Fight or Flight?

[WebLady]

We comes many times in our lives where we have to make a choice how to react. This can be anything from a disagreement to an altercation.

So lets talk about how we deal with such issues in our lives.

Again, please only respond if you want to and you can be courteous and respectful of the opinions of others.

[Jenn060306]

I am definatly non-confrontational. I hardly ever say somthing when people have done or said something that upset me or pissed me off. I don't know why. But any time somthing like that comes up my heart just starts to race and i begin to panic. It's no fun.
I don't really like being this way because it has allowed other people to walk all over me at times. When i was on student council i was Vice President of Public Relations. The Student Concil president was a complete dick and treated me like sh*t. He thought i was doing a terrible job even though i had done all the tasks required of me plus more. I just didn't go arround the college harrassing people about up coming events like he did. He suggested i quit, he said he had had complaints about me from other staff members in the office (which was not true i asked everyone if we were cool) then there was a rumor that he was going to try to impeach me. So me and the other VP's canned him first. That was one of the first times i really stood up for myself. Being on council was great. But.... i still hate confronting people.
I won't say anything if any one butts infront of me in line. One day i hope to be able to fight a little more for myself and those i care about.

[WebLady]

I voted 'Sometimes both' I guess it depends on the situation. I am generally non-confrontational if at all possible ... I don't like to argue or fight, but I will stand up for myself if I feel threatened or if someone is walking all over me.

If it is a situation where someone wants to physically fight with me, then I will try to get away from the situation. Not because I am afraid, but because I don't want to go to jail and I am just not a fighter, what does it really get you beat someone up? But if someone forces me into a fight, I will defend myself.

If it is a situation where I don't agree with someone, I will state that I don't agree and try to leave it at that to avoid making a big issue out of it. But when someone pushes me I will continue the discussion. But I don't see the point in the constant back and forth debate over things ... again, where does it get us.

Some people like drama and confrontation but I don't ... some people have told me that I just hide from the inevitable that you can't escape this kind of thing. Well I don't think I am hiding, I just think I have better things to do with my life than argue with someone. I choose to live my life a certain way and believe what I believe and I leave everyone else to do the same.

We can disagree, I disagree with many people in my life ... they respect me and I respect them and we are good. Those that don't, well I don't talk to them as much if any at all ... why would I want a constant source of drama in my life?!

[ladymelissa]

In a verbal disagreement, I will calmly present my position and I usually do not have a problem agreeing to disagree. I have absolutely no desire to have a fist fight over anything. The only time I would physically fight is if I were being physically attacked, mostly if it were like a rapist or a kidnapper.

[LaceyinPgh]

I 100% will fight back. And, once I start, I won't stop until I have won. I find no shame in that. I see no reason to walk away and let it go. I don't go out looking for confrontation or debate, but if you start something with me, you deserve whatever befalls you.

As for physicality. I have never been in a physical altercation in my life. I prefer to keep it that way. I was rasied that it is improper to raise your hand to someone. But, should someone be fool enough to start it, I will finish it.

[WebLady]

... I don't go out looking for confrontation or debate, but if you start something with me, you deserve whatever befalls you.
I agree and use this stance when someone pushes a button with me, but it often just gets out of hand and I just wish it hadn't started at all. Especially when I can't get the other person to see my point ... I guess I just tire of the argument and would rather just agree to disagree and not bring up the topic again.

... As for physicality. I have never been in a physical altercation in my life. I prefer to keep it that way. I was rasied that it is improper to raise your hand to someone. But, should someone be fool enough to start it, I will finish it.
I agree there too ... I've never been in a physical fight but I can and will defend myself if need be. But it would take alot to put me in fight mode.

[LaceyinPgh]

I agree and use this stance when someone pushes a button with me, but it often just gets out of hand and I just wish it hadn't started at all. Especially when I can't get the other person to see my point ... I guess I just tire of the argument and would rather just agree to disagree and not bring up the topic again.
I don't tire of an argument. I can keep it up for days or weeks until I get my point across. (Ask anyone who knows me.) Agreeing to disagree is not something I was raised to do. There is no reason to stop until the other party at least acknowledges my stance. Sometimes it just takes more work and time than others.

[Jenn060306]

I didn't comment on fight or flight for physical confrontation. I've never been in a fight before. I don't ever want to be.
I have had a past roomate threaten to hit me. I simply dared her to. I hated her and if she did hit me she would have been evicted that night. I don't think you win if you are violent towards other people.

[MOB Karen]

I said non-confrontational if at all possible. I stick up for myself, but it takes a lot for me to confront someone about something.

One time when Amber was a little girl, she ate some doughnuts at the grocery store that were samples. This man jumped all over her about taking food out of the boxes. He didn't even work there, he was just a customer like us. Well, she started crying. I ran over to that man and got up in his face, and said, "those are samples, you moron, mind your own f***ing business." He was all flustered and apologetic.

