Would you allow your child to sleep in your home with their boyfriend/girlfriend?

[MOB Karen]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_2_108v.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZNxdm824YYUS)Assuming you had children, and they were adults at the time, would you let them sleep together in your home?

[MOB Karen]

I would if they were in a serious, committed relationship. :laugh:

[ladymelissa]

I can't imagine having kids, but I would only want them to stay there if they were married and fell on hard times or were visiting for holidays or other special occasion. I would probably make an exception if they were engaged, with a date set, plans in the works and were visiting for a special occasion.

[WebLady]

Well I'm not having kids so I can't comment on what I would do. But my sister lives with my parents with her baby's daddy (supposed FH) and my youngest brother lives at home with his girlfriend too.

I don't think my parents would have let this happen with me. I was married before I lived there with my SO. Well, I did have one bf spend the night before.

[CarlosHoney]

The way I feel about it... Being in denial about your children's sex lives is only going to lead to them making irresponsible mistakes. My mom always discussed sex openly and honestly with us, and let us know that birth control options were avalible.

I would let Elias have his girlfriend stay over under the following conditions:

1) They used protection (or at least had it avalable to them of they weren't active)
2) Her parents were 100% okay with it
3) They were both mature enough to understand what they were doing

I don't think that the "My child wouldn't do that" attitude is a good one. I've known more kids that ended up with STD's and unplanned children because their parents didn't want to face up to their sexual maturity.

[SerendipityCrafts]

My ex lets my daughter (18) spend the night over at the boyfriend's place. Apparently the boyfriend's mother is ok with it too.

My daughter should be be happy she's not living with me because I won't let her sleep with her boyfriend. I am not in denial ... my daugter and I are close & we talk all the time. She has birth control (because I would rather her be protected). That said, I am not in favour of this relationship and I will not encourage her to sleep with this young man. It's my house, my rules - you don't like them - too bad; there is a hotel down the street. If you are old enough to sleep together then you are old enough to pay for a place to do it.

When they came for our wedding they stayed at my friend's place and I instructed my friend not to let them share a bed there either. LOL

Now if they were older, living together, or engaged, I may let them but otherwise no.

[beachbum0519]

I come from a very old fashioned and religious family and it is forbidden to do so. I see nothing wrong with that, and so the same values and morals will be taught to my children. (But I have to say, there have been many a nights I have slept over at my FH house :purplex: knowing in my parents eyes that it was wrong. Which doesn't say alot about me I guess:bbredface: )

[ladymelissa]

I think you can be open about sex and STDs and teaching sexual responsibility without turning your home into a motel. I think if they are going to be old enough to live together, they should be mature enough to do it in a financially responsible manner.

[Jenn060306]

I think if it were a serious relationship and they lived together and/or had plans to marry one day.
Mark and i were not allowed to sleep in the same room when we stayed at my mom's house prior to the wedding. We lived together for 2 1/2 years before the wedding and have been together for nearly 7 years now. I think it is a bit silly because she knew we shared at bed at home. But all she could say about it was 'Not in my home' Now we are married and have stayed there once since then. We now live in the same town so we don't have the 45 min drive home anymore.

[MOB Karen]

I'm not gonig to let them use my house for a roll in the sack, but if they are living together, committed to each other, or something along those lines, I wouldn't make them sleep apart. That's just silly. Who was I? Virgin Karen.

[CarlosHoney]

I come from a very old fashioned and religious family and it is forbidden to do so. I see nothing wrong with that, and so the same values and morals will be taught to my children. (But I have to say, there have been many a nights I have slept over at my FH house :purplex: knowing in my parents eyes that it was wrong. Which doesn't say alot about me I guess:bbredface: )This is an honest question: Do you think that it's okay for them to "Do as I say, not do as I do"?

I grew up in a house like that, to a degree.... I hated it. :ooh:

[ladymelissa]

This is an honest question: Do you think that it's okay for them to "Do as I say, not do as I do"?

