growing that money tree out back!

[kevinsbride2B]

OK I think I'm officially going to tear the wallet out of my Future Father in laws pants! I have touched on this before but now it is official. My inlaws will be doing or spending absolutly NOTHING on our wedding. The original idea was for them to provide the wine at the least. Kevin gets a call from his mother the other day and he asked about when they would be coming into town to make the wine. She expresses what wine? Kevin said the wine your doign for the wedding. She has no recollection of this and they will not be providing it. She said that we could talk about that just before the wedding. Does she not realize that we need to have that kinda stuff planned oodles of time before?
I do realize that they shouldn't be expected to do everything but at the same time they know quite well that I don't have the parents to pay for everything, nor do I personally. Kev is havign some legal isues and that is tying up his funds. They just put a $half million extension on their cottage that they moved to last year.
I'm really just begining to feel that they don't care if we get married. Everytime I turn around they are saying something to upset me. They claimed that they didn't know when our weddign date was. I was there when we sat them down in the den and gave them all the info. Then Kev went up 2 weeks later and explained it, then they talked to my Mom.
I'm sorry this is long, but I'm just beside myself. I just want them to like me, and to want this as badly as we both do!

[hummingbird521]

Hang in there girl. you have close to a year and maybe by that time they will come around.

[Kacie_bride]

I know all about your frustrations. My future inlaws are driving me bonkers as well. On Friday I went out to eat with Justin and his dad and he sat there and complained about having to spend $400. That is all he is paying for the whole thing. That is his part of the rehearsal dinner. He says that is too much. I hate to bring you bad news, but it has only gotten worse for me as the time gets closer.

[kevinsbride2B]

Ya I'm expecting to be bald by August! It's sad that I don't even want to go up there for weekends becasue I have to choke back tears everytime. As it is, I am still to call them Mr and Mrs all the time. His dad will be like Take this to Mrs. Tomlinson. My christmas present said "Kevin's parents".
Kevin's mother took me aside a while ago and told me to expect Jamie to hate me soon, especially with getting married. It was like oh ya thanks so much!

[hummingbird521]

Ya I'm expecting to be bald by August! It's sad that I don't even want to go up there for weekends becasue I have to choke back tears everytime. As it is, I am still to call them Mr and Mrs all the time. His dad will be like Take this to Mrs. Tomlinson. My christmas present said "Kevin's parents".
Kevin's mother took me aside a while ago and told me to expect Jamie to hate me soon, especially with getting married. It was like oh ya thanks so much!

Oh god, what horrible people for telling you this. I think I would have had to bawl them out for this one. What does Kev think of it?

[kevinsbride2B]

They are smart. They only ever do this when he's no around. As for money he's been very upset about it. He's called me on numerous nights crying. He actually said to me the other dday that he didn't know how I could marry him because of all the stress he will bring to me. I couldn't imagine not marrying hima nd i told him that.
In Kev's head he just thinks that it will all turn around. I on the other hand am thinking more realistically.

[Kacie_bride]

Ya I'm expecting to be bald by August! It's sad that I don't even want to go up there for weekends becasue I have to choke back tears everytime. As it is, I am still to call them Mr and Mrs all the time. His dad will be like Take this to Mrs. Tomlinson. My christmas present said "Kevin's parents".
Kevin's mother took me aside a while ago and told me to expect Jamie to hate me soon, especially with getting married. It was like oh ya thanks so much!

That is awful. I would try my best to not go up there for the weekends. Can he go to you?

[kevinsbride2B]

No they never call us or stop by when they are in town. They are 4 hours north of us and come down every other weekend or so. They have never once called us to meet up, and that goes for how they treat Kevin's sister and her family of husband and 4 children.

[Goin2thechapel]

I have the same problems here too, so don't feel bad.

Jon's mother is very controling and needs to feel in control of everything, including her son. She went with me to pick out my gown and looked at the price tag and said "Kinda cheap ($790) for a wedding don't you think?" (they're not rich either!)

She just bought her dress and she paid $988.00 for a MOTHER OF THE GROOM dress!!! Her dress is more expoensive than my WEDDING dress!!!

I just had my Bridal shower last weekend and yesterday she came up to me and said " I needed a new bed set so I made (Jon's father) buy me one, and I bought you a pressure cooker without even buying myself one, so guess what i bought today!"

It's sick...she wants to basically marry her own son,,,or not let me have him...

So i can completely understand how you feel, and I'm more than happy to talk about it with you if you ever need me :) Hang in there...

[kevinsbride2B]

So Kevin's parents called him tonight when he was with me. I hear Kev say, so it's a deffinate no about you guys makign the wine. I started to feel my heart in my chest pumping like mad! Then I hear "No Mom it's a done deal we booked... No That's the date forsure we won't be changing it" It raced a little harder.
Kev gets off the phone and i start to pound him with questions on what was said. Apparently his parents will not be makign the wine but will be going to a winery and buying some for the wedding. THANK GOODNESS!!!!!!!!!! I felt a little better. But just to top it off Kev mentions that his parents wanted us to have chair covers fo the ceremony and we should order them if we've already done this much. I snapped! The first time since all of this I actually snapped. I told him that if it was so important to them then they should pay, and if not then he best eb saving his pennies cause I've spent enough!!!!!!!!! He remained quiet and changed the convo.
I won't need to see his parents for a little while anyway as I was uninvited to thanksgiving dinner at their place, and am now not going up for the long weekend. Apparently there isn't enough room. I understand they have a big family but will this becoem customary when we are married?
My goodness. My voice is now completly gone from the pneumonia and the stress. I also counted 6 zits on my face today!

[SerendipityCrafts]

I won't need to see his parents for a little while anyway as I was uninvited to thanksgiving dinner at their place, and am now not going up for the long weekend. Apparently there isn't enough room. I understand they have a big family but will this becoem customary when we are married?
My goodness. My voice is now completly gone from the pneumonia and the stress. I also counted 6 zits on my face today!

If you are uninvited, please tell me that Kevin won't be going either! (sorry, I am having flash backs to my first marriage / ex inlaws)

Or ..... why don't you two stay in a motel near by. At least that way, you can escape when it's getting unbearable.

[kevinsbride2B]

Kevin has a daughter and I cna't ask them not to go because of me. She is very close to her grandparents and she looks very forward to going up there and seeign them and spending time with her cousins.
They live in the middle of knowhere!!!! The closest motel is in Huntsville 1.5 hours away. And ebcause of it being so close to Muskoka (the cottage country goo roo of Ontario) the prices are REDICULOUS!!!!!!!!!
I'll be with my family here in Toronto. I didn't really want to go anyway, it's just the principal. I have a mentality for don't let them get you down, and that's how I plan to be!~