Strip Clubs?

[CarlosHoney]

Did you/will you or your FH/DH go to a strip club the night of your stag parties?

[CarlosHoney]

My Dh did. I was very very very angry. I felt like it was cheating. :irked: He's never been other than that (he's almost 25) but I felt betrayed and hurt. :sob:

[LaceyinPgh]

Strippers are one of those things that to be fall under the degredation of women. I have no tolerance for that and neither does my husband. Neither of us veiw it as cheating. We just feel that as individuals we have evolved past those forms of entertainment. He doesn't go to strip bars. I certainly have no desire to sit and room and have a man jiggle his genitals for my "amusement". Frankly a root canal seems more entertaining to me. So no, my husband's bachelor party consisted of beer and poker at a friends house. My bachlorette party was a fun night a comedy club that included my mother and mother in law.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Matthew knows how I feel about strippers and he feels the same way. We respected each other and knew what we were both doing on our Stag/Stagette nights. We had fun and felt safe and secure in the knowledge that neither of us were looking at anything we weren't supposed to!!

[ladymelissa]

Neither one of us did, we had no interest. We didn't even have b-parties as we don't really like the bar scene, either.

However, if I had my choice between needing and getting a root canal or spending an hour or two in a strip club, the strip club would win hands down! :bblol:

[septemberbride06]

Lucky for me JOe is not into any of that stuff. He loves ME. We both respect each other enugh not to go to those sort of places. Even Hooters is off limits!

:drunk: We still had so much fun!!

[mariaandmanish]

I don't see the point, and it's not me at all, so I was a definite no. At one point, I thought that the party my SiL had planned was at a strip club, and I was completely not looking forward to it. DH had thought that he would go when he was in Vegas for his party, but decided against it. I wouldn't have minded if he went, so long as all he did was look!! I know that he would never do anything else, but it makes me feel better to know that he didn't go. HOnestly, if he really wants to go to a strip lcub, I would rather go with him than let him go without me.

[AllyM1]

Neither of us did, but I wouldn't have a problem with it. It's entertainment and that's all. I feel having a problem with my husband going just says that I am insecure about our relationship.

[hummingbird521]

Neither of us did, but I wouldn't have a problem with it. It's entertainment and that's all. I feel having a problem with my husband going just says that I am insecure about our relationship.

Ditto this. It wouldn't have bothered either of us in the least. but we had no desire to go. I have always had a rule, Look, but don't touch. And it goes both ways. I am not dead and looking never hurts anyone.

[AllyM1]

Sorry if it makes me crude or nasty if I like going to strip clubs, but it's just fun to have a good time and throw some bills at guys.. Whatever...

I wouldn't care in the LEAST bit if my DH went to a strip club because I can trust him and I am not insecure about our relationship.

[MOB Karen]

I wouldn't care in the LEAST bit if my DH went to a strip club because I can trust him and I am not insecure about our relationship.

That's how Amber feels too. We didn't much want to go to a strip club for Amber's party, but they took Jason to one, and Amber didn't have any problem with it at all. Amber is very secure in her relationship with Jason, he adores her!!!

[CarlosHoney]

Sorry if it makes me crude or nasty if I like going to strip clubs, but it's just fun to have a good time and throw some bills at guys.. Whatever...

I wouldn't care in the LEAST bit if my DH went to a strip club because I can trust him and I am not insecure about our relationship.I hope you don't think that I'm insecure about our relationship. It's not that AT ALL. I just don't like the fact that another woman was rubbing her T&A in MY MAN's face. His friends who orchestrated it (as well as Carlo) were in the dog house for over a month.

I told him that whether she was paid or not, it's not right. His best friends brought their girlfriends, because they wouldn't allow them to go without them. So, I wonder, then why is it okay for them to take Carlo alone?! :irked:

[AllyM1]

That's how Amber feels too. We didn't much want to go to a strip club for Amber's party, but they took Jason to one, and Amber didn't have any problem with it at all. Amber is very secure in her relationship with Jason, he adores her!!!

Good! I love hearing that! =)

It's just my opinion, but when I see girls get upset or guys for that matter that their SO went to a strip club I just want to say, "Is he/she coming home to you?? Do you really not trust them?" If you trust your significant other than you shouldn't have a problem.

My thought is grow up and get over it...

[AllyM1]

I hope you don't think that I'm insecure about our relationship. It's not that AT ALL. I just don't like the fact that another woman was rubbing her T&A in MY MAN's face. His friends who orchestrated it (as well as Carlo) were in the dog house for over a month.

I told him that whether she was paid or not, it's not right. His best friends brought their girlfriends, because they wouldn't allow them to go without them. So, I wonder, then why is it okay for them to take Carlo alone?! :irked:

I'm not saying YOU personally, that's just my overall experience with my friends and my guy friend's gf's. If you are secure in your relationship, that's really great to hear/read. But it's annoying to hear your friends whine about the fact that their guy is going to a strip club... A girl can rub her breast or bum on my DH by accident walking by him... I don't really mind because I know he loves me and he's coming home to me.

