Would you marry for money over love?

[MOB Karen]

Let us know your opinion on this subject. :D

[MOB Karen]

Ok, it would be really nice to have both. But I just know that to marry for money only, would be a disaster marriage. If I don't love him, I don't even think that the money could make me happy. So we would both be in a miserable marriage. :bbconfused:

[LaceyinPgh]

I am going to take a lot of flack for this one but here it goes anyway. Love is great. I do love my husband. But, love doesn't put food on the table, gas in the car, make sure the mortgage gets in on time, or buy school clothes for kids. Finances and money are some of the top causes of marital strain in this country. Tragically, life isn't a fairy tale where you end up totally happy just because you happen to fall in love. You still have electric bills to pay and can suddenly get sick (for most of us in a country without socialized health care).

What I am saying is this. I wouldn't marry strictly for money like old Anna Nicole. I want a partner in my life that I love and care about. But I don't know if I would marry someone knowing that I was going to be living paycheck to paycheck and continually worrying about an unexpected bill coming up.

[Amber818]

I am going to say that I would definitley consider it. A lot of marriages do not work out when love is a factor...why not take love out of the equation and have a marriage of convienence...and financial security? A lot of people will argue that the whole premis of marriage is for love but back in the 1600-1800 parents were arranging marriages of the children for profit.

[Kacie_bride]

Money is a consideration, defiantely. I would never marry anyone with lots of money that I did not love. However, I couldn't marry anyone whom I thought did not have potential to have the kind of lifestye I want to live.

Justin will only be out of college for 2 years in December, but he does have an education and he does have ambition. He is doing very well in his new job that he just started about 2 months ago and I sense that he is going to go pretty far with it. Right now we do well enough. I am able to not work and we live in a nice house, we can pay all of our bills without worrying, and we can afford to do nice things at times. I think once I start working after I graduate in December we are going to be living very well. We will not be able to do everything and buy everything I would like, but we are going to be able to do many things we have not been able to do. That is what we worked for all these years.

My main thing is that I am with a man who is willing to work hard and who has ambition. Most of the time that goes hand in hand with someone who is financially stable or will get that way soon.

[WebLady]

I don't think I would do it, I might have money, but I would always long for real love.

Now if I was desperate to get married and I had met a wealthy man that was at least a good friend, I might have considered it (before I met DH of course) but again, I'd always long for love and wonder if I'd missed out.

I'd rather have both :p

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I wouldnt ever marry for money. I dont think I could truely be happy. Money cant buy happiness or love IMO. I know a few people who married for money and then divorced because they werent happy. I've witnessed it a lot in my own family and would never let it happen to myself.

[mariaandmanish]

I wouldn't marry for money. That's not to say that money is not a factor in making life decisions. I don't think I could marry someone who had no prospects or hope in their lives for love, but then, honestly, I think I would have a hard time loving someone who didn't have goals for themselves. But to marry just for money, I couldn't do that.

[EarlyBird]

while i wouldnt marry for money- i also might have to rethink if marrying meant NO MONEY- meaning if he wasnt living to his full potential to support us (like putting off finishing school, working in a dead end, min. wage job etc etc) unfortunatley, i believe there is a change in a person that says "maybe this was okay when it was just me, but i need to be living for this person too" if the person wasnt concerned with the money issue and wasnt trying to change it even though we couldnt pay bills, then i would rethink marrying the person b/c what will happen when we have KIDS?!?!? but as long as all the bills are paid and even if we only have 1$ left- i will be happy with love.

[katieandalex]

To me, it definitely depends. I wouldn't necessarily marry just for money. But it depends on who loves who. If he loves me, but I'm impartial, then maybe...but if I love him and he doesn't love me, then no way.

[candyt2009]

I would marry for love .

[Jess]

Hell no! Yes, I wouldn't marry an irresponsible man living in his parents' basement. But I would never allow money to be a factor in the relationship when he is an all-around responsible and mature man.

[frenchie]

I def wouldn't marry for money - but I wouldn't marry either if we weren't sure we would at least have something to eat and somewhere to live.
Which is why we've waited until he had a salary. He still isn't filthy rich (and won't ever be unless he solves a mathematical problem the smartest people in the world have been trying to solve for decades...) but it's enough to get by fairly well, and that's enough for me.

[SouthernQueenBride]

My mama always told me this: "You can fall in love with a rich man just as easily as you can a poor one."

LOL

I would NEVER get married to someone that I did not love just b/c he had money. But I also would NEVER date or consider someone who was stuck in a deadend job/or had no drive or ambition. I work hard (ok it might not be that evident by my time on here - but I do!) and I am driven to keep moving up in my company or eventually branching out on my own and I am so glad that I am with a man who is not rich right now (In fact he is $250,000.00 in med school debt) but in a few years he will have paid it off and making a good salary to provide for our family and for me to be a stay at home mom.

I don't desire to be rich ... but I do desire to be well taken care of and have a little extra to splurge here and there.

[sjk1431]

I'll admit to considering it. Money is definitely a factor, but it's not everything.