn't an excuse. We all make choices that effect our lives, unfortunately it sounds like she made the wrong one with getting involved in drugs. I really hope she 'wakes up' after this.

Thinking of you guys :hug: