Past marriage/relationship: When did the problem start leading to the breakup/divorce

[MOB Karen]

Let us know when it happened for your relationship/marriage. :)

[MOB Karen]

For me, the problems started soon after we got married. We got along much better when we were dating. :)

[ladymelissa]

In my last, long relationship before this one (we didn't get married) I saw signs very early on (like within a month), but pretty much ignored them. After about 6 years I couldn't take it anymore and one day I just left. So I voted for immediately.

[CarlosHoney]

I dated the guy for 2 years and never got any kind of commitment. We got along great until the day I broke it off, but I was sad and resentful over his lack of commitment. A year in, I moved out of my parent's place. I thought that we could spend more time together.. Wrong. He just blew me off and hung out when he was lonely..

But, I met Carlo shortly thereafter and things worked out for the best. :D

[Valmai]

I think hindsite is a wonderful thing and i can look back and say we had problems after 10 years or so of living together (we had been together for 7 years prior to this) But at the time i thought it was just a bad patch and we soldiered on, things got better but slowly the rows and bad patches got more and more until there werent any good times anymore. I eventually left him after 17 years of living together!
Do i wish id done it earlier? Nah i dont think so what i went thru made me what i am today, and our children got more years of family life (they had no idea that there were problems til practically the end) x

[hummingbird521]

The problems started not to far into the relationship, but I didn't want to see them till much later. Slow learner.

[WebLady]

I voted About 1/3 into the marriage ... with my ex husband things started going down hill about a year or so into the 6 year marriage. This was about the time we got our own place, when we were living with my mother. Looking back on it now, I see signs of problems starting even before that.

We started having more and more disagreements and we argued alot more. We would fight and things would change for a few months and then we'd have another fight or I would just let it go and not say anything.

Long story short, cut to about June after our 6 yr anniversary that April, we had another big fight and I left. There were some ups and downs for me after that but it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

I have a wonderful man in my life now and we have a wonderful future ahead of us. We have been together for about 7 1/2 yrs, married 1 1/2 and I look forward to each day with him and our future and growing old together. Oddly enough, I never really had the future thoughts with my ex. But I was only 18 when we got married ... live and learn :)

[mariaandmanish]

Well, I had two really significant relationships prior to meeting my husband. The first, we had problems pretty much from the beginning, but I ignored them for a year and a half before I'd finally had enough. Strangely enough, I decided I'd had enough just after he proposed. I think that is what did it, the thought that I might have to live with someone who couldn't go five minutes without starting an argument....

The other was all of a sudden. I thought things were great, and then suddenly, it was a mess and we broke up. We were together for a year and a half also, and never had a single fight. I still don't know what happened, except that it was a long distance thing, so that could have been it.

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

My ex boyfriend and I started having issues that lead to the breakup about 3/4 of the way through. The last year of our relationship really went down hill. We were together 4 1/2 years and we just started drifting apart. When we started college, things got hard. It wasnt that we didnt care about each other, we had both changed and werent right for each other. We're still friends though. It was pretty much a mutual decsion to break up.

Jonathan on the other hand had serious problems before they even got married...

[rainbowtreat]

I voted from the start. Becasue now that I look back on it there were signs, there were fights I was not being me. We were together fromt eh time I was 15 and he was 17. He always seemed to think he was smarter then I was, that he new more then I did. It was never an equal partnership. We were togehter a total of 12 years, married almost 5 of them. ( divorced Sept. 2nd would have been married 5 yrs that Oct 24th )

I was being something to make him happy not being myself. The real me. This was the way it was from the start. I remeber the fights as we were dating as teens. The break ups we did. My mom was worried when I moved away with him. It came down to during my 2nd pregnancy I knew something wasnt right. I was feeling as if I was not living my own life. I started becoming indapendent and he didnt like it. I wanted to do things I never had the chance to do and he didnt like it. He was a guy who felt it was ok for him to go to a bar with his guy buddies but it was not ok for girl to go to the bar with just her girl friends. He was focussed on his work and not so much on his family. I know he loved me, I saw just how bad I broke his heart when I made him leave. But it is better now. He tried for a long time even after the divorce was final to get me back. I wouldnt have it. I can not even imagine what it would belike if we were together today. Yes we would most likely not be in debt and we would have a house and stuff lke that but Iwould not be happy. And If I am not happy the kids are not going to be happy. I am still intimadated by him even to this day. But I am fighting it every time I talk to him.

[AngelinLove]

I had two serious relationships prior to Joel. One was when I was very young, 13-16, but was serious to me. He was my first everything and I was convinced that I was going to marry him and all that nonsense. We were together for just over 3 years. We broke up alot and got back together, he was very abusive and controlling and this all started in teh 1st year of the relationship, so I voted 1/3 into it. When we finally broke up it was over something really stupid, but I found out that he had been cheating on me anyways. He ended up marrying that girla dn they had a son, then she divorced him, cause he was abusive and unfaithful....suprise, suprise!!!

The second relationship was with my ex-fiance. We were together for just over 4 years. I was 17 when we started dating and 21 when we broke up. We got engaged just over 2 years into the relationship. I started to see signs about 4 months in, but the relationship didn't really start to fall apart until about 15 months into it. He was a great guy, with a huge heart and I love him till this day, but he was an alcoholic and he didn't have the same dreams and ambitions as me. I really struggled with what I should do, cause he was a great guy and my family loved him and all that. He was my best-friend, but I fell out of love. I was not happy and I didn't want to hurt him, so when he proposed...I thought that that maybe things would just work themselves out. Then my mom moved in with us and I took care of her until she passed away. I felt guilty leaving after that cause he had done so much for us, plus I was depressed. SO it was still about a year and half before I just accepted that I had to leave and I made up my mind and walked away. I made a TON of mistakes, including cheating on him, while we were together, and he tried seriously for about 6 months after the split to get me back, and although I will always love him..we finally went our seperate ways and I havn't seen him in 3 years.

[LizabethDavis]

My past relationships usually end suddenly. Looking back on it all, I now see that problems started sooner then that, but I ignored them like Melissa said. My last relationship had problems that started about half way through the relationship and part of it was me. The guy accepted me and my children and I was naive and thought there was no other guy out there that would take me and my children. When I met Pat, I broke up with the guy a day later. Even if things weren't going to work out with Pat and I, I at least now knew that there were in fact other guys out there that would love me and my children!