When to propose

[guytool]

Hey everybody. I'm new to this board and I need some advise. I'm planning on proposing to my long-term girlfriend sometime soon. I have already bought the ring and started planning on how to do it. The only problem I am having is knowing when is a good time. Her sister just got married this past weekend and I don't want them to think we are stealing their 'thunder'. I also don't want to overwelm their parents since they just got done planning and paying for the sisters wedding. We are both starting grad school in college so the only real good time to get married is during the summer, probably next summer. I don't want to wait too long for 2 reasons. First, I want to give both of us a good amount of time to plan everything since we are both in school. If I wait a month or two, that gives us a month or two less in planning. I also don't want to do during the school year because her family is spread out across the state and I know she will want to tell some of them in person and during school we both will be busy studying.

I just don't know when to do it. I had actually planned on doing this a little earlier, but her sister and now husband beat me to it and I didn't want any attention taken away from them. Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!!

[Jacklynn]

I would wait a few weeks, but I don't think you will be stealing their "thunder" too much because life will be getting normal with them here soon. The worst thing you could have done was ask at her sister's wedding and you didn't do that, so from my point of view you are good to go whenever you feel ready.

Welcome by the way!

[hummingbird521]

I agree as well. I don't think you will be stealing anyone's thunder away. But I wonder about having it this next summer what with the planning and all. But would propose whenever I was ready.

[ladymelissa]

I think, now that the sister's wedding is over you are free to propose whenever you are ready. The only time you would have been considered "stealing thunder" would have been within the week or two before her wedding or at her wedding.

Maybe this weekend? Welcome, best wishes and let us know what happens!

[Kacie_bride]

I agree with everyone else. You are not stealing anyone's thunder now. Just do it whenever you feel ready! Good luck and tell us how it went!

[Twigler]

I agree that you won't steal their thunder. If you were to propose right before they got married, then maybe, but I think you are safe now. As for when you want to propose, I would do it whenever you feel the right moment. And just because you propose now doesn't mean you have to get married this summer. I have been engaged for over a year now and our wedding isn't until June of 2007. I am glad to have the extra time because I am able to take my time and really plan what I want. Also, this helps me with the costs so that I don't just have one big chunk to pay for all at the same time.

And by the way...Congrats and welcome!!

[guytool]

Thanks for all the advise. What I meant about getting married next summer was that since we both are still in school, we would have to do it during the summer months. Either next summer or one of the summers after that and I'm thinking she would want next summer because her brother is getting married in July of 2008.

I joked around with my best friend about purpose during their wedding reception and how pissed they would be. Obviously though I would never do it then.

[ikkin510]

I agree with the rest of the girls. You are not stealing anyone thunder asking now. Good luck and congratulations. Let us know how everything goes!

[AngelinLove]

I agree with all the other girls. You should ask her as soon as you feel it is the right time. At this point her sister's wedding is over...so you are not stealing anyones thunder. Plus, after seeing her sister get married, she is probably wishing for it more now than ever anyways...atleast i would be...I am a romantic sap...lol!!!

[septemberbride06]

I also agree. Whenever you are ready will be perfect. How long have you been going out?
Tell us oyu r story!!

[guytool]

We have been dating for almost 7 years. We first met in French class in high school when I was a junior and she was a freshman. A group of my friends hooked us up to go to our homecoming dance and I guess the rest is history. We both went to the some college and have since moved in together.

I think I have decided to do it on next weekend. My parents own a cabin on the river so I'm thinking of taking her on a walk on a sandbar to pop the question.

[Kacie_bride]

How wonderful! That sounds really nice! You'll have to let us know how it goes!

[ladymelissa]

That sounds lovely! Keep us posted. Good luck!