I'm peaved

[countrygirl]

Ok, so there was this girl that worked w J about a year ago, and he totally hit on him, alot, and he never knew it. She did it right in front of me, and he still didn't see. She was always asking where to go in town, asking if he wanted to go 'hang out' and when we had a super bowl party, she sat so friggin close to him that she was pract. on his lap. You better believe that when she stood up, THAT seat was no longer avail.

Anyway, J used to chat w her on emails and stuff, and then she got out of the military and moved to the east coast. She still emails him once in a while, but nothing big.

So, just out of curiousity (I know it was wrong) I checked his emails. He gave me the info along time ago to check on his emails once in a while because he can't log on at work, and the info was just too easy to foget. Anyway, she emailed some forwarded thing about the military to a bunch of people and he was one of them. He friggin emailed her back, asked how she was, said that we isn't on much, but he will try to check it once in a while.

HE NEVER MENTIONED GETTING MARRIED!!!!

I know that I really don't have anything to worry about, but I so want to clobber him right now!!!!

[cowboysbride]

Men don't think like we do, he's just being polite. Don't do anything rash, it'll just reflect poorly on you. He's marrying you and no matter what her intentions are it isn't going to change.

P.S. It would piss me off too but you have to be the bigger person here and make her know it.

[countrygirl]

Men don't think like we do, he's just being polite. Don't do anything rash, it'll just reflect poorly on you. He's marrying you and no matter what her intentions are it isn't going to change.

P.S. It would piss me off too but you have to be the bigger person here and make her know it.

Thanks Ellen. I know that he NEVER though of her in any way other than a friend. She was one of those girls that got around the squadron when whe showed up. I know that nothing happened since he spends everynight w me, and doesn't like that type of girl anyway, but it still pisses me off.

GGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!! Perfect end to a perfect week I guess.

[WebLady]

I agree with what Ellen said ... I think I'd be a little peeved too, but try not to worry too much about it, I'm sure it's nothing :grinhappy:

[WhiskeyGirl]

I can understand how you must feel about this but don't go clobbering your hubby2be just yet!! Give him a chance to explain and hope for a good explannation!! Make sure he KNOWS how it made you feel for him to sneak around behind your back!!

[rainbowtreat]

I agree with the others. If it was that short of an e-mail he most likely was just being polite and if they actualy talk one of these days I am sure it will come up that you 2 are getting married. It to me didnt look like he went into any detail about any thing other then not being on line much.

[Kacie_bride]

That is such a typical guy thing. I swear. Do they have a manual to act the way they do? Don't worry about it too much sweetie. The others pretty much said it all. Have a good weekend!!!

[countrygirl]

Thanks ladies. He called just a bit ago, and could sense that there was something wrong. I pulled the standard "I'm fine" and left it alone. It wasn't any of my business to go into his emails, and he really didnt do anything wrong. So I will leave it alone for now.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Heather,

It's easier now to admit to what's wrong then to let it boil up and make it more of an issue. Be honest with him, if he loves you, he shouldn't care!! And should be more then willing to explain everything!! Just don't let it be, otherwise it will boil over and cause BIGGER problems IMO. Good luck!!:chimp:

[hummingbird521]

I know how you feel on this one. But as everyone has said it is just a guy thing and sounded as if he was just being polite. I decided the other day to check my DH's mail out of nosiness, like you I too remembered the password. Well he has been receiving several emails from an old girlfriend. She had even asked him to join her in the yahoo 360 thing. He did not however do so. I have heard him numerous times tell her he is married now and that he is extremely happy. So while part of me was bothered by it, part of me was not because i was the one who chose to be nosy in this. See she still calls here from time to time as well. But let me answer the phone and she won't any more. haha.

[SerendipityCrafts]

My first thought was perhaps this isn't the first email that he's had from her since you have been married. Give him the benefit of the doubt and believe instead that he's alread told her.

Tresia - Don't you worry either. I think that those 360 invites go out to everyone on your address list. It just means that she hasn't deleted DH from hers.

[hummingbird521]

Tresia - Don't you worry either. I think that those 360 invites go out to everyone on your address list. It just means that she hasn't deleted DH from hers.

Thanks Elizabeth, I know they go out on everyone's list of friends and it doesn't bother me any longer. I am more angry with myself for even having looked and being nosy. But it was funny cause he told me that night without me having said anything that I had still been logged onto the computer and he checked my history. so tit for tat. :D I just wish she would stop calling him. :irked:

[SerendipityCrafts]

Thanks Elizabeth, I know they go out on everyone's list of friends and it doesn't bother me any longer. I am more angry with myself for even having looked and being nosy. But it was funny cause he told me that night without me having said anything that I had still been logged onto the computer and he checked my history. so tit for tat. :D I just wish she would stop calling him. :irked:

Oh I hear ya .... and I am guilty as well. When the ex-wife emails, he usually reads it out loud so I know what's going on - usuallly she's asking for more $$$ I peaked to see what he's replied. I didn't find out anything though because he doesn't answer her emails.

[hummingbird521]

Oh I hear ya .... and I am guilty as well. When the ex-wife emails, he usually reads it out loud so I know what's going on - usuallly she's asking for more $$$ I peaked to see what he's replied. I didn't find out anything though because he doesn't answer her emails.

