Baby Before Wedding

[CarlosHoney]

We have waited to get married after the baby is born because if I do it before, I loose my insurance through my Dad. So, we're having the wedding when the baby is 6-8 months old.. I've been asked a few times by different people if we will be including the child in our ceremony, but I'm not sure!

What are some ideas that you think would work with an unpredictable baby? I certainly don't want baby to start crying in the middle of the ceremony.. But I think that it would be really nice to have our child as a part of our wedding. It's our baby. What better symbol of our unification than that?

Thanks!

[LaceyinPgh]

You could write the ceremony to include the joining of not only you and your FH but the joining of your family as a whole with your new little person. The three of you could walk down the aisle together. You could even have your MOH hold the baby at the front of the ceremony so he/she (do you know what you are having yet?) could be watching on. Just some ideas.

[CarlosHoney]

I wish that I knew. Baby didn't cooperate at the last visit to the Dr.. It's madness!! I want to buy stuff already, and plan for baby, but I don't like the idea of getting everything yellow.

That's a good idea! MY MOH is very baby proficient, so she would be willing to do that. Thanks!

[LaceyinPgh]

For my best friend's first baby she never was able to find out. Every time she went all she got to see was head and butt. Listen to what your heart tells you. I have never known a woman yet who couldn't tell you if she was having a girl or a boy.

When my mom was pregnant the doctor and all the nurses swore up and down that I was a boy and that I was coming at the end of March. My mother flat out told them she was having a girl in April in the afternoon because she was not getting out of bed in the middle of the night to have a baby. Mom was right. Girl, April 6, 3:33 pm. Trust your instincts, but just in case don't take the tags off of anything.

[As You Wish]

My first suggestion is to assign someone (Your mom?) to be in charge of the baby that day, so that he can be taken out if he gets fussy and you don’t have to worry about him with everything else that will be on your mind.

One nice idea is to have a unity candle ceremony with a third smaller candle for your son. He will be too little to light the candle himself, but your husband and you could do it together for him.

I also like the poem idea already suggested. Or you could have your efficient say something.

[CindySue]

Babies are unpredictable, but by the time you get married, you will know what kind of personality he will have. You will know if he will be easy going or fussy. All bets are off if he happens to be feeling bad - cold, tummy ache, teething, etc.
Having someone to help out is the greatest idea. Id have someone other than the MOH in case things get really bad and he needs to takien outside for a few minutes.

[CarlosHoney]

I'll probably hire someone to watch after him the day of. It makes more since to have one person taking care of him, and who can take him outside if he's getting fussy, home if he's getting tired.

[bnd94]

I'll probably hire someone to watch after him the day of. It makes more since to have one person taking care of him, and who can take him outside if he's getting fussy, home if he's getting tired.

I think thats the best idea that way if he is fussy, your family or whoever you ask to watch him won't miss your wedding. I think it is awesome to have him there. He won't remember it but you will always have him included in your memories of your special day!! :D

[CarlosHoney]

And the pictures. I want a nice one of me, Carlo, and the baby. I think that will be the one that we hang above our mantle..

[rainbowtreat]

My sisters daughter was 7 months old when her mom and dad got married. They had the ring bearer 9 who was about 10 yr old) pull her down the ailse in a wagon that was all decorated for the wedding and she was in what looked like a tiny version of her moms gown. And she had no hair so they used KY jelly and stuck a bow to the side of her head. she was so cute. They had her at the reception for a while then had her great grandmother take her for the night.

Rainbowtreat

[darkangel090260]

Our daughter will be 6 months old at the time of our wedding. he has two older children and they both will be in the wedding.

SS ringbear
SD flowergirl
DD flowergirl

we are also doing a unity candle with 5 talk candles instead of two each child will have one that they will light when we light the big candle. My mother or father will help our DD light the candle

We will be giving each child a family pendent

[Kathleen Hamilton]

Who is supposed to give the pregnant bride to be a baby shower and a wedding shower. Who is first?

[CindySue]

Well from what Ive heard the MoH gives the Bridal shower and close friends and/or family gives the Baby shower. I think the Baby shower is usually done 4-8 weeks before the baby is due and the Bridal shower is 2-3 months before the wedding.
I think.........please dont hold me to it.

[CarlosHoney]

I had the shower on the 12th of this month, I'm due the 7th of Jan. I'm not having a wedding shower, so I don't know how that goes.

I think that however it gets done, as long as it's all done, it's all good. :)

[maz]

Our son will be just one when we get married he will be part of the wedding if he plays up and the worst comes to the worst i will carry him down the isle as he has just as much right to be there. I think it is hard to decide what to do when the baby is not here wait and see how you feel i gurantee you will feel diffrent then you do now x x x x

[wolf4091]

congratulations!! i had my little baby in my wedding. i had a responsible person be in charge of her while we did vows and took pictures. i didnt let anyone get in her face or bother her while she was sleeping. when she woke up it was time for cake and everyone could then spoil her. i got pics of all that. it was wonderful having my baby there. being unpredictable is part of what makes them cute. as long as she doesnt get too scared or stressed out she should be fine. i wouldnt worry. you could simply have a tiny matching outfit and just take pics. meet her basic needs and dont let people get too clingy and all should go smoothly. good luck!!

[divinemsemm]

gramma and grampa would be a better choice than hiring someone. baby will be 6-8 months old? stranger anxiety kicks in, and if there are a ton of people around that baby doesn't know, he'll be really nervous -
use grammas and grampas to share the baby duties during the ceremony.

good luck!