Agitated!!!!!!!!!!!!

[kevinsbride2B]

Kevin and I have finally sat down seriously to write out a guest list. Things didn't go as smoothly as I had imagined...
Our original plan was to have 100 guests max! I started out with 93 (for my side) and cut it back till I was only 19 over. Kevin apparently spoke with his family and they don't want too many of my friends coming to the reception as they will have older family flying in from England. This would be one thing if they were paying for much of the wedding or at least any, but they're not. The wedding is going to be strictly funded out of my pocket and my families! When I heard this i didn't know whether to scream, cry or push it aside in my brain.
To top it off my mom heard it all and she almost lost it. She sat in her room and became the grouch.
I'm just frusterated. They want a say then they can pay, am I right?

[MOB Karen]

They want a say then they can pay, am I right?

Very eloquent and very true, Lindsey!!! You don't need our help with this one, you nailed it!!! :wink:

[kevinsbride2B]

I guess I just need o keep watering that money tree in the backyard right? He was talkign to his parents this mornign and they said that all these people can come but only if they're there for dinner and they're on time. Well then these were people originally not invited for family as they are friends and they only expected to come later and celebrate with us. Now his parents feel that we can just knock out and extra 60-70 dinner like it's no big deal. WHATEVER!

[ikkin510]

You to your FILs "We would love to have them attend our entire event! That will only cost YOU $$$$$$. Thanks, and I"ll need that money by the time we send out the invites!"

[MOB Karen]

You to your FILs "We would love to have them attend our entire event! That will only cost YOU $$$$$$. Thanks, and I"ll need that money by the time we send out the invites!"

Exactly! :laugh:

[ladymelissa]

Yes, I totally agree with what everyone else said, if they want X number of people invited over and above the amout your family can afford, then they should pay for it.

[kevinsbride2B]

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ya send all bills which need pay to Lindsey, care of her money tree, Toronto, Ontario, Canada. lol

[ladymelissa]

I guess I should go on to say, you should make every effort to be as fair as possible about things and divide the guest list as evenly as possible. That is the courteous thing to do, not really a requirement as you and your family are the hosts, you do have the final say.

But this is your future husband and his family, so trying to be fair isn't terrible. I am not sure to what extent the guest list issue is, but if you are inviting every person you have ever met in your life and then exclude FH's aunt from England; one could argue that there is something a little wrong with that.

[WebLady]

I would be upset about this too! I agree with everyone else ... you guys should try to divide the guest list as evenly as possible on both sides. Give the in-laws a number of guests they can invite and if they go over that, they can pay or go without.

It is really sad the way weddings tend to bring out such behavior in people.

[kevinsbride2B]

It's nothing rediculous like that!!!!!!!! It's like 65% of the people are my family and friends. I also just have more friends then he. That's what most of it is. He has family that he's not close coming and I happe to have a lot of those to which i am close with.
i would never do something like that. That's rediculous!