Has anyone felt this way?

[Kissy27]

Hi, I am getting married next Saturday, and I just feel so over-whelmed, that I just want to give up on everything! And stop with all the planning. Nothing seems to be going right. My fiance is stuck in Quebec, (16 hrs away from me!), he's been gone since Tuesday, so all the things he was soppose to take care of, have not been taking care of. I have tried to get some support from my family, mother, and sisters, trying to hint that, in reality, the wedding is a week away! There is still so much to do, and I return back to work tomorrow, and won't have all the time to do so much as I would like. I have paid for the majority of the wedding myself. I had rarely anyone offer me any help (my mom did, but she can only do so much) I am at the point where I am expecting the worst, and I am not enthusiastic at all about this. I was, but now, I'm like, "I don't care anymore!" Is this normal? How can I go from this low feeling, to feeling excited about my fast approaching wedding day?

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well Kissy, I have to tell you I felt the same way. Like three days before the wedding we almost called it off but it was because my now husbands parents were not helping us at all with anything and instead picking fights like crazy. His dad even threatened to take "things" away from us. (We live on his farm right now--for six more weeks--but I think he was going to threaten to kick us out!) It was really stupid and crazy, I was overwhelmed and not looking forward to the wedding at all. At one point my husband and I locked ourselves in our bedroom and refused to come out because we were sick of the stupid **** his parents and sisters were pulling. But ya know, when the day got there (July 16th) those were the last things we were thinking about. I think that planning a wedding and having guests for a wedding really stretches you to the limit, but its worth it in the end!! Just take a break from planning for a half an hour a day and go for a walk, take some time to yourself and don't think about the wedding! I promise to you that they will fall into place, and if it really comes down to it, don't have a nervous break down but take people a side that you know you can trust and tell them how much help you REALLY need!! Or delegate tasks to people you can trust, that will take a load off of you. Don't hint, ask for HELP! Thats the best advice I can give to you! You just have to keep telling yourself that the most important thing is that you and your fiance are both at the wedding and that you exchange rings and vows and kiss at the end! All you really need is the two of you!! It'll come together, best of luck! And let us know how it goes!

~CanadianBride~

[CarlosHoney]

It'll be cool, girl, just take a deep breath. It's normal to feel that way. It's like a Hurricane, kind of together and strong at the begining, and then it gets spread too thin and wears out, then it's over.

Good luck, and maybe go for a pedicure or something. Relax.

[allydawn0040]

Very common. Love the post with the refernce about the hurricane. It is very much that way. Strong, powerful & feels destructive but losses power as time comes closer. It will all come together beautifully. Just remember it's about the marriage & not the wedding so if everything doesn't get done or go according to planned just know that as long as you both say "I Do" and mean it with all of your heart, for better or worse, it will be a perfect day! Take a long, slow, deep breathe and know that it will be great! allydawn0040

[bobbijoandchris]

I feel that way now and I am going crazy but I think about why this is happening not for my guests but for me nothing is perfect and if you expect it to be you will be more particular and something is garunteed to fail. so just be happy get married and if something goes wrong know it is perect because the best part about being a human is our imperfections make us perfect!

Chris :D

[rockstar1]

YES, i feel the same way. i just posted a topic entitled 'help fh and i not getting along.' it is overwhelming - and i just started. i wouldn't say i have self - doubt - but it's hard to feel happy and excited when your FH doesn't want to decide who he wants for groomsmen, doesn't want to discuss the guest list or anything else. everyone has told me to leave him out of it and just focus on the details myself. i like what someone else wrote. remember the happy times and why you are doing this, i guess. i for one am taking a break tonight and not thinking about it. good luck! YOU CAN talk to me any time. i feel the same way.