[jeni740]

we are not, well I am not, his friends might take him there, I dont care he is pretty trustworthy, and if he can find someone with a skinnier waist and bigger chest then me good luck!!:D

[CarlosHoney]

I'm not saying YOU personally, that's just my overall experience with my friends and my guy friend's gf's. If you are secure in your relationship, that's really great to hear/read. But it's annoying to hear your friends whine about the fact that their guy is going to a strip club... A girl can rub her breast or bum on my DH by accident walking by him... I don't really mind because I know he loves me and he's coming home to me.Yeah.. I know that he did come home to me. And, yes, he probably bumps into more T&A than I care to think about on accident....

But a gyrating stripper in nothing but a G-String and Heels in his lap, rubbing herself on him, is something that I'm just not comfortable with. Does that make me a prude? I don't really care.. I just know that it made me feel betrayed. I wouldn't do that to him...

I think that the worst part is that while he was at the strip club I was home with my BM's, just hanging out and getting ready for the wedding. :sob:

[AllyM1]

Every situation is different. I am sorry that you felt that way. And I'm sorry if he knew before hand yet went and did it anyway. I would be hurt as well.

I don't want a female gyrating on my husband either, but I don't care if its a one time thing.. it's his last night as a single man...

BTW-My husband did not go to a strip club because he didn't want to go.. I found that weird..

[WebLady]

Neither one of us went to any strip clubs and I am glad ;)

I didn't have any problems with my DH going out with his friends but I don't like the idea that some guys (and some girls, but not saying any of you ladies feel that way) think of this as 'Your last night of freedom' to me, if you think that way then why are you getting married?

DH and I have had talks about my feelings about strip clubs in general, if we wants to go out with his friends and waste his/our money on strippers then that is fine ... but he knows 'the rules'

The rules are, no touching and no lap dances, I don't care if someone else pays for it! The way I see it is that is MY space and I don't want another woman that close to MY man. I trust him and he says he understands and would respect my wishes if he ever went again. But I really hope he doesn't ever want to go again ... I have no urge to go to a male strip club and see a bunch of half naked men!

If you want to have a Bachelor/Bachelorette party then by all means don't let me stop you I just think that it shouldn't be some wild and crazy night that you would be afraid to tell your SO about.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Hugh and I have both been to strip bars when we were out with a group of friends but we had no interest in going to one b4 the wedding.

IMHO there other fun things that one can do for their stag or stagette.

My boss and his friends have a tradition whereby they make the groom dress in a ladies bathing suit and then they take him out on the town. He's put on display, ridiculed and offered up to the ladies for kisses. I must say that I wouldn't ever want to be my boss' friend but the photos are hillarious.

My scottish cousin and her friends take the bride out for a night of drinking and bar hopping. The bride is decked out with a veil, a corsage and a sandwich board sign that advertising kisses for $$$.

[LaceyinPgh]

My husband did not go to a strip club because he didn't want to go.. I found that weird..
There isn't anything weird about that. Sean didn't go to a strip club for his bachelor party. He didn't want to. Of all them I know, only 2 or 3 actually did go to a strip club.

I also want to add, that like Carrie, I don't have insecurity in my relationship. For as often as Sean is out of town, if I was insecure, this relationship would have ended years ago. I just don't think that women should be viewed as objects. I have worked hard my entire life to prevent it happening to me. So I feel that I would be a terrible person if I felt that was an acceptable way to treat other women. Our gender is too tough, strong, and fabulous to be treated without the utmost respect.

[AllyM1]

Well that's good...

But like I said before, I never said anyone on this site is insecure, but you can interpret my words however you wish to.

[CarlosHoney]

Neither one of us went to any strip clubs and I am glad ;)

I didn't have any problems with my DH going out with his friends but I don't like the idea that some guys (and some girls, but not saying any of you ladies feel that way) think of this as 'Your last night of freedom' to me, if you think that way then why are you getting married?

DH and I have had talks about my feelings about strip clubs in general, if we wants to go out with his friends and waste his/our money on strippers then that is fine ... but he knows 'the rules'

The rules are, no touching and no lap dances, I don't care if someone else pays for it! The way I see it is that is MY space and I don't want another woman that close to MY man. I trust him and he says he understands and would respect my wishes if he ever went again. But I really hope he doesn't ever want to go again ... I have no urge to go to a male strip club and see a bunch of half naked men!

