I made a huge mistake!

[CarlosHoney]

I am utterly perplexed by what to do! :( My guest list is 50, that's including my attendants. Well, the problem is, that we were going to have 4 attendants each at my FI's request to have his Brother as his best man, His cousin, and his two best friends as groomsmen. So, I found two more girls to be my bridesmaids.

Now, it seems that the general consensus among all financers is to have 4 attendants TOTAL. How do I talk to my girls? How do I put them in another posistion without making them feel utterly awful? These are some of my best friends. Making a decision on who to cut has been dificult, but I know who I'm going to keep on. My best friend of 6 years, and my sister. The other two I've known for 2 1/2 and 1 year respectively.

I just feel really awful. :cry:

[LaceyinPgh]

There is no reason to cut your wedding party down. Have as many people as you want to. Just because it seems untraditional to have a bigger party at a small wedding doesn't mean anything these days. You can never have too many people to love you so much that they will wear uncomfortable shoes and bridesmaid's dress while standing on display for you. :lol: You can't really uninvite any of them anyway. Besides it isn't going to cost more to have them there, they would be invited anyway. You only have 2 more gifts and bouquets to worry about.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I agree with Lacey, asking these girls to step down is not something you should have to do and just imagine how you will make them feel! I agree with EVERYTHING that Lacey said so I won't repost the same opinion. Just put yourself in their shoes, how would it make you feel?!

~CanadianBride~

[Bride]

I agree with both Canadianbride and Lacey, don't worry about having the two extra girls. It's no more than the gifts for them and the bouquets. They pay for everything else. If you have asked these two to be in your wedding party because you really wanted them there, the honor they feel for being involved is amazing....and they will really appreciate the effort you go to to have them involved.

all the best! :)

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, I told everyone that it was too bad. It was them or me. And they can't do it without me, so it's all straightened out.

Thanks girls!

[Bride]

haha, girl i know you have mentioned you are a newbie at this wedding thing, but they way you handled this situation...you are going to be just fine.....

all the best and keep up that spunky spirit :lol:

[CarlosHoney]

Thanks! I'm just going to have to be myself. And myself is a, um, what's a nice word for it?

Well, I am nice, and nice, and nice, and it takes a lot to get me upset, but once I feel like 'El Doormat' I tell them to mess off..

[SueMartin]

dont be a doormat.. and I am sure from reading the posts you arent... just have the wedding party the way & number you want.. after all, we all need as many people as we can get to love & support us..

[neeni13]

Let them work the numbers around your four finacer's have nothing to do with bouqets and boutnierres (sp) ,say 2 less bottles of booze not how many should be in your party I say.

[CarlosHoney]

Thanks guys. I'm having all 4. It's my wedding and I can have 12 if I want, but I don't want 12, I want 4. My best pals in the whole world. Word.

[MZANGELICA]

FIRST OFF THERE IS NO REASON TO KICK THEM OUT YOU LOVE THOSE GIRLS AND YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO HAVE PPL AROUND U THAT U CARE ABOUT ON THAT DAY TO SHARE IT WITH AND IF U DO HAVE TO KICK THEM OUT THEN IF THEY LOVE U THEY WILL UNDERSTAND, JUST MAKE A DECISION SOON, THE LONGER U W8 THE MORE SET THEY ARE ON THIS THING.
GOOD LUK AND REMEMBER:

GOD BLESSES THOSE WITH A PURE HEART AND A CLEAR CONCIOUS.