Red Wedding Dress

[lindsayo18]

I have a huge dilemna...I purchased a red wedding dress and it has seemed to cause an uproar with my future in laws. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years, we have a 4 month old daughter and are having a very simple, low key civil ceremony. I saw this dress at David's Bridal and fell in love with it. Is it so horrible that it is red and not the traditional white??? Please help!!!

[CarlosHoney]

Honestly, it's your wedding, do it your way. If you've been with him for 8 years and have a child together, I don't see what difference it makes if your dress is purple with green polka dots (and puffy sleeves).

If his clan are ultra traditional, they need to come to terms that you are not, and that anything goes these days. Back, way back, in the old days, wedding dresses were black or dark colors with some festive embellishment, so that the dress got some practical use after the wedding.

Good luck, and keep us posted!

[lindsayo18]

Carlo'sHoney~

Thanks for the help! Everyone is right...it is my day and I shouldn't care what anyone else has to say! Thank you!!

[SueMartin]

we shouldnt worry about what people tyhink.. but we do.. look if your FIL's are ultra conservative then I think that they should realise after living together AND having a child that you were not traditional... wear what you & your FH like, and they will either have to accept it or not attend.

[wedbyjean]

Wear what you want to wear. Brides used to wear dresses in colors other than white before Queen Victoria got married, and she only wore white because whe wanted to wear something different and special for her wedding day! So why not wear red (or blue, or green . . . )?

[WebLady]

I may I have seen the red dress from David's you are talking about and I think it is beautiful! I personally like a little 'non-tradition' :wink:

Like everyone else said, don't worry what they think, they should accept you and your choices, whether it is your wedding or raising your daughter or whatever. If they don't like it they don't have to be apart of your life, ya know?!

I had a similar problem with my mom just before I got married, it wasn't so much about what I was wearing but that we were not having a 'traditional' wedding. I told her that I loved her and wanted her to be there but reminded her that it was My day and My way and if she wanted to be there she would have to keep her opinions to herself. She did :wink:

As for the whole 'white' thing; check this out ...

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* Did you know that brides didn't always wear white? Back in the 18th century, brides just wore their Sunday best. Red was a favorite during the middle ages in Europe and still is in some Asian cultures. (and is becoming quite popular today) Other colors were often worn for symbolic reasons; blue for constancy, green for youth (not wealth?!) So as far as we know, white was never really a symbol of "purity" It later became a symbol wealth and stature as many people didn't have the disposable income to own such a garment that was bound to get dirty and then could never be worn again. (guess they didn't know about bleach) In later years the color white evolved to symbolize joy and happiness of the wedding itself. Now it is acceptable to be adorned by any bride regardless of her age or "purity" or even if it happens to be her second wedding. Today, many brides are opting for other colors such as Rum pink, Platinum silver, Champagne gold, etc ... though mostly just for the fashion statement.
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Best of luck to all!

WebLady :)

[lenor_1]

You know what its whatever makes you happy I myself have a red dress. In fact I had mine custom made and was getting all kinds of hell from diffrent seamstress i interviewed. Then my family joined in. They finaly shut up when i sat everyone down and explained it like this. Its MY wedding I PAID for the dress and IM kthe one that has to wear it. If you dont like show me a check or shut the hell up.

Granted my way was a bit mean tempered but when you find the perfect dress who cares what anybody else has to say.

:lol: :twisted: :lol:

[bnd94]

I wanna see the red dresses! girls you have to post pics too!!! :D

[CindySue]

Im trying to copy and paste a pic of the dress Im going to be wearing but I cant get it to work....how do I do this?

[CarlosHoney]

Post the image url and then highlight it. Then click the Img button, and hit preview.

[CindySue]

It didnt work for me......wouldnt pull it from my file.

[WebLady]

http://www.yourimagehere.com

This should work ... is this what you are doing?

http://www.southsidebride.com/wed_date.jpg

~WebLady :)

[bnd94]

I use my photobucket account. Just sign up, it's free, then upload your pictures and copy the IMG link and paste it here. Let us know if you need any help.

[CindySue]

Where do I sign up for the photobucket account?

[CarlosHoney]

www.photobucket.com

[CindySue]

Ok Ladies....heres the dress I will be wearing. This is my best friend wearing it....I cut off her headto protect her idenity. I will have to have it altered because its a tad big on me, and Im thinking of having it shortened....what do yall think?


http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b364/Cindysue3132/weddingdress3.jpg

[WebLady]

This is a nice dress CindySue, I like the detail in the top. As for making it shorter, that is your preference, and depends on how much shorter or taller you are than the girl in the picture. If you are going for a more formal look, the longer length is better, at least IMO :wink: I think it is a nice length on her in the picture.

Best wishes,

~ WebLady :)

[robindepaula]

I've actually shot two weddings where the bride's dress was red -

one was on Halloween 2004 & her dress was made to be a replica of the dress Winona Ryder wore in Bram Stoker's Dracula - it was beautiful!!

the second wedding I shot where the bride had a red dress was just a few weeks ago - she wasn't planning on a red dress, but her home was totally destroyed in the wake of Hurricane Katrina (she lived in Chalmette, LA) - in the home was all of her original wedding stuff - dress, shoes, etc. She had called off the whole thing then 3 weeks before, she decided to go ahead with the wedding, although scaled down & at a private residence. She went to David's bridal & found a red dress that she loved - she looked beautiful.

It's your wedding day - wear what makes you happy! Don't worry about what anyone else wants you to wear.

Robin :D