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Fairy002
07-12-2005, 12:40 AM
I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now(it will actually be four years in one month from today)anyway we were about to get married this year. We were engaged last year for about half a year but for some reason we started having horrible problems. All of a sudden he would get upset every time I talked about our upcoming wedding. It got to the point that he broke our engangement and our relationship during an argument that began as a conversation about the wedding. We have been through so much but after a year things are back on track. Our relationship has matured much more. Now he was the one that began talking about a wedding again. He said that by December this year we woul be officially engaged(he would come to my family and ask for my had, I am from a traditional hispanic family) and b this time next year we would be married. I am the oldest of five kids so my parents want the dream wedding for me as do I. It means so much to my whole family as well as extended family because I would be the first to get married by church and without being pregnant. Since this whole wedding thing came up again I can't stop thinking about it and I like talking to him about it and he seemed to be o.k with it. Now todayhe sort of snapped and told me that he didn't want a big wedding and that he hoped I wasn't going to get like last year about the wedding. That hurt me so much I am very sentimental. I love him so much and I know he's the one but I just can't understand how he can't understand me and how much a dream wedding would me to me. I don't mind compromisin I want this to be about us but I can't help feeling hurt by his comment, I know he loves me I do. I don't know what to do I hope someone can give me some advice. I don't want this to become a big fight. :(

neeni13
07-15-2005, 12:50 AM
Look most guys don't want to know all the details about the wedding. Don't want to know your frustraitions either. They just want to know how much it will cost them and having a blast of a party. BUt you have us here to talk about such plans and that one girlfriend or maid of honor.Basically just ask him for his guest list, look at yours and your parents then size it down. You want him to be comfortable at his wedding and with people he knows and likes for support.

grace_smith03
08-01-2005, 02:15 PM
I hear you! MOST guys are just like that, where they have a very low tolerance for wedding talk. Do your best not to talk to him about it, and he'll slowly come around (let him initiate that) In the meantime, talk to your girlfriends, your sibs, your parents...forrums are great outlets too! Thousands of bride-to-be's to talk to...some forums even have "local boards", and future brides get together to talk about stuff.

GL!

grace_smith03
06-10-06