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CarlosHoney
09-10-2005, 01:10 AM
My little brother, as many of you know, passed away in August, on the 3rd. We were thinking about having the wedding August 12, and It just came to me as I was looking at the calendar:

That's only 9 days apart!! :(

I think that August is a good time to have it, and my Dad even thought it was a good time, since school is still out and we have lots of friends in school, Best Man is a Dean at the University of Wisconsin, and my brother and step siblings are still going to school.

I am worried that it's too soon after the anivarsary of his death to have it, worrying that it might not be a good time for some of my family. I know that Jens wouldn't give a flying fig, that's why I didn't really think about it. I don't want to have a bummed out wedding.

I'm planning on having a memorial thing at the wedding, maybe a reading or candle with his picture beside it, I'm not sure what to do..

It's really hot in the summer here, and I'm going to be having the baby in January, so I want to have time to lose some weight before the wedding. Thanksgiving/Christmas break might be too hectic, and might be more expensive.. I don't want to wait until 2007. What would YOU do?

SueMartin
09-10-2005, 02:52 AM
I would have it when you planned, sweetie.. and know that this may be just the thing to lighten the sadness that your family is feeling.

i like the idea of having a candle for him at the wedding.. he wouldnt want you to be sad, and celebrating your new life is a great way to honour him.

LaceyinPgh
09-10-2005, 08:59 AM
I agree with Sue, have your wedding when you planned it. It might help make everyone feel better to have something happy to think about at such a sad time. Besides, would your brother want you to postpone? He would want his sister to have a beautiful wedding day. I agree you should do something to remember him because you love him. But, don't go too over the top, stay with just a candle or a memory vase (what we are doing.) The focus should be on how happy you and Carlo and that new baby are on your special day.