The proper way

[blueeyedbride]

Ok I need some advice on what to say to the igorant people that can't send their RSVP's back, its not like they have to buy a **** stamp or address anything..... Its mostly Fh's side and some of his family r like u know I will be there.... Well we r paying by plate and my parents who r paying for this need to know how many r comming..... I'm sooooo pissed cause they have had a month and r so urgh.... I need a polite way of asking them, so I don't sound so pissy....

[kevinsbride2B]

It is soooooooooooo RUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It takes 2 seonds to write your name and say if your bringing someone, go to the store to buy milk and pop it in the mail box while your walking in the door!!!!
MY girlfriend is getting married ina week, and i'm in her wedding, and we hjave had to tell people that there not a person til the wedding there a number, and until they RSVP's arrive there not in the count.
Simply talk to people and say "oh are you not coming to the wedding?" and when they reply tell them that your perents or someone else are taking care of the RSVP cards, and they need to send them in because your not the one doign the count.
Either that or grab them by there tounges, sign there name and tell them to lick it and shove it in your purse!!!

[LaceyinPgh]

Call them. "Hi, Bob and Sue. It's Amy. Anyway I was just going through my RSVP's for our wedding on the 9th. I noticed that we didn't get yours back yet. I really need a final headcount by (insert day here). If I don't hear from you by then I'll just assume that you won't be able to make.Giver me a call. Bill and I are really looking forward to sharing our day with you. Bye."

Or you could be a total smart *** like I was with my mother's family and mention that you understand how incredibly stressful it is to check yes or no and drop that self addressed stamped envelope back in the mail box.

[Jenn060306]

Definatly call.I called and left a message saying i needed to know as soon as possible if they were comming or not and if they were bringing a date. Then from there my second call was if i don't hear from you by .... i will unforuntely have to assume you won't be able to come. That got some good responds.

You are definatly not being rude by calling and asking. Your guests are being rude by not letting you know. I really wonder if people understand how much it costs and that them just not showing up really doesen't work.

Good luck getting ahold of everyone. If you still have no answer a week before you need to give in final numbers leave them a message saying you are going to assume they won't be able to attend. If your family can't accept that then that's to bad for them. They will get over it.

[mariaandmanish]

We called and basically said, "we were going through our RSVP's and noticed that we didn't have yours. We would love it if you wer able to come to the wedding, but if we don't receive your RSVP or hear from you by July 14th, then we'll assume you won't be able to make it. We'll definitely miss you if you can't come, but will understand." or something to that effect. Anyone we didn't talk to or hear from we marked as no, and as it turns out, none of the people who didn't return RSVP's (or call us to tell us yes) came.

[kheath10]

Hello, I just posted about that issue.But my wedding is in 3 days hunny, let me tell you alot of people didn't rsvp I got so fustrdted I maean those plates are expensive, YEAH I'm haveing plates and i needed some respones quick I mean I put stamp and what else should we do. But what I did was the ones that rsvp plus my wedding party that who got plates. So on my wedding day at the reception . If their name is not on the list they wont get a plate. Sorry not trying to give mean advice . That is what I had to do cause now. People have been calling late rsvps all yesterday and hunny. I already paid the hotel so they are so out of luck!! I mean You will get so stressed out till it anit funny. The girls are right call . But its up to you how much time and how much of a headache can you stand. I tried the calling part , answering machines, I'll let you know, I got to check to see if im off, call me back, can I bring so and so, girl i gave up and my went with my rsvp cut off date witch was august 4, 2006. And told my fiance if he wanted the headache go -head and he said do you baby so that was the best relif ever. Some people wont be there but many will so hey im gonna enjoy my night but if i keep on waiting there wouldn't have been a recption.

[cowboysbride]

Call them. "Hi, Bob and Sue. It's Amy. Anyway I was just going through my RSVP's for our wedding on the 9th. I noticed that we didn't get yours back yet. I really need a final headcount by (insert day here). If I don't hear from you by then I'll just assume that you won't be able to make.Giver me a call. Bill and I are really looking forward to sharing our day with you. Bye."

Or you could be a total smart *** like I was with my mother's family and mention that you understand how incredibly stressful it is to check yes or no and drop that self addressed stamped envelope back in the mail box.

I like the first option, closer to the day and no answer the SECOND ONE IS PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[blueeyedbride]

Thanks guys on u'r advice, I think all my witching to his other family members got back to them and needless to say I'm recieving more Rsvps from his side.... His aunt gave the excuse I thought I had to call and Rsvp , duh its a flippin wedding u got a response car, envelope and stamp..... I 'll keep ya updated..

[septemberbride06]

Call them. "Hi, Bob and Sue. It's Amy. Anyway I was just going through my RSVP's for our wedding on the 9th. I noticed that we didn't get yours back yet. I really need a final headcount by (insert day here). If I don't hear from you by then I'll just assume that you won't be able to make.Giver me a call. Bill and I are really looking forward to sharing our day with you. Bye."

Or you could be a total smart *** like I was with my mother's family and mention that you understand how incredibly stressful it is to check yes or no and drop that self addressed stamped envelope back in the mail box.

I agree. This is sort of how we handled everything. Good Luck!

[RACS218]

I totally agree with you LaceyinPgh.. That's the nicest way to say things, I may use it sometime.. :)


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