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Eddie
12-12-2011, 08:44 PM
Hello! My name is Eddie and I am planning on proposing to my girlfriend on christmas. I have a question for the ladies of this board. I know that she would love a christmas proposal and I don't think she would see it coming at all seeing that I've never been too huge of a fan of the holidays. She always gets really into christmas and its her favorite holiday and time of the year. So, I know I want to ask her on christmas, but I'm trying to think of when!

I work late christmas eve, so we will be waking up around 10 am that christmas morning. We are planning on going to her parents place for presents and an early dinner. Her parents live about a block away from a great part of town where they light up every tree with christmas lights. I would like to ask her in this area of town, but am trying to see if this is a realistic possibility. After dinner we were going to catch a movie together at a theater less than a mile away.

I have not told her parents about my plans, seeing that she has said to me that she would hate it if I asked her parents for permission. She is her own person and can make her own decisions, and I also believe that she wants to be the one to tell them. We have been together for over 5 years so I know this won't be a problem with anyone we know.

At first, we didn't have the movie planned, and I was planning on suggestiong that we go on a walk, right after leaving her parents. We could stop where the lights are, and I could ask her sometime during the 6 block walk. Now, we're planning on catching a christmas movie, and I believe that she will want to stay at her parents place until its time to leave for the movie.

Now that we are catching this movie, It has thrown off my plans for proposal, but a movie is something I would usually be up to doing, so I went along with her and supported the movie idea. I could try to ask her between dinner and the movie, but it might be hard to get her to go on the walk with me without being too obvious. I figured we could also do the walk after our movie, but by then it will be past 10pm and we would have to pass our freeway onramp for our drive home to get back to the lights. I imagine asking her, and her saying no, and that she would just feel like going home, especially seeing that we would be going out of our way to get to the lights again. I kind of have my heart set on a christmas proposal, because I know that she would love that, but its hard to predict how the night will unfold and how tired or energetic she will be after christmas dinner and a movie.

Now I'm thinking that I should maybe ask her christmas morning. This would have to happen in our apartment, but I could neal by the tree while she's getting ready and ask her to come out for something. We have decided not to get eachother presents this year, seeing that money is tight. She doesn't know I have the ring, so I could open with something along the lines of "I know we said no gifts, but I got something for you (open box). I want my gift to be a yes forever." Of course this would be with more charm and sweetness thrown in there. Feel free to help me with the line =) I feel like this option gives me the gaurantee of being able to ask when I want to ask and has less potential of not going to plan. Like I said, the element of surprise is more important to me than the location.

So, finally onto the question. How would you ladies like a christmas morning proposal? Do you think this is my best option seeing that we have a big rest of the day planned? Would you like being able to show the ring off to your parents and be able to view it in the daylight? Any ideas for a christmas morning proposal?

Thanks to anyone who is willing to give input or advice! I know that whatever I do will be nice, but she's my special girl so I wanna make it as great as it can be. I love the idea of the walk and christmas lights, but trying to get her up there without her parents in tow might be harder than ill be able to do without raising suspision. The more I think about it, the morning proposal might be a better idea =)

WebLady
12-12-2011, 09:32 PM
I think it is nice that you are putting so much thought into it :hearts:

It sounds to me like asking her Christmas morning would be nice. Then you guys can tell her family when you go over there and you can enjoy the rest of your holiday without thinking about when and where would be best.

You could do the knealing by the tree thing, or you could just wrap the ring and get her to open it before you guys go out. *Edit: I just read your "line" and got a little teary, do that!

Good luck!

Eddie
12-12-2011, 10:06 PM
Thanks so much for your reply! Sounds like christmas morning will probably be the way to go, and it will definitly surprise her. I know this is actually a wedding forum, but I felt this question would be in the same point of interest and I could get oppinions from people in the wedding mood who will be thinking back on their engagement.=)

We can always still add the christmas light walk to the night if it looks like there will be time. You also bring up a good point in by asking her earlier, it won't be distracting for me to be focusing on the proposal and getting out of the house while trying to enjoy our time with her family. I will update here if I think of anything else that's good!

ikkin510
12-13-2011, 07:17 AM
I agree with asking her Christmas morning. And LOVE the line you plan on saying! I think it will be perfect!

girlggc
12-13-2011, 08:38 AM
You sound very sweet and romantic. Like the others, I think you should propose on Christmas morning. I also love the line that you plan on using. I think you will get a yes!

CaseyK37
12-13-2011, 10:02 AM
"I know we said no gifts, but I got something for you (open box). I want my gift to be a yes forever."


:soppy: That is so sweet. I think Christmas morning would be perfect. My husband asked me in our apartment and it was very sweet. Good luck with the proposal!! Everything sounds great!

Eddie
12-13-2011, 01:21 PM
wow! Thanks everyone for the replies! And I'm happy to see that you all agree with me that christmas morning will be my best option, and I'm also happy to see that CaseyK37 was proposed to in her apartment and loved it. I was getting a little hung up on trying to find the perfect location, but what I say, versus where I say it, seems more important. She's very special to me, so saying the right words seem to come easy.

I also think I'm going to stick to the kneeling by the tree... some friends of mine say I should wrap it in a big box along side heavy items, or put it on a teddy bear under the tree, but her turning the corner and seeing me should be enough of a surprise, and she'll know whats going on immediately.

I will come back here and let everyone know how it goes!

Thanks again!
Eddie