my gratidude to all who have helped me so

[kevinsbride2B]

Family or not if these people continue to drive me crazy i'm un-inviting them all!!!!
It's just so special that so many of my family members can invite who they choose, invite to become part of my wedding party, and decide what will be done when NONE of the people doing these things are paying a pretty penny!!!!!
My father has invited his ex wife and my half sister to the wedding and they can sit with him and his new girlfriend at the reception. What's wrong with this picture? My dad's ex is like 32 years younger then he is and they adopted a daughter (who I have seen like 7 times in my life) from Korea. They live in Connecticut and I figured forget about inviting them, it'll just get awkward plus I'm already being picky with the guest list trying to cut it down. I'm cutting my friends and he's inviting his.
My soon to be mother inlaw has invited her granddaughter (my soon to be niece) to be a junior brides maid in my wedding party. That's nice I'm glad she told me!
My future father in law has decided to cancel our plans to have the wine for the wedding made with our special labels that say our names and the date. He has decided that this is tacky to make your own wine and looks cheap. I'm so happy he let us know before we made this "faux pas".
Gotta love it, so kind of them all to do these things for me!
I just wanted to share my gratitude with you all for these people.

[BriansBride07]

So sorry your having to deal with this maybe you sit down with your family members and let them no that there is no way financially(sp) you can afford all these people. IF they don't listen then like you said they get a big fat no-invite. Best of luck to you. I know where your coming from though some of my family members are full of ideas and don't want to contribute a thing, even after I tell them I would love that idea but can't afford it. AWW.. is all i can say. But in the same sense its hard not to stress over the little stuff.

[hummingbird521]

I think I would call a family meeting with everyone and say "this is how it is". Like it or lump it. But that's JMO.

[cowboysbride]

Hmmmmmm! I remember those days...good luck girl, hang in there!

If it were me (Lord this will get you in trouble! LOL) I'd tell the FMIL...fork over some money or don't be picking my wedding party and as for your dad LMAO...he may have just stepped form the frying pan into the fire...the ex and the new GF at a wedding? OMG! To me that's just asking for hormonal troubles LOL!

Best of luck to you...if you need to vent I'm here (or will be back)!

GOOD LUCK HUN!

[Kacie_bride]

Goodness is all I have to say!

[SerendipityCrafts]

That happened during my first wedding!

My ex-FIL decided that we should buy a house and so he started telling people that we wanted money. I was furious. He even had the gall to book appts. for us to see houses he thought were a good deal!

My ex and I did everything possible to appease both of our families re our Catholic/Protestant wedding but there is no satisfying some people. We had obtained permission to be married in a protestant church (the ex is Catholic & so with permission, the marriage would be recognized by the Catholic church) and we arranged for their priest to take part. Still, my ex-FIL wasn't satisfied. About a week before the wedding, he decided to gang up on me when my ex wasn't around re: OUR choice of church. He started in on me saying that it was MY choice and he wouldn't have it. Needless to say, that night didn't end well.

I have a large family and so did the ex so we decided NOT to invite any of the cousins; aunts and uncles only. My parents were footing the bill for the wedding and they simply couldn't afford the extra cost for extra people. The ex-FIL told his brothers & sisters, who couldn't make it to the wedding to pass on their invites to their children!

Take a stand ... don't be bullied into doing anything that you don't want to do.

[countrygirl]

Sorry that youa re going thru all of that. Don't let it get to you. It's your wedding, you do what makes you and hour FH happy, and the h3ll w anyone who tells you different!!!

[ladymelissa]

You will just have to put your foot down at some point and say we simply cannot afford these extra guests!

[Jacklynn]

im sorry :( I think the thing that seemed the most rude to me, was telling someone they could be in your wedding and you didn't even know about it! I would for sure be sitting down with you MIL and talking to her. I feel bad for the little girl now :(

[kevinsbride2B]

im sorry :( I think the thing that seemed the most rude to me, was telling someone they could be in your wedding and you didn't even know about it! I would for sure be sitting down with you MIL and talking to her. I feel bad for the little girl now :(
Well because I have a little girls feelings involved I'm going to keep her as a junior bridesmaid. I could never do that to anyone. But the principle still remains the same!!!!!
The worst part is that I found out about this by my niece while we were away inNorth Carolina sitting in a Wendy's eating our dinner. I almost choked on my food.

[hummingbird521]

Well because I have a little girls feelings involved I'm going to keep her as a junior bridesmaid. I could never do that to anyone. But the principle still remains the same!!!!!
The worst part is that I found out about this by my niece while we were away inNorth Carolina sitting in a Wendy's eating our dinner. I almost choked on my food.

While I understand not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings I would still sit them all down and have my say so on this matter. Keeping the little girl in the wedding. But lay down the law with them about no more new things or people in it unless they would like to pay for it themselves. But this is me and what I would do, maybe not what you would do.

[Goin2thechapel]

If it makes you feel any better, I have a FMIL that thinks she's the bride!!! She went out and purchased a 650 dollar dress. (Almost as much as mine) and wanted to wear a cream dress. Then after my Bridal Shower she went out and bought the same comforter for her that my aunt bought me!!!

She psycho and I hate her! Not a nice way to start a beautiful marriage!

[Panthers Bride]

aww I'm sorry you're having such trouble. Makes me somewhat scared when we really start planning. Although in our case, our families are so glad that we're getting married (since we're both in our 30s and never been married before), and not eloping that they'll just do what I say. Of course, we'll have to see what happens when the time comes.

Have you thought about having a destination wedding: it could just be you, FH and 2-4 people closest to you to serve as officiants?

[kevinsbride2B]

I can be quite a B**** when I need to be lol. Thereofre I can put my foot down. All of these people live far away so getting to them to talk is just a pain in the but. My dad's in Connecticut and my FMIL and FFIL are 4 hours north.
I'm getting great deals and what not, it's just unfortunate that these people have the power to make me mental!!!!!:hothead:
I vertually have knowhere else to go to vent. Kev has a lot of stuff going on, and you guys are my shoulder right now to lean on!

[WebLady]

You will just have to put your foot down at some point and say we simply cannot afford these extra guests!
Yeah, tell these people (especially the ones that are not paying) that this is your wedding and it will be your way. Tell them you want to share your day with them, but they can't keep inviting people and pushing their opinions on you.

Geez, it is sad that family sometimes treats you this way, even more sad that weddings seem to bring out this kind of behavior in people.

I hope it works out for you! Best wishes and good luck! :hug:

[ladymelissa]

I vertually have knowhere else to go to vent. Kev has a lot of stuff going on, and you guys are my shoulder right now to lean on!
Vent away! :hug:

I think it is important to keep rude people in their place b/c I think rude people get that way b/c others allow them to act like that.