Keeping the spark

[WebLady]

I have been talking about something like this with a friend recently and thought I'd share here too.

Basically we all get comfortable in our relationships and day to day routines that we sometimes we forget that we need to nurture our relationship too.

Women love when their SOs are romantic and send cards and flowers and all, but how many of us do anything special for our partners too?

Men are generally not into flowers and such, but they like attention too. We have to make them want to come home and want to spend time with us. Of course they should do the same with us, but sometimes women seem to just always expect the man to do all the work for them.

So what do you do to keep things fun and romantic in your relationship?

[WebLady]

I am sure we get in ruts from time to time, but I try to keep it fresh and always let DH know how much I love an appreciate him.

I work from home so of course I take care of the house and the dogs and I cook and all. But I try to do little extra things too ... unless I am sick, I try to always look decent when he comes home for one. Like sometimes I will stay in my pjs for most of the day, but I will make sure to change before he gets home ;)

I will sometimes put little love notes in his lunch ... sometimes I will send him an email just to say I love you too (just did that actually). He always says thanks for cooking and such and I always say thank you to him for how hard he works to take care of us and all.

I am sure I could work more on the more intimate stuff, but that may be a topic for the private forum ;)

[amisteratwisterandme]

FH and I talk about this a lot. We both try to be appreciative all the time. Sometimes it's easier than others :yesnod:

When he gets home, I do yucky things for him, like helping him take off his shoes. I give him massages quite often. We don't text or email, so those are out for us, but I do bring him something to drink. He has a very physical job, so I know he is beat when he gets home. Right now, he is only working one or two days a week so it's not as much as it used to be.

I also make sure to randomly buy him his favorite ice cream when I am out and about.

Usually it's just small things, but they seem to make the big things easier.

It would be nice to have other ideas though

[WebLady]

I am interested in more ideas too.

I try to offer massages, but he doesn't seem to like them; it kinda makes me feel bad for asking him to give me one.

I try to always have things he likes around the house. When I cook, I try to make sure it is something he likes, even if I want something else. I know others who cook what they want and don't care.

I also know a few people who don't seem to "like" their husbands; they love each other, have been married a while, but seems to always bicker and enjoy their alone time a little too much if you ask me. I don't want to end up like that.

[f77g4]

I agree, day to day life can really get in the way sometimes and DH's shift work can be kinda draining.

I try to do what I can to keep him interested as in staying in jeans instead of putting on comfy clothes. I try to help with the housework when I can - DH does a lot since he is home 4 days a week. I thank him all the time for everything he does and I always tell him I love him. I'll also try to cook him his favorite meals when it is my turn to cook etc.

[pinkbride]

me and DH message eachother allll day long well, between work. He even messages me when he goes to bed if its before me haha!

I always make an effort to look good and I cook his dinner everynight and make his pack lunch for him, our us time is often watching movies and eating nice food though we are starting back at thr gym again together which sounds boring and awful but actually was something really nice to do together,.

[WebLady]

I wish my DH and I could to the gym together. But when he isn't working crazy hours and does make it to the gym himself, he usually goes late at night after dinner. I usually like to go mid day. Of course I would go a few times with him later in the day if we could get back in the habit.

[amisteratwisterandme]

This wouldn't be a daily thing, but we do make sure we have a date night every few weeks. This is different than going out to dinner randomly, this is when we stop all the crud of every day life and focus on what each other is thinking and looking forward too.

We both are very aware how easy it could be to feel "trapped" in a relationship, and I think being aware of that is half the battle.

[WebLady]

We try to do date night once a week unless he is working a lot. Usually it is just dinner out, but it gives us time to talk and hang out some.

[amisteratwisterandme]

There are times when I think about it, and realize that even if he's watching some silly show on tv that I can't stand, I still want to be right their with him.

The last few weeks he has been following me to the gas station in the mornings to fill up my tank or check my tires.

I love that! Okay, I just really hate checking my tires :rofl:

I think always thinking of the other one on a daily basis keeps things good between us.

Oh, one other thing, I never walk into a room he's in without a hug or a touch or something.

[KMS]

I try to keep in mind the little things that make Chad happy or make his life easier. It's kind of hard when our lives revolve around Paisley and my pregnancy right now. I wish that we could still do things like date nights, but I manage to grab a Redbox that I think he'd like now and then. We'll make popcorn, I'll buy some ice cream and have that for him as a surprise. Sometimes I'll send him cookies to work by an awesome local bakery or lunch delivery now and then since I know he gets tired of eating the food at the restaurant all of the time. I honestly used to do more before kids...so did he. After things settle down with having the baby and all I'm hoping to get back to us a little bit more.

[gwenshack]

We still date, so that helps. I bring him chocolates. He loves chocolates. So if I'm at a check out or something I'll grab him something I know he likes. ;) Or I'll just randomly do something for him that I know needs done. Like I'll go into his car and find his unpaid parking tickets and pay them. :rofl:

[mitch]

I get up at stupid o'clock with DH to make him a coffee before work. Even though i don't need to get up for at least another four hours. We text each other throughout the day that we miss each other. We always make contact as we go by each other. Touch on the arm or leg. Or i kiss his forehead as i pass him on the sofa. Even if he is flat out asleep. We say Love You often. Especially first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

[jennybaby]

We only get 3 days a week together and we make the most of it. I always call him at work when I get off of work (I get off at 1AM and he works overnights). He loves that. After New Years, I texted him and said he needs to call me because I don't want to talk to anyone before I talk to him (other than the people at work because I had no choice). He said he LOVED that. :heart: I'll cook food he likes, even though it's not always my favorite. I leave him notes. I will cuddle in bed with him, even if he's just reading and I am playing games on my phone. He does SO much for me though that I feel sometimes it's not enough!!

[Nekochanpurr]

I always make his lunch for work. He has games hes not allowed to play without me so i can sit on the couch with him and watch. There are shows/anime we aren't allowed to watch with out each other. Maybe i'm just needy. :rofl:

[ChristineLS]

I always make his lunch for work. He has games hes not allowed to play without me so i can sit on the couch with him and watch. There are shows/anime we aren't allowed to watch with out each other. Maybe i'm just needy. :rofl:

I make Will's lunch too! We chat in the morning. We're both working all the time and struggling with the long hours. Making lunch though helps start the day off well :)

[Nekochanpurr]

I usually work late while he works super early.. But i'm usually awake when he wakes up so.. :rofl: