Ex Famiy at the Wedding

[countrygirl]

I have a mini dilema, and I am not sure what I should do. My x's sister and x sister in law both want to come to the wedding. Neither of them have much contact w my x, in fact, haven't heard from him since Christmas last year. His sister and I were really really close for years, but have lost touch a bit over the past 3 or so. His x sister and I have gotten closer again over the past year, as she has not divorced his brother. She is trying to fly out for my bach party, as well as the wedding.

Josh was fine them coming, but then thought it wierd to invite the "x" family members. We talked last night, and he said that it still seems strange to him. We talked again this morn. He told me to invite them if I was friends w them. He said that he won't be weireded out, he just isnt' used to that idea. You don't invite the x family.

What do I do?

[cowboysbride]

You invite them, My ex's business partner/ex cousin and his wife came (she was one of my BM and mother of the FG). Heather and I were friends from the moment we met and her husband was nothing but polite and friendly to Eric...they are talking about going fishing!

[countrygirl]

Well, Josh said to invite them if I really wanted to. I don't think that in the end he will be effected by it. He is so easy going. He asked me how I would feel if he invited his x's brother. I told him that if they were friends, it wouldnt bug me.

[Kacie_bride]

If it is no big deal then I would say invite them. You probably will have so much going on that you will notice them that much anyway. You will probably get a chance to say hi and thanks for coming, but not much beyond that.

[Jenn060306]

I think if Josh is ok with it and it's important to you invite them. If your close enough friends with them then i think it is perfectly understandable to invite them.

[countrygirl]

Thanks for the advice ladies. I know that if Josh really had a prob w it, a serious one, he would voice it. Although, he would keep quiet just to make me happy, and I don't want him doing that. But, maybe it's not that he personally has a prob w them being there in particular, it's the idea that is finds strange.

Men, why do they have to make things so darn difficult. Oh, wait, I did it this time. Oops, my bad!!!

[hummingbird521]

I am like everyone else. If he is ok with it and you want to invite them, then by all means do so. As Kacie said chances are you won't even notice they are there unless you go out of your way to do so.

[Valmai]

My ex's sister in law is coming and her grown up children, we were really good mates and have kept in touch for the 5 years since we split and i moved away. I am also putting her husbands (exs brother) name on the invite but dont expect him to come for one minute lol Jamies fine with it, in fact he said that he thinks i should invite them! x

[mariaandmanish]

I'm with everyone else on this. If you're friends with the x family, then you should invite them. You're friendships hav clearly outlasted the relationship, therefore they're not just the x family, they're friends, just like any other. As long as Josh is cool with it, do it!:D

[countrygirl]

Thanks for all of the input ladies. I have decided that I am going to go ahead and invite them.

[CarlosHoney]

I think things will work out just fine. Don't worry.. You'll be so overwhelmed by everything going on that it won't be an issue! :bbmrgreen: Good luck!!!

[LaceyinPgh]

I think that is really great. I was very close to my uncle's now ex wife when I was growing up. I really wanted to invite her to the wedding. BUt, I was talked out of it because my grandmother threatened not to come if "that woman who made her son miserable was there." By the way. "that woman took care of his house, gave him two children, and worked, only to come home one day to her husband telling her he was no longer in love, in fact was gay, and wanted out.