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KatyCruel
11-04-2011, 01:16 PM
(Just fyi, I typed this on my phone. Sorry for typos. =p)

Hey, guys! I had a few ideas for my ceremony and wanted to share them and get your input!

So, like most of the people in America, my boyfriend and his family are Christian. We're going to ask the pastor at hus church to be the officiant when it comes to that. But I'm Pagan. He doesn't have a problem with that, and neither does his family ir pastor. But I was thinking of some ways to integrate that into the ceremomy. Obviously I'd want to talk to the pastor about altering the vows, but my first (and favorite) thought would be to have my mom (also Pagan) do some little reading or rite or blessing at the ceremony, and to have her standing up at the alter next to the pastor.

I also like that idea because it ties into the song we both want for our first dance - "Clementine", by the Decemberists. (The second verse includes the line, "tell your mom to marry us, a candle to carry us," and I really like the idea of being able to fit that into the ceremony.

My second idea was to just to have one of my alter pieces up there - a candle or my alter cloth or a pentacle or something.

Oh! And I had some ideas for some different music - particularly for the ceremony. I was thinking about some combination of Adam Hust and Yiruma. (Adam Hust would have to be a recording since he does cello music, but I couls probably find someone capable of playing a couple of Yiruma's songs.)

So...tell me what you think, and if you have any other ideas!

~Alexa

Oh, by the way, don't get into the, "enjoy your youth" thing, like last timw I posted something. I'm not looking for opinions on whether or not I should be getting married - I'm looking for advice relevant to this thread. Thanks.

gwenshack
11-04-2011, 02:09 PM
I think integrating ideas that are unique to you are important! I walked down the aisle to a Smashing Pumpkins song, so I'm all for that kind of stuff. And your ideas sound beautiful. :)

As for the age thing, I agree, this board is for helping with wedding and I know our members have good intentions trying to extend the benefit of their respective experiences, but opinions have been shared and it's time to move forward. ;)

girlggc
11-04-2011, 03:13 PM
I think it all sounds great! I can relate somewhat. I'm Jewish and my husband is Catholic. We were married by a justice of the peace. Anyway, we also combined some traditions. For example, my husband broke a glass, which is a Jewish tradition. I know that's not applicable to you, but my point is I think that incorporating your traditions is a great idea! Also, remember, it's YOUR day, so have whatever music you want. Personally, I refused to walk down the aisle to "Here comes the bride" because Wagner, who wrote the song, was an anti semite and I didn't want anything written by him at my wedding. Do what you want; it's YOUR day!

ChristineLS
11-04-2011, 05:32 PM
What are pagan wedding rites? It's hard to suggest integration without knowing. Heck, I'm barely familiar with the Christian ones. Is there a handfasting ceremony of some sort? There were dozens of handfastings featured on offbeat bride (http://www.offbeatbride.com) back when I was planning my wedding. You may find some helpful hints there.

I'd, erm, learn to practice your patience with age comments. I got them too, and I was over half a decade older than you when I was planning my wedding. I don't think anyone ever means it maliciously. I suspect that you get them until you're 40 ;) Not necessarily on this board, but in the real world.

KMS
11-04-2011, 08:49 PM
I'm all for pumping your wedding full of your own personality! We didn't have one single traditional song in our wedding and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

I don't really have any ideas about how to combine different religions into a ceremony. Hubby pretty much dropped his religion (Catholic) while we were dating so by the time our wedding came along we didn't have any issues. Don't many wedding traditions actually have pagan roots? Seems like I've heard that somewhere before. I agree with Christine, a handfasting might be something great to do!

KatyCruel
11-05-2011, 03:42 PM
Thanks for your input, guys! =] I also wanted to repeat the bit about the song, andget your thoughts about how I'd be incorporating the song into the ceremony. =]

Nekochanpurr
11-10-2011, 03:00 PM
Since you are into Asian stuff how about some engrish-y tunes? I was going to have a bunch of them for the reception but... My husband forgot the CDs. D'oh.

My friend got announced with 'Hikari' and her first dance was 'First Love'. Shes a big Hikaru Utada fan. *^^*

bikererwatt
02-23-2012, 01:09 PM
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gwenshack
02-24-2012, 12:08 AM
geodata atm is the best that can be found for high five. Please if you find the time, check the places you are talking about, and share opinions if geodata is good or bad.

Huh? :bbconfused:

brendalin
02-24-2012, 08:37 AM
geodata atm is the best that can be found for high five. Please if you find the time, check the places you are talking about, and share opinions if geodata is good or bad.

What in the world are you talking about... OP was about sand ceremony and song ideas.