Protocol question!

[mariaandmanish]

So here is my issue. Part of my photographic contract was that we get 75 Thank you cards with pictures to send to those people who came and gave gifts. I just found out that our proofs won't be ready til the 15th of Sept, and then we have to choose the photo for our thank you cards before we can get them printed and sent to us. So, that means we won't get THank you cards til mid-October at the earliest.

Our wedding was Aug. 5th. Here's the question: Do I just wait for the photographic cards to send thank you's, or should I send one's now and then send those again later? I don't like to wait til Oct. to send Thank you cards, but at the same time I don't want to either send it twice, or have to waste the money on the cards. Help!! I need advice!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well Ettiquette dictates that the thank you cards should be in the mail no later then two weeks AFTER you return from your honey moon! If I were a guest at your wedding I might feel upset and that you didn't like your gift to send a thank you card. Perhaps you can send them pics after in October but send out thank you cards now?! Good luck Sweet Pea!

[kevinsbride2B]

That is a toughy! I know that last summer we went to a wedding and didn't get a thank you till like 6 months after the wedding. We didn't even get a pic though. Plus 1 month after their wedding they seperated then got back together. Whole other story lol But maybe if you send them out later and indicate about the pic situation people might understand. It's totally your call. I agree with Canadianbride, but double the postage might get a little expensive.

[LaceyinPgh]

I have gotten thank you cards as much as a year after the wedding. I would say in this case, since it is a photo card an exception could be made in the matter. I think people would apprecaite the picture more than the card right within Emily Post set guidelines. My question is, are you gettin gphotos to put in the cards or are you getting photos turned into cards? Because if it is the first you can write up the cards now, then just stick the photos in when you get them.

Either way, if they are sitting there and ticking off the days since they gave you the gift. If that is something they are really going to get bent out of shape over, they will find something else to compalin about anyway. So just wait for the phot cards that you already paid for.

[mariaandmanish]

Thanks, ladies for the advice!! Lacey, the pics are being made into cards, so I can't fill them out now. I guess people will just have to wait. Plus, a lot of the people we've talked to on the phone already, so we've said thanks that way. And, my FiL is throwing us a "welcome back party" (to make himself feel better about not coming to the wedding) on Sat (sept 2nd) so we'll see a lot of the people there too, and I will say thanks then.

:D

[ikkin510]

Another idea...could you send out thank yous now and then use the photo cards as christmas cards?

[septemberbride06]

I was sort of wondering the same question with my date getting closer. I think it would just be better to send out the cards now, and send out the pictures when they arrive.
The postage may be a little costly, but at least you won't have people bickering at you.