Has H*ll Frozen Over?

[SerendipityCrafts]

My ex called tonight to discuss our son. It would seem that the young lad has been causing him some troubles. Now I have not been made aware of these said problems because the ex has purposely kept me in the dark. I normally find out about individual incidents only after they have become full blown explosions (and I find out on my own).

But he said it and it was out loud! He said - "I am starting to think that he might be better off living with you after all".

I would think that that was like admitting defeat, bad parenting or incompetance? I can't believe he actually said it. Doubt it will amount to much but I just thought I would let you all know (as a public service announcement) that h*ll has frozen over!

[Jenn060306]

Wow! That kinda does sound like he is admiting defeat. I guess he can't handle everything that has been going on and possibly there is somthing there that is causing your son to get into trouble.
How do you feel about your son coming to live with you?

[SerendipityCrafts]

Truth be told, I don't think he will be coming. My son will stay put because he has freedom at Dad's and because his friends and his school are there as well.

I have wanted him to be with me since the beginning and he knows it. I don't want to see the bouncing kid thing happen - where the kid goes to live with one parent because the other one is being "mean" that day.

I won't let him play us. If there is to be a permanent move. Decisions will be made calmly and plans will be made.

[Jenn060306]

Well i hope it all works out well for you and your family. Having him join you can be tough.

Mark's Step-fathers ex decided one day she could no longer handle their daughter. She was a bit of a terror. She wasn't going to school and had gotten into a bad crowed so they moved in with them. There was really strict rules that she didn't like but that's the way it was for all the kids. No tv's in their rooms, no phones in their rooms, they weren't allowed to be on the internet after a certain time, midnight curfew. Nothing to serious for them but for her they were super strict because everything was so laxed with her mom. Well, she got into skipping school, and work, and just disapearing in the night. Finally one night Mark's step mom got up to use the washroom and realized megan wasn't in her room so she went downstairs and found her talking on her cell phone. Mark's stepdad came down and just lost it. it was the last thing for him. He took her to the bus station and sent her back to her mother. It was terrible.

I really hope that it is NOTHING like that for you if your son comes to stay with you. Best wishes hun!

[ladymelissa]

I just hope that whatever is best for your son, happens!

[MOB Karen]

I just hope that whatever is best for your son, happens!

Amen!!!! :grinhappy:

[SerendipityCrafts]

Amen!!!! :grinhappy:

The best thing would be if his Dad dumped his SO twit but since that's not going to happen, I am hoping that she will just bud out of my son's dicipline.

She had a hissy and went into my son's room. She went through his drawers and his closets and took back everything she has ever bought him, including his book bag. Apparently she won't give anything back (she says she's teaching him a lesson), and Dad doesn't have the guts to make her, so Dad is off to get him a school bag today. Mature eh?

[septemberbride06]

The best thing would be if his Dad dumped his SO twit but since that's not going to happen, I am hoping that she will just bud out of my son's dicipline.

She had a hissy and went into my son's room. She went through his drawers and his closets and took back everything she has ever bought him, including his book bag. Apparently she won't give anything back (she says she's teaching him a lesson), and Dad doesn't have the guts to make her, so Dad is off to get him a school bag today. Mature eh?

OMG that sounds like Joe's ex. She is 24 going on like 12. Everytime she gets a little bit upset, she won't ket us have his son. I bet the judge is gonna love her!!!???

:grinhappy:

[SerendipityCrafts]

OMG that sounds like Joe's ex. She is 24 going on like 12. Everytime she gets a little bit upset, she won't ket us have his son. I bet the judge is gonna love her!!!???

:grinhappy:

Not doing the court thing again. Been there, done that. It was tearing my kids up and my son was having some adverse anxiety related problems.

In the end, my ex bought the kids off, scared them re: living with me, and they wanted to stay near their friends anyhow. Even if I were to go back to court and even if the judge were to see what kind of loon she is (and believe me - I have numerous examples!!!), the judge would not order them to live with us. They are considered old enough to make their own decisions.