My neighbors

[Jenn060306]

So, I am a bit worried about the woman who lives down stairs lately. I can hear her and her husband fighting alot. I've heard them fighting over their radio before. It's kinda scarey sounding because it sounds like he has a really bad temper. Everytime i see her outside she looks either really sad or annoyed so i'm never sure what to think. Last night they got fighting again and it was really bad this time. You could practically hear every word he was saying. Then there was a huge crash. Like he flipped the table or somthing. The dishes broke and everything. Mark and i just froze where we were and listened for a min. They kept yelling but soon you could hear him trying to appologize for whatever it was that he did to make the big crash. Eventually it stopped for a while and the radio started to blare. But soon enough they were yelling again. We ended up turning the tv up loud enough that we didn't hear them for a while.

I'm a bit concerned about this all. I'm not sure what to do if anything. I don't want to put my nose into other peoples business. But, if he's knocking things arround will he knock her arround? If i call the cops they will know it was us and that will only make me more scared to come and go and possibly see him. He seems like a nice guy. But i think he might drink too much. I don't know. Ugh!

What should i do? Nothing and mind my own business? Set a line that if i hear another bang like that, call the police?

[ikkin510]

I think calling the police next time it gets bad would be a good idea. I would be worried about her too, expecially if it sounds like it is getting that bad.

[Jacklynn]

coming from someone who has lost someone to domestic abuse, I say if you have any thoughts that he may be abusing her, to call the police the next time it happens.

[Jenn060306]

Thank you. I wanted confirmation that if i did call the police i wouldn't be crossing the line. I hope it doesen't get that bad. But i just don't know what's happening down there and it's definatly worrisum.

[BriansBride07]

I am so glad someone else posted this question I too have got a neighbor. and me and my FH are thinking the same thing. I don't hear whats going on but i've talked to her a couple of times and the fear in her eyes is enough to say it all she is very young and they have a baby. He seems like a nice guy too. BUT you never see her outside with the baby, only to go and come home from work the few times I have seen her he left her home alone and she asked me if I could bring her to work and watch her baby. The people who live below her have told me and my FH that the noise level is unbeliveable and they are not sure if its objects or persons being thrown. I don't want to be noisy and ask her whats going on I just feel like it will make things worse for her and w/out actually hearing or seeing anything i'm torn on what to do. I hope that all ends well with your problem Jenn and sorry to hijack your post.

[NicksBride]

That is very scary. Coming from someone who had a father who was abusive, make sure you call the police next time. but also make sure the police keeps the complaint annoymous. Make sure they do not state it was you who made the call. SOmetimes when people are embarassed and called out they become angry at the wrong person. But please call the police next time you hear something like that!! Good luck

[Jenn060306]

I am so glad someone else posted this question I too have got a neighbor. and me and my FH are thinking the same thing. I don't hear whats going on but i've talked to her a couple of times and the fear in her eyes is enough to say it all she is very young and they have a baby. He seems like a nice guy too. BUT you never see her outside with the baby, only to go and come home from work the few times I have seen her he left her home alone and she asked me if I could bring her to work and watch her baby. The people who live below her have told me and my FH that the noise level is unbeliveable and they are not sure if its objects or persons being thrown. I don't want to be noisy and ask her whats going on I just feel like it will make things worse for her and w/out actually hearing or seeing anything i'm torn on what to do. I hope that all ends well with your problem Jenn and sorry to hijack your post.


Wow.... that is scarey. No worries about hijacking. You were just relating. I think for sure someone needs to call the police for her and the babies sake.
I think i will next time i hear what i heard last night. It's not nice.

[NicksBride]

Its very scary to hear that. It kinda sends chills down your spine dosen't it?

[BriansBride07]

Thanks I will call the cops the next time I see her that scared Just didn't know that i could be anoymous about it. I will also try and talk the couple that hears it to call for her and the babies sake. Its so sad she is only 19 yrs old and so neive (sp) my motherly instincts take over and I just want to coddle her and tell her everything will be all right, even though i'm not sure that is whats going on.

[ikkin510]

As a 911 dispatcher, I can tell you that you can be annoymous. But, they will write down the bumber that is displayed on the call ID just as a record. As long as the dispatcher puts in the report that is sent to the officer that the caller did not wish to identify themself, the officer should not put it in his report.
Hope that helps out a little bit. I would agree though with not giving a name. Sometimes people get upset when they find out who called and then the woman may not want to speak to you. You are only trying to help, but to her, it may not seem that way.
Best of luck Jenn with the situation.

[Jenn060306]

Thanks Everyone. Last night it was very quiet. It was nice. I saw my neighbore yesterday and he barely looked at us. Normally he is very talkative and goofy. I was thinking maybe he knew we could hear him or somthing. Hopefully there won't be anymore. I really don't want to have to call. But i will if i need too.