I grew up in a house like that, to a degree.... I hated it. :ooh:
No, I do not agree with that. My parents didn't say that. There are some situations where that line could be appropriate, esp. with younger children regarding bed times and such. During the teen years and with bigger issues my parents did a good job leading by example.

[LaceyinPgh]

Sorry, I am not running a by the hour motel. My parents were not all that conservative but under no circumstances would I have been allowed to share a room with my boyfriend under their roof. Even in college when I was on my own and came home for the holidays it wouodn't have been acceptable. I never had a problem with that, it was their house after all. I don't see why it should be any different. I am not in denial about sexual activity in young people. But, that doesn't mean I have to support the activity either. Now I think if my kids were far more mature (out of that high school/sollege stage,) it would be a different story especillya if it were a long term relationship.

[cowboysbride]

I voted no...I never slept with my ex when we were living together in my parents home or his parents home. I'm a hippocriate on this subject...been there done that, won't let my kids do it....my problem.

[MOB Karen]

Sorry, I am not running a by the hour motel. My parents were not all that conservative but under no circumstances would I have been allowed to share a room with my boyfriend under their roof. Even in college when I was on my own and came home for the holidays it wouodn't have been acceptable. I never had a problem with that, it was their house after all. I don't see why it should be any different. I am not in denial about sexual activity in young people. But, that doesn't mean I have to support the activity either. Now I think if my kids were far more mature (out of that high school/sollege stage,) it would be a different story especillya if it were a long term relationship.

I believe I used the term "adult" in my original thread.

[Kacie_bride]

Since we are talking about adults I would let my grown child sleep in the same bed as their boyfriend/girlfriend if they were already living together. Most grown people would not have sex in their parent's house anyway. I know I don't when Justin and I stay the night (on very rare occasions) at my parents or his.

Now if they were teenagers that would be a different story. Under special circumstances I might let a girlfriend/boyfriend stay the night, but in a different room.

[MOB Karen]

Now if they were teenagers that would be a different story. Under special circumstances I might let a girlfriend/boyfriend stay the night, but in a different room.

Teenagers would have been a completely different answer for me too, that's why I put "adult" on the original post. :grinhappy:

[rainbowtreat]

If they are adults and in a realashipt and already living together then I would not have a problem with it. You take it to teenagers then there is a whole differnt line to cross there.

[mariaandmanish]

I'm in two categories... I think I would if 1. they were already living together and were either staying with me temporarily or just visiting... and 2. if they were in a serious committed relationship that was heading towards marriage.

Also, when I was in high school, my bf at the time had had serious problems with is stepmom and ended up having to move in with me and my family in order to have a place to stay. We did not have the same room at all, and were not allowed to sleep together at all, or have the door closed in either of our rooms when my mom was home, so I might consider that an acceptable situation if my child were older.

[CarlosHoney]

I believe I used the term "adult" in my original thread.I just caught that!! :grinhappy:

In that case, yes. If they're not under my roof, what business is it of mine? Elias was born out of wedlock....

[Kacie_bride]

I just caught that!! :grinhappy:

In that case, yes. If they're not under my roof, what business is it of mine? Elias was born out of wedlock....

Yeah, but would you allow him to bring in random women into your home every time he visited?

[hummingbird521]

If over the age of 18 and in a serious committed relationship then the answer would be yes. If under the age of 18 NO WAY.

[Valmai]

Been there done that and no i would not let her sleep with her boyfriend if he ever stayed over at ours. If she lived with him, without getting married then i suppose that would be a different story but at the time they were getting a little serious were sexually active and took precautions but no way were they gonna sleep together in my house when we were in the next room, we also never allowed her to stay over at his house. I never slept with my boyfriend in his or my parents house id have had too much respect - it just how i was brought up i suppose. sex was never a taboo subject with my mother or with my kids i just wouldnt have felt comfortable with it. xxx