Very Frustrated and Annoyed!!!!

[AngelinLove]

Okay, so my bachelorette party is this Saturday!!! Since my moh's house burned down I was forced to do alot of the organizing...YAY!!! Anyways...two of my bm's have stepped upa nd have been very helpfula nd have planned for teh food, the alcohol and some entertainment (not a stripper...gross). Plus we are having a Pure Romance Party!!! Then we got a limo to go out in afterwards!!! Ok, so my frustrationis thatI sent out and Evite to everyone, which stated that everyone would have to contribute $25.00 for the limo...and people RSVP'd that they would be there. Well now I am getting abunch of people saying that they wll either be coming late and driving themselves, leaving after teh first part, or not coming at all. This really pisses me off because my bm's have spent money on the food/alcohol, etc. and I already booked and paid the deposit on the limo. I am sooo tired of everybidy deciding that my weddinga dn the events leading up to it are not important and just saying screw me. I know that people have lives, but when you make plans and say that you will be somewhere...you should **** well follow through. These people are supposed to be my friends and I see how low I rank on their list of priorities. I mean I seriously think that I should just say screw everyone after the wedding and start treating people just as horrible as they treat me!!!! To top it all off, I can not ask everyone else to contribute more for the limo....so I will have to pay the balance!!!!

[mariaandmanish]

Angel, I am so sorry to hear about this latest frustration! You've certainly been having a lot of them lately! Best suggestion that I can make is to take a deep breath and try to not let it bother you too much. I know that it really stinks to have to pay more yourself, especially as weddings are not cheap, and it really is horrible that your friends are not supporting you in the way that you wanted. I hope that you can have a great time at your bachelorette party with those who have shown they are truly your friends, and just forget about the rest of them!

[hummingbird521]

Okay, so my bachelorette party is this Saturday!!! Since my moh's house burned down I was forced to do alot of the organizing...YAY!!! Anyways...two of my bm's have stepped upa nd have been very helpfula nd have planned for teh food, the alcohol and some entertainment (not a stripper...gross). Plus we are having a Pure Romance Party!!! Then we got a limo to go out in afterwards!!! Ok, so my frustrationis thatI sent out and Evite to everyone, which stated that everyone would have to contribute $25.00 for the limo...and people RSVP'd that they would be there. Well now I am getting abunch of people saying that they wll either be coming late and driving themselves, leaving after teh first part, or not coming at all. This really pisses me off because my bm's have spent money on the food/alcohol, etc. and I already booked and paid the deposit on the limo. I am sooo tired of everybidy deciding that my weddinga dn the events leading up to it are not important and just saying screw me. I know that people have lives, but when you make plans and say that you will be somewhere...you should **** well follow through. These people are supposed to be my friends and I see how low I rank on their list of priorities. I mean I seriously think that I should just say screw everyone after the wedding and start treating people just as horrible as they treat me!!!! To top it all off, I can not ask everyone else to contribute more for the limo....so I will have to pay the balance!!!!

Angel,

Don't get upset with me for asking, but when you decided on the limo did you ask the girls if they would like to contribute towards using one? I myself do not like for people to take for granted how I would like to spend my money. As far as everything else I can understand your frustration on it. People shouldn't say they are going to do something and then not follow through with it. Sorry things are working out this way. But I bet when it is over you will have had a great time. I hope it all works out for you.

[AngelinLove]

Angel,

Don't get upset with me for asking, but when you decided on the limo did you ask the girls if they would like to contribute towards using one? I myself do not like for people to take for granted how I would like to spend my money. As far as everything else I can understand your frustration on it. People shouldn't say they are going to do something and then not follow through with it. Sorry things are working out this way. But I bet when it is over you will have had a great time. I hope it all works out for you.


No, I didn't specificaly ask them, but it was in the information on the evite...which they RSVP'd to..and the ones who did not plan to contribute, based on the fact thay were not planning on using it, stated so in their online RSVP!!! It was assumed that those that RSVP'd with no mention of the limo contribution were planning on coming for the entire event and contributing. I can understand why someone might be frustrated by having to contribute...but then they should not have RSVP'd that they would be there...JMO!!!

[hummingbird521]

No, I didn't specificaly ask them, but it was in the information on the evite...which they RSVP'd to..and the ones who did not plan to contribute, based on the fact thay were not planning on using it, stated so in their online RSVP!!! It was assumed that those that RSVP'd with no mention of the limo contribution were planning on coming for the entire event and contributing. I can understand why someone might be frustrated by having to contribute...but then they should not have RSVP'd that they would be there...JMO!!!

I agree with you Angel. If they made no mention of it when they originally RSVP'd then they should stick to it. Sorry if I misunderstood you. I would be upset as well. I hope it all works out for you.

[kheath10]

Well at think of it this way at least your brides maid are haveing you someting. You should be grateful for that. The only person of my wedding party that has supported me is my maid of hounor she has done all she can. What I mean is for the bridal shower every one was sopposed to pitch in and help , they did what the hell they wanted and my maid paid for everything!!!!!!!, ok now it's time for the bachelorette party and im not haveing one why cause my maid is fustrated like i paid for every thing its 6 of us no way!! I totlally understand but I really wanted one I think that will be the only thing about this whole wedding thing that I will regret because you know when you say im getting married you want all that come with it ya know!! and that part is missing. So she said she was comeing to get me and take me out herself and not calling anyone and just let me do me!! I said fine at least she is takieng the time to do something with me!! So I think from the sounds of limo , food all that you should be grateful even people are acting stupid I toally am pissed at them as much as you are , but at least you can say I had a bachelorte party.And as for the whole rsvps that sucks I had to deal with for my reception and I has several that just are in the wind so im in the wind tooo!!No plate

I hope I was not mean but you are lucky if only for that portion of it good luck I really hope your day goes well. Mine is saturday , Check with me ill let you ladies know exactly what happened!!
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[Kacie_bride]

I'm sorry Angel. It's very frustrating. I don't know what else to say. I don't have any good advise to give you. I feel for you though!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Angel,

Honey, I'm sorry that is happening to you! I wish people would learn to read more carefully! And as far as KHeath telling you to be happy that you are getting something, that is not the point! The point is that you planned something and put it in writing for everyone to see and then they screwed you! And I can totally understand how you feel!! Have a donation jar as they get into the limo and ask them "where's your pitch B1tch?" lol. (My brother used to say that to me! Yeah thanks bro! lol) No honestly, have a donation bucket as they get into the limo with big letters saying "Help Angel pay for your ride this evening by contributing some money!!!" See if that brings forth some money! And if they don't contribute I'd tell them to find their own transportation!! Times are tough and money is tight, so I think you have every right because this party is for you and they should honor that!! JMO! :D

[ladymelissa]

Unfortunately, one person's wedding will never be extremely important to others. Wait till you get some no shows at the wedding itself, after you have paid for their dinner. All you can do is move on and have the best time you can possibly have and in the future you need not go excessively out of your way for others if you do not wish to.

If they RSVP'd yes, to your invitation, they should have come but this sort of thing happens all the time, like I said before you will probably have some people that RSVP yes to the wedding and just not show up. At least they told you they wouldn't be able to make it. I am also not really up on b-party etiquette (I didn't want one so I didn't have one), but I would not have asked the people invited to go in for the limo. Or if b-parties are supposed to be "no host" events, you could have said that you thought a limo would be a great idea so you can stay together and not have to worry about a designated driver, it will be $25 if you want to go in the limo and try to find a way to collect the money ahead of time.

That said, is there any way you can either cancel the limo or ask for a smaller one, so the cost won't be as much? In any event I hope your party is great and you have lots of fun! It already sounds like quite a party, even if you don't go out after.

[AngelinLove]

Thank you Shawna...atleast someone understands!!! As for getting the contributions...I plan to just have one of my bm's ask people if they are planning to ride in teh limo and contribute towards the cost!!!

Melissa, I have never planned a b-party before either, but I have been to a couple...and both had limo's that we all pitched in on. Also, everyone paid for their own dinner. We are providing dinenr and pre-limo drinks, so I think that we are giving enough!!! These are all supposed to be my friends and they are supposed to make sure that I have a good time!!! They RSVP'd and I do not think for one minute that it was inappropriate to request that they assist with the limo cost!!! It is too ensure that everyone gets to go out and have fun and drink...and not have to worry about getting too drunk to drive or getting pulled over or whatnot!!! A DUI ticket or cab fare would be just as expensive...if not waaaaaaay more. Here is how the Evite was worded concerning the limo!!!

We would like to get a limo so that we can ensure everyones safety, but in order to do so we will need everyone to contribute $25.00!!! Please let us know if you will be joining us for the fun!!!

Anyways..I feel that they RSVP'd with this in mind...so their bad!!!

KHEATH...I am sorry that you bridal party didn't come through for you and that you are not getting a bachelorette party...but I feel that I have every right to be upset by my so-called friends being unreliable and causing me to stress. I am happy that I am getting a party at all, but I do not feel that that means that I am just supposed to forget about people's thoughtlessness and inconsideration!!!

[LaceyinPgh]

You know what, paying up front is just part of attending a bachlorette party. I have never been to one where I didn't buy my own dinner, my own drink or at least a round of drinks for the girls there, and chip in for the bride's part as well. If there was a limo or a party bus, I paid the amount of money for that and in some cases chipped in money for a gift as well. I did a lot of that while I was in college and living off of the left overs from my student loans. So, I surely didn't have that type of expendable income. But, it was part of the job of being the friend of the bride.

You have every right to be upset by people. They aren't fully participating. If you are going to half *** the job, than just don't do it at all. Stay at home. I'm sorry you have to find out how your friends really are. I had to find out what some of my friends and family were like too. But in the long run you will appreciate knowing their true feelings and motives. Also, you know who t walk that extra mile for when the time comes.

[StaceyMc]

You have every right to be upset and frustrated. If they said they were coming, then they should chip in for the limo. The $25 for the limo is probably less expensive that dinner and pre-celebration drinks! I hate when people are inconsiderate and rude.

[AngelinLove]

Plus...we are bringing alcohol into the limo for the limo bar...so they will also save more because they won't have to buy as many drinks from the bar....hello!!! I am glad that some of you seem to understand and also that others realize that it is not unheard of for guests to contribute to this type of thing!!! It helps me to see that I am not the surely teh one in teh wrong here!!!

[StaceyMc]

If I lived closer, I'd toss in $25 and celebrate with you!!

[AngelinLove]

Thanks Stacey....atleast I can count on my Onewed friends...which I never doubted anyways...you have all been great!!!

[theweddinghelper]

You poor thing! You always seem to have some kind of trouble w/ your bridal parties and friends! Weddings can be so frustrating as well as exciting! If it weren't for my mom, mother in law, and sis I prob. would have never had a bridal shower! It sucks when we think our friends are reliable and when your wedding comes around they show us otherwise! I feel your frustration, I would be upset as well! I think they are getting a :censored: good deal for $25! I hope more people show up and more people contribute! I will pray that it turns out well and that you have a good turn out.
(maybe you can substitute some of the people w/ friends @ wrk or some other people u considered inviting, but didn't. ) Maybe u should get their money up front so they don't bail out on u last minute as well.

[kheath10]

Well I am sorry if you and someone else took my post wrong but I did'nt mean just be grateful, yeah be happy, butfor the ones that did't pay up I would be pissed off to. Im really sorry that you thought I was insensitve but im mad as hell to!! I hope everthing works out for us both!!:bblol:

[MOB Karen]

I also feel that $25 is not asking a lot of your BM's to contribute for the limo. Geez!! Amber's BM's pitched in $200 each for Amber's Bachelorette Party!

[Kacie_bride]

I agree with Lacey and Karen! I have never been to a bachelorette party, but I would defiantely expect to have to chip in if I were to ride in a limo. I would also expect that if I rsvp that I should at least pay up if I was not coming.

Funny I have never been to a bachelorette party. My MOH who is married did not have one. They just went to Vegas. All of my other female friends who are married all got married because they were pregnant and did not have one!

[ladymelissa]

I'm sorry, I hope you didn't take my comments the wrong way. I guess it is more common to have everyone chip in than I thought. I hope everything works out for you.

[cowboysbride]

Angel I hope things work out for you, I would have chipped in, but that's pretty common around here. At any rate try not to get too stressed over it and have fun REMEMBER: Everything happens for a reason (oh how I hated hearing that but now that the wedding is behind us I understand)! I would send my 25.00 just to be with you!!!!!!!!!!! Have fun sweetie!

[AngelinLove]

Thanks Ellen...you are so sweet!!! I appreciate your advice..and I know that no matter ehat it costs I will have a great time and won't really care afterwards...but right now I am still pissed!!! Well....you know what they say..."If you lend a friend $20.00 and you never see them again, consider it a good deal"...I know that it is not the same concept, but it gets the point accross...if my friends can't be there for me and all it cost me was a little more for a limoa nd a few less friends to hang with...I am lucky!!!

[blueeyedbride]

If I lived closer, I'd toss in $25 and celebrate with you!!


Me too!!!!

[septemberbride06]

I agree with everyone else. I would be highly upset with everyone. Like you said.. If you RSVP to something, you show up. If you'r not sure, then do not RSVP!! Same goes for wedding invitations. (I am having problems with this too)