Nosy About Kids

[CarlosHoney]

For those choosing not to have kids, are people nosy about it? Do they tell you how much you'll regret it, you'll change your mind later, etc?

For those with children, do people pressure you into having another? Ask a million questions about how many you want, spacing between kids, etc?

[CarlosHoney]

I originally didn't want children. At 17 years old I walked into my OBGYN's office and asked him about permanent birth control. He laughed at me and asked if I wanted it in pill, shot, or patch form. Now that I have one, I wouldn't change it for the world, but I don't think I want another.

It seems like at least a few times a month someone asks me when we're having #2. They all are experts, and know that I'll just regret it forever if we don't. "But don't you want a girl?" "Don't you think he'll be lonely?" "When you're gone, he'll be alone. When you're old, he'll have the burden of taking care of the both of you." :irked:

I had an awful pregnancy, and I don't believe that I want to go through 2am feedings, diaper changes, baby food, and *labor* again after Elias is old enough to feed himself and walk and talk. I might change my mind... but that's my business.

[WebLady]

My answer is somewhere between the 2nd and 3rd choice ;)

I don't want kids and I think I always knew I didn't, but I didn't really make it known until after I got divorced from my ex.

I get people that tell me I should. I've had people say I will change my mind or say "Who will take care of you when you are old?" and I am just being selfish, or I should let God decide. I even had Dr ask me why I was marrying a man that couldn't make babies with me ... I had a couple of others tell me I shouldn't marry (before we got married) my husband because he has a vasectomy :bbrolleyes:

It used to be really bad, but most of the people that know me pretty much leave me alone about it now. My mom still makes comments every now and then. And I still get the occasional comment from others.

[LaceyinPgh]

One person, Sean's cousin came out and directly asked me about a year into Sean and I's relationship when I was having children because her son needed a playmate. I flat out informed her that it was none of her business when and if I ever had children. That was a personal decision that she would never be privy too.

WHen visiting friends this summer one of them asked us when to start planning the baby shower. I told them, when they were prepared to quit their jobs, give up their live, and pass their life savings on to move in with us and raise the kid.

After both of those incidents no one seems to ask anymore. I wonder why?

[Jenn060306]

They ask polietly or hint at it. Before we got married there was alot of pressure on us to have a honeymoon baby. Esp. from SiL & BiL who are dying to be an aunt and uncle. Thankfully i think word has gone arround quietly that there are some troubles there for us and nobody has been asking. I think if people were to start bugging us about it right now i would be very upset by it all.

[mariaandmanish]

DH and I have been together now for 6 years, and way before we were even married, his SiL (now mine!) was asking us when we were getting married and having kids. Since we got married... a whole month ago!, we've had people ask us, and one couple even told us that they started a bet as to when we were going to start!! I mean, gee!! give us our own time!

[jeni740]

people ask all the time, even when I say I cant have children they think that there has to be a way it amazes me sometimes that they dont listen and continue to pry