Only 18 days to go and i'm stressing

[Bride]

k, i have only 18 days until my wedding and i'm starting to freak out a little, no a lot...BIG stress...not about getting married, that's the only part that doesn't even phase me...i;m meant to be with my FH, but the plans and the every other thing that's involved! Yikes! :?

Any suggestions on how to deal with this? i'm usually level headed but now i'm getting to the point i can't sleep, i'm constantly distracted and no memory retention at all....i'm a mess.

i also quit my job this week, i've been here for years and b/c i'm moving to another city i have to finish here and i love my job.

maybe that's it....who knows....any help would be helpful.

[WebLady]

Marriage and relocation is a big change and change often causes stress ... the bottom line is that stress is bad for your health. It is perfectly natural to stress over things but you have to not let it get to you, yes, sometimes easier said than done :wink:

If it is not your FH you are worried about then everything else is really just small stuff in the big picture of things. You know what they say, "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff"

I find that writing things out helps me sort out my feelings ... maybe write down everything that is bothering you and analyze it. What is really important, what can you control and what is out of your control, are these things bothering YOU or is it that OTHER people are making a big deal out of it, what matters and what doesn't.

Another idea, maybe go out and do something with your FH, to get your mind of the wedding stress and remind yourself why you are doing this in the first place. And, No Wedding Talk After 10pm :wink:

Hope it all works out for you!

WebLady :)

[Bride]

thanx web lady for your advice. it's funny because i knew all that information before but sometimes i guess you just get so caught up that you forget where your head is!!! :)

sometimes you just need to hear that you are normal and being stressed about the most important day of your life is okay, just keep it all in perspective.

[WebLady]

thanx web lady for your advice. it's funny because i knew all that information before but sometimes i guess you just get so caught up that you forget where your head is!!! :)

sometimes you just need to hear that you are normal and being stressed about the most important day of your life is okay, just keep it all in perspective.

Yep, we all get caught up in stuff from time to time, we just have to sit back and look at the situation and realize it is often not as bad as we think. Many times we worry over things we have no control over anyway. Like I said, sometimes this is easier said than done :wink:

I myself deal with stressful situations and often have to tell myself to listen to what I tell others ... we often actually know who to handle our problems in most situations in life, we just forget and it helps hearing from others that understand and/or have been there.

When I am dealing with rough issues I try to remember the old serenity prayer ... "Give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" I think this logic can be used in many aspects of our lives.

Work on what you can control, try to be prepared but don't worry over things you can't. Even if some little thing doesn't go exactly as planned, (which happens in most weddings) many people won't notice anyway :wink:

Go have a fun day and don't think about the wedding.

Best of luck to you,

WebLady :)

[ANDY]

Lack of sleep can make everything worse. Chances are if you are well rested, the stress will not affect you as much. My advice is to get some meds to help you calm down when it is time to go to sleep. I work at a doctor's office and you would be surprised how many brides ask for anxiety meds for their wedding day or the days before. Don't be ashamed.
If anything goes wrong the day of your wedding, chances are you will be the only one who notices.
Good luck

[WebLady]

Lack of sleep can add to your stress level and make you irritable, and it also affects your heath. But I personally wouldn't recommend drugs unless it is absolutely necessary. There are usually better ways to cope with stress :wink: I think too many people are quick to turn to drugs.

If you are having problems sleeping, try some warm milk or maybe a glass of wine or other light drink before bed. (this goes back to the 'no wedding talk after 10pm' thing too) That usually works for me :wink: Or maybe take a couple Tylenol PM or something OTC, these usually have less side affects and are not as habit forming. But be sure NOT to mix the medication with alcohol!

A few years back I went to a wedding for a friend of a friend and the bride was so nervous that she took something to calm her (I think it might have been a Xanax) - well I don't know if she just reacted weird to it but she appeared to be pretty 'out of it' the whole day; she didn't enjoy the reception and it showed in the pictures.

I also don't recommend getting drunk the night before or the day of the wedding. Have A class of wine before the wedding if it will calm your nerves and have A class of champagne for the toast at the reception. You should know your tolerance, you don't want to be drunk at your wedding when everyone will be watching you and taking pictures and such ... you don't want to end up with embarrassing memories :wink:

Just my opinions - Best wishes!

WebLady :)

[Bride]

:D thanks for the replies girls!

lack of sleep does make things worse....you are confronted with your own brain attacking you while you're awake and everyone else is sleeping.

[Kissy27]

Hi, I've been feeling pretty stressed myself lately too, over the whole planning process of it. I began to feel that my whole life was consumed with the planning aspects of the wedding. I couldnt sleep, eat, I'd be in bed and remember some little thing, and I'd jump up and jot it down before I would forget! So, I started to go for daily walks everyday, just to clear my mind, and exercise! A little alone time is great for you, but also seek support from loved ones. What also helps is that I will think of the day of my wedding, and imagine seeing my FH waiting for me at the altar, while I'm doing this, I'll listen to our wedding song, and everything else simply does not matter (for that moment anyway).

I hope everything goes well for you! Best Wishes to you and your FH)
Kissy27