What would you think of this comment?

[muguet]

We had taken a vacation overseas (to visit family & friends) shortly before getting engaged. A few months later someone made the comment "You're going on a honeymoon? But you just went on a vacation!". I still can't believe anyone could even think that, let alone say it to someone. Not sure what one vacation has to do with whether or not a couple goes on a honeymoon.

Anyone else receive similar comments?

[hleef]

wow.... I havent recieved any comments like that but then we havent taken any vacations this year since ill be taking the majority of my days off for the wedding and the honeymoon.

however if someone did say this i would deff be taken aback a little :boggle: . Like you said what does one vacation have to do with the other. One was to visit friends and family that doesnt really scream honeymoon to me...... if you dont really care for this person id tell them to butt out lol.... other wise just walk away shaking your head :blink: theyll get the idea...

[ChristineLS]

That's a weird comment. I wouldn't let it get to you.

I kind of chuckled, because I read this and I thought "You took a vacation before you got married? Huh, someone could afford multiple trips right after each other?!" with a "lucky individual!" sort of reading. I mean, if the person is coming from a job that pays like mine, I could understand some confusion ;) I mean, the two would have a lot to do with each other for me, because of the old economic principle of "opportunity cost" in which each thing done costs something in the future. Or travel fatigue. I mean, it's a weird comment. I read it as a comment on opportunity, not deserving.

And let it roll off your shoulders.

[dodgercpkl]

I've had the opposite! Because of our situation (i.e. my husbands from the Netherlands and we went through a long distance relationship and immigration prior to getting married) we didn't go on a "real" honeymoon. We went on a couple of weekend getaways, etc but nothing that would compare to most people's ideas of a honeymoon. However, I'd been in the Netherlands for 3 months prior to our civil ceremony and we'd spent 2 weeks of that traveling/relaxing as a couple, and because of being on opposite continents, well... I've always considered our dating as sort of a honeymoon! lol People give me strange looks when I say that though.

I wouldn't let it bother you. Everyone has an idea of what they think is right - what *they* would do - and it doesn't always mesh with what's right for us. If you can afford a honeymoon after your wedding and want to go, then I'd say go and ignore the naysayers!

[WebLady]

Yeah, it was a kind of rude/inappropriate comment. But I wouldn't let it get to you :)

I had a couple of people ask me why I was bothering to get married at all after living together for years (and being married before). I just tried to let it go and not let it affect my plans.

You gotta do what is right for you and your SO, at the right time for you; and poo on what anyone else may think of what you do ... it is your life, you are the one that has to live it :)

[Salayia]

I think it probably stems from jealousy. THEY want to take 2 vacations the same year too... but since they can't (for whatever reason), then NOBODY else should. It's petty and stupid and, like everyone else said, don't let it get to you because THEY are the ones with the problem... not you! ;)

[gwenshack]

I can see why that would be sort of rude. :) I go out of town a lot and I know sometimes people make comments like that to me. (Admittedly, I travel way too much and today when I got on the plane to come home I realized I recognized the pilot - that's a sign you travel too much. LMAO.)

Enjoy a honeymoon, vacation or not! :)

[amandaline]

honestly, i don't see the reason why that comment was said to you. i mean, its your life not theirs and the fact that they wont pay for your travel fares and other expenses, they dont have the privilege to say that to you. i know they have the right to say whatever they want to say but they should be more responsible especially if they would be referring to someone.

[JillyBride]

I would think they were jealous. and none of their business!