If you want to have a Bachelor/Bachelorette party then by all means don't let me stop you I just think that it shouldn't be some wild and crazy night that you would be afraid to tell your SO about.That's how I feel. I just told him that if it wasn't acceptable on any other day, then WHY IS IT ACCEPTABLE ON THAT DAY?! His friends paid his admission, and his lap dance. I told him that if he didn't get the lap dance that it wouldn't have been so bad... But knowing that another woman was in his lap 24 hours before our wedding night made me physically nauseous after the wedding. I still feel like ripping his friends a new one sometimes.....:irked:

I just have more respect for the Girlfriends than to take their men to get a lap dance.

Carlo admitted to his friends and me both that he has no desire to ever go back, that it was an all around akward and negative experience, and that he wouldn't have gone if he could do things over. It doesn't change how I feel, really.. But I guess it's good that he has some remourse. I was really angry for a solid month.

And I wanted to mention to Ally.... :hug: I value your opinion and honesty. It takes guts to have an alternate opinion or viewpoint and speak your mind on it. I just wanted to clear up that I'm secure in my relationship just to clear it up............redundant........ Anyway.. I know that sometimes you might feel like you're getting a hard time from everyone. That's not the case! :grinhappy:

[Valmai]

I have no problem with them at all, i tend to think if thats what those women choose to do to earn a living then good for them. id have no problem Jamie going to one and he wouldnt have a problem if i did so either, we are thinking of having a joint stag/hen night so we can spend it with all our mates rather than just gender decided ones. I dont know whether they will end up getting a strippergram for him but i have told him that i really dont think this will bother me at all. xxx

[Kacie_bride]

I have no problem with it. I don't think either of us will go because we are not into it. I just don't care.

[cowboysbride]

I didn't go and neither did Eric....If he wants to get drunk and throw money at a naked woman...I can do it plus I'll mix the drinks or open the beers!

[CarlosHoney]

I didn't go and neither did Eric....If he wants to get drunk and throw money at a naked woman...I can do it plus I'll mix the drinks or open the beers!LOL! I love the way you think!! :grinhappy:

[cowboysbride]

LOL! I love the way you think!! :grinhappy:

TY Ma'am!

Just for clarification Eric doesn't drink and he throws his money at me stone cold sober! I still get naked for him (sorry if TMI) so why in the hell would I or he have the need for that...plus I agree with Lacey...it's degrading to male and females strippers/dancers (whatever) both!

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah. Carlo is super anti alcohol.. Like, he got mad at me for having a Strawberry Margarita (a small one) at dinner one night with my Mom and her GF. :snide:

[cowboysbride]

Eric and I both have partied in our younger days....ALOT! Now we don't... I have had a drink here or there and he doesn't care...I got drunk at his Christmas Party last year and at my bach. party and he never said a word...as long as I'm not behaving like an idiot and embarrassing him he doesn't care. A social drink here or there is fine for me but even those are few and far between.

[StaceyMc]

I've never been to a strip club and have absolutely no desire to go to one. My FH was in the Navy - I've heard stories of Go-Go Bars with bikini clad women. I'm sure he's been in his fair share of places with the Navy guys. That was 10 years or more ago - he has no desire to do those things anymore.

I am very secure in our relationship - as Lacey said - with as much traveling as he did previously, if I had been insecure, I wouldn't be planning our wedding. However, I think either of us going to a strip club is disrespectful to our relationship - he agrees.

[Jenn060306]

We didn't. There was the idea from friends (oddly a married couple both suggested it to us) We never went though. It's just not our thing.

[AllyM1]

And I wanted to mention to Ally.... :hug: I value your opinion and honesty. It takes guts to have an alternate opinion or viewpoint and speak your mind on it. I just wanted to clear up that I'm secure in my relationship just to clear it up............redundant........ Anyway.. I know that sometimes you might feel like you're getting a hard time from everyone. That's not the case! :grinhappy:

Well maybe you feel that way but you are not on the receiving end. I can read when people are taking cheap shots. But the only difference is I don't back down and I don't get bothered.

I don't know whether anyone means harm or not or that's just how it's perceived but I don't have any problems with anyone on this board...but I want to say again, I never said that EVERY girl who doesn't want her bf/fh/dh to go to a strip club is insecure. That's just been my experience with girls and gf's of my guy friends.

[beachbum0519]

[quote=CarlosHoney]I hope you don't think that I'm insecure about our relationship. It's not that AT ALL. I just don't like the fact that another woman was rubbing her T&A in MY MAN's face.


I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YA GIRLIE!!!! I'm not insecure about my relationship at all...but that doesn't mean I want some random chick trying to entice my fh!! But we both have the same views on this...neither of us like it, so I'm not worried about it.

[racecargirl]

I've been to a few with friends in the past. I'm ok with Dave going for his bachelor party. They were talking about having it somewhere and having one or two strippers at the party, I don't necessarily like that idea. Most strip clubs have pretty strict rules.