God glad to know there are other's out there who do this from time to time. Now I don't feel so bad. :D

[SerendipityCrafts]

God glad to know there are other's out there who do this from time to time. Now I don't feel so bad. :D

Curiosity killed the cat and then the cat felt guilty LOL

[ladymelissa]

What is this 360 thing?

To the OP: "I'm not online much" could also translate into, "I don't really have any intention of writing you back, so don't be shocked if I don't reply to any more emails." I wouldn't make much of it, if it is really bothering you you could calmly bring it up to get it off your chest or just check the emails once in awhile and only say something if the correspondences become more frequent or personal.

Also if he were doing something shady he probably would have changed his email password or set up a different email account that you didn't know about. I really hope you feel better. :)

[hummingbird521]

What is this 360 thing?

Yahoo 360 is a personal blog space that you can invite your friends to share or anyone surfing the net. Post pics, journal writing all of it. Kinda like Myspace I guess.

[theweddinghelper]

I would be a little upset as well, and I've had to go through my exe's stuff a couple of times. I could tell when he was lying to me about cert. things and it never crossed his mine to get rid of stuff that might piss me off. (I think alot of us has done something like that @least one time.) Just keep an open mind.
What gets me is they say they are just being "polite", but if we did some of the same things they would not like it.:ooh:

[Goin2thechapel]

Ouch....

Jon emailed one of his ex girlfriends before (Cause she emailed him first) and never told me about. Tried to keep it a secret (Because he knew I'd be mad) I found it one day and it never said anything about me!!! I overreacted I think, So keep your cool...

[septemberbride06]

i agree with everyone. Joe used to have girls that were "Freinds" when we met, well I did not feel comfortable, so I dedcided to tell him. Mind you, I did not ask him to drop them but as soon as he found out it bothered me, he told her that they could not be friends anymore! I was soo amazed. I knew I would spend the rest of my life with him right then. Seriously, how many guys would do that for a girl they met like 3 weeks before???

:snide:

[countrygirl]

Well, it all came to a head this weekend. A friend came over on Sat night, and during a conversation, her name came up. I tested Josh. I guess I was really scared. Anyway, I asked him if she had emailed him lately, and he said no. I waited until our friend left and asked him why he lied to me. He had no idea what I was talking about. So, of course I was VERY upset, let him kknow exactly what I was talking about. I asked him why he didn't mention the wedding. He said that he had emailed her ealier in the week, that he was in a rush when he checked his emails, and wasn't thinking about what he typed, and didn't remember checking them when I asked.

I chewed him out, told him I couldn't marry someone I couldn't trust. I ended up trying to sleep on the couch. He came out and told me to sleep in the bed since it was him that messed up. I stayed on the couch anyway, I wanted him to feel guilty for waht he had done. I guess I worked because when I came in the room the next morning, he was awake, and said he hadn't really slept, and asked if I was leaving him. He said he has never been so scared in his life. I told him I didn't know what I was doing. We talked alot, and he finally convinced me to give him a hug. He started crying and wouldn't let go. He apologized again, and asked me to stay. I told him that I can't marry him if I can't trust him. He again told me that he has no intentions of being w anyone else, and that he will never give me a reason to doubt him. He thanked me the rest of the day for not leaving him.

I am still very hurt, and sad that he didn't think about the wedding, but I do feel better about it all.

Thanks for the support ladies. It's been a big help, AGAIN!!!

[ladymelissa]

I am glad you were able to get it off your chest. Hopefully you will be able to get past this, regain trust and I wish you both the best.

[countrygirl]

I am glad you were able to get it off your chest. Hopefully you will be able to get past this, regain trust and I wish you both the best.

Thanks Melissa. I know in my heart that Josh hasn't cheated on me, and has no intention to, or I wouldn't be with him. I think I was mainly hurt by the fact that he didn't menetion that we are getting married. But after reading the other's posts here, and talking to him, I guess men just don't go about things the same way.

[WebLady]

I am glad you were able to get it off your chest. Hopefully you will be able to get past this, regain trust and I wish you both the best.
That is what I was gonna say ;)

Sorry it had to come down to such an ordeal for you. Wishing you both the best :hug:

[countrygirl]

Thanks Brandi. I think the thing that gets to me is that Josh and I don't fight. We dont' argue much. We really don't have a reason to.

[theweddinghelper]

I'm glad u worked things out and got things off your chest. Sometimes it's worse just dropping it if it is bothering u inside. Hope things only get better for you. (and @least he knows he can't pull that **** on u again, right?)

[Valmai]

I'm glad you worked it lal out, having something festering inside u isnt good and ud have been constantly watching out for things and prob seeing things that werent there! When weve been hurt so badly before it makes us more scared and doesnt take alot to throw us into a panic does it. Good luck not long now hey? lol xxx

[MOB Karen]

Sorry you're having to go through this so close to the wedding, Heather! I agree with everyone else that men don't talk about weddings like women do. We eat, sleep, and breathe it, but they just don't. But it doesn't mean he doesn't look forward to your wedding or anything like that. I'm glad you worked it all out with him! Good luck with your last full month before your wedding!! :grinhappy: