FH adopting my daughter

[chrissgurl2007]

Chris wants to aopt my daughter and I weant him to also, her father is only in her life when its convenient for him and doesn't care if he goes 6 months or more without seeing her or calling what would you all do with this situation?

[brewsells]

Chris wants to aopt my daughter and I weant him to also, her father is only in her life when its convenient for him and doesn't care if he goes 6 months or more without seeing her or calling what would you all do with this situation?
I am in the same situation as you.. My ex hasn't seen my son since he was 1 and he is now 6. My SH is going to adopt him and I will change his name. In my state this is what I have to do: Termination of Parental Right (this can be done with the ex's consent or not.. although it's easier with consent). Once the termination is done, then you have to go through the adoption process. From what I have heard, it's not too difficult. And if you are changing her name, you can do that at this time..
Hope this helps you somewhat. You could contact your local legal aid office and they can help you with all the forms you will need. Or you can, of course, hire an attorney to assist.

[LaceyinPgh]

Chris wants to aopt my daughter and I weant him to also, her father is only in her life when its convenient for him and doesn't care if he goes 6 months or more without seeing her or calling what would you all do with this situation?
It isn't a difficult process, depending on state. The hardest part is to get your child's bilogical father to terminate his rights. If he does so voluntarily than you have no issue. If he refuses than you usually have to get the courts invovled. If he does not want his rights terminated and is willing to fight it to prove that he is a fit parent (it takes alot to be unfit) than you have a long hard road ahead of you.
My advice is to find a good family law attorney in your area that specializes in the matter. It is going to be time consuming and expensive no matter which course you go down. Good luck.

[chrissgurl2007]

Thank you we wouldn't be considering this if he was a good father to her but since he doesn't seem interested I dont see why he would fight it

[LaceyinPgh]

Thank you we wouldn't be considering this if he was a good father to her but since he doesn't seem interested I dont see why he would fight it
People have their reasons for everything. I would consult an attorney before you bring the topic up with anyone.

[chrissgurl2007]

Thanks everyone we will get lagal help before it is discussed with anyone

[kevinsbride2B]

I actually was in your daughters situation. My Mom remarried a man when I was just a little kid who took me in as his own. My bio da didn't really care much about me and went on to have 2 sons with his new wife.
MY mom gave him a choice... he could either continue to pay child supprt and see me every other Sunday or he could cut all ties with me, not pay and let my dad adopt me. He chose to cut ties and it wasn't a hard decision for him. The same hour he had his decision.
By no means do i want people to think that my mother didn't want me with him as a selfish reason. He wasn't a good guy. It was in my best interst for numerous reasons to not be with him.
My Dad then got the papers reasy and adopted me! It was probably the best idea, although there are tiems now that I wish I knew him especially with my wedding coming up, and health issues that I would like some help on. He has chosen not to communicate with me at all. That does hurt. My advce to you would be to see what the future would hold bewteen your daughter and her bio dad. One day she might want to get to know him better, how does he feel about that?