how would you feel?

[jeni740]

OK how would you take this, I was at work today and me and the other girls were talking about Birthdays and Christmas, and how they never really did anything before because not everyone got along, now that I am there everyone seems to get along and we want to start exchanging gifts and getting group birthday cards for everyone, my boss not only thinks its a horrible idea, but said if we want to exchange gifts we have to do it outside the office in the hallway and the same goes for a birthday card, I was a little ticked, so I asked him why, and he proceeded to tell me out of the blue that he could think of enough reasons about my job performance in 8 minutes to fire me. Now mind you he is saying this to ME while the other 3 girls I work with were at the MALL and it wasn't even lunch time. I was so mad I called my sister and went to lunch, but before I left I was in tears telling my other co workers what happened, when I got back the Dr. was waiting for me in the break room and said he was only kidding he apologized about 10 times and gave me a bag of peppers and a candy bar which are his favorite and he does not give away very often. Now the other girls really let him have it well I was gone, so do you think he meant what he said? Or felt bad because the girls let him have it, or was he really just kidding? He didn't crack a smile once and he really seemed like he was not happy with my job performance. My job is a dime a dozen, but this one is one where I really like everyone I work with, should I just drop it?

[mariaandmanish]

Wow, Jen, I'm really sorry that this happened to you! My suggestion is to ask your boss for a meeting as soon as you can. Then sit down with him and discuss what was said. Go from the perspective that you're wondering if there is something that you can do to improve whatever may be lacking in your job performance, as you really like the job and the environment. If he insists that nothing is wrong, then let him know that he really did hurt your feelings, and that you are always open to suggestions on improving yourself, as long as the suggestions are made in a positive way.

I hope this helps, and that you're able to find out what was really meant by what he said today! :whoohoo:

[Jenn060306]

Wow, that is so bizzar. I can't really understand what the problem with exchanging gifts or cards is as long as everyone is included.

I'm not sure if he really ment it or not. I'm wondering if he made it sound like he was more unhappy with you then he really is just to get your attention. Maybe you might ask him if he is really unhappy with you or if there is somthing you can do to improve because what he said made you wonder.
I'm sorry he was so rude and jerk like to you! So not fair! Good luck with it all!

[Panthers Bride]

I agree with Maria. That is GREAT advise. Plus, it looks like you really care about your performance. Maybe he was having a bad day and putting it out on you?

[AllyM1]

I also agree with Maria and Jenn. I would talk to him and express the fact that he really hurt your feelings. Also ask if there is anything that you can improve on.

After the meeting, I would leave it at however it ends.

I am so sorry hun that you had to go through that! That is not fair at all!

If he says anything else, I will come to NY and kick his butt for you! =)

[LizabethDavis]

It is really hard to determine what the matter with this guy is, but I wouldn't take anything he says to heart. If he wanted to fire you for bad performance, he more then likely would just do it instead of making comments. He was probably just having a bad day as one of the girls before me mentioned. Good luck!!

[MOB Karen]

I would feel just like you did, Jeni, that it was a strange thing for him to say. And mean too, if you ask me. It definitely needs to be clarified. You need to come right out and ask him what he meant by it. Let us know how it turns out. :grinhappy:

[jeni740]

thank you all for being so supportive, I will talk to him today and just make sure he was just kidding, I guess it made me so mad because I am a very hard worker and go above and beyond at my job and have never had any boss say that too me. Once again thank you I really appreciate the kind words you al had to say :D