One time, when my son was a little boy, some man called him a bad name, and it upset my son and he was crying. I marched right over to that man's apartment, and I started screaming at him that if he ever called my son a name again, I was coming back over there to kick his and his scrawny wife's ass. She was in the kitchen peaking out, and was too scared to come out. He said he wouldn't do it again.

I'm kind of crazy when it comes to my kids. I am much more able to be confrontational when it concerns my children.

[WebLady]

I don't tire of an argument. I can keep it up for days or weeks until I get my point across. (Ask anyone who knows me.) Agreeing to disagree is not something I was raised to do. There is no reason to stop until the other party at least acknowledges my stance. Sometimes it just takes more work and time than others.
See I tried this with my sister in our last argument ... even though it started with something stupid, she refused to see my point and said things that made it worse. I just got tired of dealing with it so I tried to stop it. I still remember everything she said and I'm sure our relationship will forever be changed because of it, but we have agreed to disagree and move on with our lives.

If I knew that I would eventually get the person to accept my point, then I would be more apt to keep it up. But in most cases I just feel that the argument takes up too much of my life and causes too much stress. Most of the time this happens with arguments with my family. I don't think I've ever been in a really heated argument with a friend that went on for more than a day before we saw each others point.

[countrygirl]

It depends on the situation. If possible to calmly resolve an issue, great. But mess w my kids, Josh, family or friends, watch out. The german blood blows like crazy!!!!!

[cowboysbride]

I don't argue with idiots.... onlookers might get confused! I tell it like I see it and then walk off. Like it, fine....don't like it, too damn bad.

I have enough commen sense not to pick a fight but I was always told growing up that if someone started something with me I better damn well finish it....I never hit first but if someone touches me prepare to fight...I'm not saying it's right, but I've been put through some stuff in my life that would put gravel in anyones voice and I will fight if you back me into a corner. I am one of the nicest people you will ever meet and I'm certainly not a redneck who goes looking for a fight, but don't put me into a position that I have to defend myself because I will and I'm good at it, thanks to military and police training.

[Kacie_bride]

I voted sometimes both. Physically I am very unconfrontational. When arguing a point I can be both. It depends on how passionate I am about what we are talking about. Even if I disagree I try to take the other side's view into account.

[rainbowtreat]

Definatly confrontational , I made a vow to myself to never keep things built up inside. That ruined my marriage and I am damned if it is going to ruin anything else in my life. I will fight to make my point. My husband likes to let it go and wait till I calm down. Well this makes it worse for me. We dont have to actualy argure or fight but I want my point to be known. If you say something that I totaly do not agree with and you dont want to hear my point it p*sses me off. Atleast listen. As for a physical fight I have ben in one and she started it. Again not letting anythign go she mouthed at me and I wanted to make it clear to her that I was not going to stand by and take it. You have something to say about me say it to my face not from acroos a busy street of trafic when you know I am headed to work. When I confronted her she hit me. I didnt just take it I hit back. I was thought that hitting is not the answer but if I get hit , hit back untill they are down then put the puts to them. ( my mom exact words )

[LizabethDavis]

It depends really on my mood on whether I feel froggy or not. I usually try to pick my battles though.

[mariaandmanish]

I absolutely hate being confrontational at all. It makes me incredibly nervous to have to say something to someone that's important and confrontational. When I do get up the nerve, because it's amazingly important to me, I still shake and feel bad while I'm doing it. It's horrible!!

[CarlosHoney]

I'm prety easygoing when it comes to 90% of everything.. But once my button gets pushed, I tend to stand up for myself. I've regreted not doing that too many times..

[mlm063007]

I absolutely hate being confrontational at all. It makes me incredibly nervous to have to say something to someone that's important and confrontational. When I do get up the nerve, because it's amazingly important to me, I still shake and feel bad while I'm doing it. It's horrible!!

This is very much how I am. Unfortunatley, in the environment I work in I have had to deal with numerous people yelling at me. I will only say something if they start insulting me (something that has only been done once). But everytime someone gets mad because of some stupid rule, I am shaking for a long time afterwards.

[70707Bride]

I put both. Honestly, I love to argue, I don't know why but it gets on everyone else's nerves LOL! I don't always, but sometimes it begins as me saying something to try to make since of what was said, and people take it the wrong way. Its confusing.

[CarlosHoney]

I put both. Honestly, I love to argue, I don't know why but it gets on everyone else's nerves LOL! I don't always, but sometimes it begins as me saying something to try to make since of what was said, and people take it the wrong way. Its confusing.I love to argue too, but only about certain things. :bbmrgreen: