How do you deal with life's emotional pain?

[MOB Karen]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_9_2.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZNxdm824YYUS) We all have pain in our lives from time to time; loss of a loved one, breakup of a relationship. How do you deal with this pain?

[cowboysbride]

The old me didn't deal...I drank and ran from my problems (I was in denial that life could suck so bad and that my ex was doing what he was doing).

The new me prays and talks it out with people who love me.

[MOB Karen]

If it's really bad pain, I usually pray to God to help me get through it. :frown: Or just mild pain, I usually just accept it and move on with my life.

[LaceyinPgh]

I just deal with it. The problem isn't going to go away. It will still need solved eventually. So, I just deal with it and move on in life. I guess I am just odd that way. Life sucks sometimes for no rhyme or reason. I get over it and get onto something less sucky.

[ladymelissa]

Eventually, I just deal and move on. I won't go so far as to say I would embrace it though.

[jeni740]

When I was younger I would go get a tattoo, then when I got a little older I would move to a different state, now I just try to deal with it the best I can.

[Jenn060306]

I used to pray for Gods help. But now i don't. I don't deal with with life's emotional pain well. I tend to suck everything up and close myself off. Most people won't take the time to understand what is going on or they will preach to me about God's plan for me and to trust him.
Eventually i will move on and accept what has happend

[mariaandmanish]

I meant to choose other, and thought I did, but it clicked on that I embrace pain!! I so do not embrace pain!!!


What I meant was that I use it to help me move on, but I certainly don't embrace it. I don't escape it necessarily, but I use paper and pen and write out my feelings and thoughts, and that's how I deal with it. Then, later, when I'm feeling better, I will sometimes go back and read what I wrote and use that to strengthen me and try to realize how that event or whatever made me a better person.

I had a particular situation when I was a child that I was unable to deal with until I was in college. Before then, I couldn't talk about it or think about it without crying. But, in college, I took a philosophy course and had to write a paper about an event in one's life that changed you. Since that was the most extreme event in my life, I chose to write about that. Part of the assignment was to see how it changed you for the better. Once I was able to see that, the event itself, while still horrible and painful even now, has lost most of the emotional burden that it carried for so long.

Lesson learned.... to write about feelings gets some of it out so that it's not bottled up inside.

[WebLady]

I cry, I write, I pray ... then I try to learn and move on.

[hummingbird521]

I cry, pray and talk to my DH and family about it.

[SerendipityCrafts]

The old me didn't deal...I drank and ran from my problems (I was in denial that life could suck so bad and that my ex was doing what he was doing).

The new me prays and talks it out with people who love me.

And I thought Hugh was my twin! You must be the long lost sister I don't have!!!

[Valmai]

i have always dealt with them and got on with it, i always remember a saying once said to me - 'when im sick i have to get up wipe my own mouth and get on with it cos there sure isnt anyone else whose gonna always b there to do it for me'.
Jamie gets a little upset at this attitude but a lot has happened to me and it takes a lot to trust and rely on others to that extent. xxx

[Orgirl1969]

I don't embrace pain, but I expect it as part of living. I would consider myself a survivor and like someone else said, I just pick myself up by my own bootstraps and keep plugging along. That, and the occasional self-medicating night out with the girls keeps me sane! :cheers: