Do you still have your original MOH/BM?

[MOB Karen]

With all the problems that brides have with their bridal party, I just wanted to see if any of us are still on the original MOH or BM that we asked for the beginning. If not, please tell us the story. :D

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I do but I still have more than a year until the wedding. I dont think there will be any problems with my MOH. She is my best friend and is like a sister to me. We have never had a fight in the 9 years that we've been friends.

[LizabethDavis]

No, when I first got engaged, I asked my friend Andrea. Then we had a falling out, so I asked my friend Nicole to stand up and she was then unable to do so as she had to move away for personal reasons and in the end, Sarah was my MOH.

[Kacie_bride]

Yes I do! The only way I think I would not have my MOH is if she has some sort of medical problem or family issue. She has already bought her dress. I guess it is possible that we could have a major falling out, but I don't forsee that.

[ladymelissa]

Our MOH and BM stayed the same from the day we asked and through the wedding. We had one bridesmaid drop out for medical reasons.

[Jenn060306]

My MOH never changed. She is Mark's sister and my best friend. She was simply awsome!

[Valmai]

We are not having either so its not an issue for us! xxx

[brewsells]

No, my original MOH and I had a falling out, so I asked one of my BM's to be my MOH. we just shortened the amount of people in the line.

[cowboysbride]

Both of MOH's stayed the same (my sister and his sister). We had one BM drop out due to "financial reasons"....I never bought that, she was from the same town as my ex....I think she was straddling the fence and not wearing her big girl panties (which means she wasn't mature enough to handle telling him she was my friend and being just that)! Anywho it turned out for the best...my niece stepped in.

[LaceyinPgh]

I had my original MOH. She and I have been best friends since kindergarten (wow 22 years now! :bbeek: ) I understood that because she has 4 children that she wouldn't be totally avaliable when I needed her. But, I didn't mind that at all. She was there when it was really important to be there. She also really helped take care of my mom on my wedding day and when I was away for a week on my honeymoon.

After her, I had 5 bridesmaids. 2 were Sean's sisters, 2 were my cousins, and 1 was my friend and I had a major falling out about 10 weeks before the wedding. Apparently I was shutting her out and not giving her the time that she needed. I spent all my time at work, with my soon to be husband, or planning my wedding that I was just wasting money on. It upset her that I wasn't more budget savvy. So I replaced her with my cousin/friend/coworker, Erin, who was a dream come true. She did everything from helping me tie bows on programs to calling to ask how it was coming. SHe even hauled my butt along with my 2 sils to the church with all our stuff.

I no longer speak to my 2 cousins. They showed up that day, walked down the aisle, stood there, and left before I was even done with pictures. They were all bent out of shape because I wasn't allowing kids at the reception. According to them, I kept this the world's biggest secret just to cause problems at the end. So to me, they are no longer family. They don't even rate teh courtesy I give a stranger on the street.

As for Sean's sisters; we have always gotten along very well. They treat me like family. They helped when I needed it. They were great bridesmaids. They insured that I had a fabulous time. I talk to both of them at least once week.

[KristyGirl]

My bridal party went from 4 girls down to 2. My sister and SIL stayed, and my other two BMs (college friends) disappeared off the face of the planet about six months out. They wouldn't return calls or emails and just overall didn't seem happy or excited about the wedding. After giving them numerous chances, the final straw came right before we ordered dresses. I asked for measurements and dress choice by a certain date. They didn't respond. I gave them a little more time and finally said if I don't hear from you by X day, you will not be in the wedding. X day came, they didn't respond, so out they went. I still haven't heard from them to this day, and that was over 2 years ago.

[Amber818]

No. My MOH has been the same since day 1. She is probably the best MOH a girl could ask for, but I have had some trouble with my BM's. Well I first chose this girl from work, Monette. That turned out to be a big disaster she had illusions that she was going to lose all this weight so she didn't want to buy the dress. So I asked her do you really want to be in the wedding and come to find out no she didn't. Then another initial choice Malinda she also had no ambition to get anything done in a timely manner. I basically gave her an out and said she didn't have to do it if she didn't want to which is good because she has way too many tattoos on her arms and is now 7 months pregnant. My next choices were gifts from the heavens. My nephews mom Crystal was so honored and elated to be my BM it made me feel good and my other BM Tracy only wants to make me happy and wants me to have as little stress as possible. I think only a week after I asked them they both had their dresses bought!

[LaceyinPgh]

No. My MOH has been the same since day 1. She is probably the best MOH a girl could ask for, but I have had some trouble with my BM's. Well I first chose this girl from work, Monette. That turned out to be a big disaster she had illusions that she was going to lose all this weight so she didn't want to buy the dress. So I asked her do you really want to be in the wedding and come to find out no she didn't. Then another initial choice Malinda she also had no ambition to get anything done in a timely manner. I basically gave her an out and said she didn't have to do it if she didn't want to which is good because she has way too many tattoos on her arms and is now 7 months pregnant. My next choices were gifts from the heavens. My nephews mom Crystal was so honored and elated to be my BM it made me feel good and my other BM Tracy only wants to make me happy and wants me to have as little stress as possible. I think only a week after I asked them they both had their dresses bought!

Isn't it amazing that the people you replace the pains in the butt with always turn out to be God sends? Like why in the heck didn't we ask them to start?

[Amber818]

Isn't it amazing that the people you replace the pains in the butt with always turn out to be God sends? Like why in the heck didn't we ask them to start?

That is exactly what my mom said...then she goes on to tell me that I have the worst taste in friends and I do not know how to make good decisions....

[LaceyinPgh]

That is exactly what my mom said...then she goes on to tell me that I have the worst taste in friends and I do not know how to make good decisions....
My mom told me I shouldn't ask my one friend either. I guess mom's have some sort of weird mom powers! Now if only I would develop th epower to actually listen to her.

[Amber818]

My mom told me I shouldn't ask my one friend either. I guess mom's have some sort of weird mom powers! Now if only I would develop th epower to actually listen to her.

I do not want that power...LMAO!

[mlm063007]

There is still a while before my wedding, but so far so good. The only person I am kind of concerned about is my cousin. I was talking to her about the wedding and going to try on dresses soon and she was like "I am a bridesmaid?" Um, HELLO!! She did, however just go through a hard time in her life (She and her fiance called off the wedding & other stuff) So I just wrote it off as her being stressed from that. If it happens again I might have to have a little talk with her:realmad:

[nikkiana]

Yep. I had the original MOH/BMs I asked the entire way through. They weren't always the most helpful, but they didn't cause problems either.

[rainbowtreat]

I had the same girls I asked. I never had to replace any one but I had a couple not make it. One was pregnant and even though she was off bed rest she was advised by her doctor not to make the 7 hour trip for my wedding. She was very bumbed but we are still very close freinds, have been for over 10 yrs and we will continue to be. The other is from Ohio and her and her husband we to both be in the wedding. But It was getting closer to the date and she was havign the fowers all made for me so I kept calling and finaly got her husband. They had split up and she moved out and he had no idea how to get a hold of her. I have e-mailed as well but I have never heard from her. Her loss not mine. I have great friends.

My sister was my MOH , that was never a question or issue. HEr and her husband ( he was a grooms man ) we very helpful and generous. They housed me Nicholas, and my 2 brides maids that came up with us and my 2 kids for the entire time we were there. My sisster had a blast pulling this together and was so excited to have us all there.

So I never had to replace any one, and I was going to have an off set of BMs and GMs. But it worked out perfectly. We had 3 on each side and then the kdis.

[WhiskeyGirl]

My MOH was my brother's wife. We had a terriable fight two months before the wedding and I wanted to kick her *** out of the wedding party but my parent's would not let me. Now just over a year later...my brother and SIL do not talk to me for whatever reason. They are petty and being stupid and they can kiss my *** good bye because we are moving over 14 hours away from them! :D