How are your nerves coping?

[Lshard]

Alright ladies here we go. We've done it we got the man of our dreams to pop the question and we're off to live the happily ever after! YAY! Except of course that Cinderella had a fairy godmother to pop in and make it happen. For those of us not living in a Disney movie and in the real world making the magic happen is not as easy as it sounds. Trust me I tried and clicking my red red pumps together doesn't help either. Nerves and stress can make us snap at loved ones. Worrying about our figures, gown, cake etc is enough to turn that lovely hair ours turn gray and than thats another worry. Ugh forget about it.

I'll be honest my nerves are shot. Period. If it's not one thing it's another and forget about keeping your mean old stepmother and evil stepsisters in that tower because you know why? Yep thats right because she'll be the one either harping in your ear or glaring at you from the reception table. After all it wouldn't be good for family relations now would it? So much for looking forward to that dream wedding because girls I can't wait till it's over. Even the strongest will shake in their satin pumps when dealing with so many options and inviting this and that and watching that budget go higher and higher.

It's not easy. Not by a long shot and perhaps this is the first test of marriage. Making all the decisions that may seem pointless but are part of the big picture none the less. In my lesser than steller moments I'll whine to my mother "why didn't you tell me planning a wedding was this hard?" and she'll calmly reply "You wouldn't have believed me if I told you." Which is true but alittle warning would have been nice. After all the people on those bridal shows made it look so darn easy! Some days can be easier than other and on the most brutal I'll be honest sometimes I can't help but cry. Yes cry and than end up having a sleepless night. Wishing all the world that I had a fairy godmother of my own to poof all the hard decisions away.

So tell me ladies how are you coping? Do you snap and stomp your foot due to stress or do you let off steam by crying in your prince charmings arms? Do you have any suggestions to relieve the stress (well aside from eloping of course) So brides to be and mature matrons of the world what do you do? How do you handle it?

[gwenshack]

LOL :rofl: Your description was so colorful I couldn't help but chuckle a little bit. You sound a lot like my best friend did when she was preparing for her big wedding.

I coped by getting married in Vegas. ;)

But even then I had a few moments of freak out and stress. So then I drank.

Just kidding. ;) I just told myself that it was just a day - one day - and that what happened afterward, the way Ron and I treat each other through the course of a marriage, is what would really count. Taking the importance out of the one day really helped keep my nerves in check.

:goodluck:

[mitch]

I tend to go to the bottom of the garden and have a scream at the trees. ;) Frustration soon goes. Then i take a deep breath and go back indoors. In my case it's frustration from every day things. Planning a Wedding to DH was a breeze because we've both been there before.

My first Wedding was a case of inviting every Tom, Dick or Harriet in the address book to the point where i shouted STOP!!! And made everyone realise this was our day. Not an excuse to see family we only get the occasional Christmas Card from and never see from one years end to the next.

My second Wedding was much smaller. Only those there that mattered. Friends who were there from the beginning. (I met DH in an AC/DC Music Chatroom. And all our friends are from the same site) DH's Daughters and Grandson were there. One Brother from the family that we see. None of my family were invited. Mum and Brother didn't even know it was happening.

What you have to remember is it's YOUR day. Not your Parents or the Out-laws. If you don't want the Postmans next-door neighbours cousins best friend there. Then shout NO! If you don't want to spend a fortune on Catering then shop around. There are bargains out there to help with the smallest budget. We got Married for less than $1,000. So it can be done. Colours don't have to match exactly. No matter how many Bridal books, shows or Wedding Fairs tell you otherwise. It's one day out of your life. Who cares what you get to eat at the Reception.

A few years ago i won £10,000 in a court case. Do you know what. I can't for the life of me remember what i had for dinner that day. ;)

[HappyFamily]

I've been pretty lucky so far. I don't have any horror stories about people trying to take over my wedding. Even though this is my second marriage it'll be my first wedding. (My ex and I eloped). My mom has stayed out of everything unless I ask for her opinion about something and my FMIL just really wants to know when and where to show up lol. Since FH and I are paying for this ourselves nobody's going to tell us what to do lol.

We're getting married in June and I think everything's under control so far. I haven't had any breakdowns or bridezilla moments. Although probably as the time gets closer I'll be feeling the stress. A lot of the last minute stuff is going to happen when I'm working a lot of overtime so I'll already be stressed by that. We'll just have to wait and see I guess.

[MrsNickToBe]

Up until this point I have been very good.....but I feel my shell cracking more and more each day. At this point all i want to do is cry to make it feel better. Or call those stinking vendors that won't call me back and let them have a piece of my mind. But instead, I think I will just snack on my "I'll fit into that dress and look darn good" carrots and cucumbers.

[muguet]

So tell me ladies how are you coping? Do you snap and stomp your foot due to stress or do you let off steam by crying in your prince charmings arms? Do you have any suggestions to relieve the stress (well aside from eloping of course) So brides to be and mature matrons of the world what do you do? How do you handle it?

Just lately I've noticed this feeling of being stressed out, more than usual. I was thinking that it was work related, but now I'm realizing it's probably pre-wedding, even though it's this summer. I do a lot of heavy breathing exercises, but just last week I was considering going to the doctor to see about mood stabilizers. If that is not recommended by my doctor then I will take a natural mood stabilizer. I do take dance classes twice a week and that helps tremendously. But there are times when if I let myself, I could really snap at someone around me. I haven't yet - fortunately I have friends who listen so I can let off steam. Also, fortunately there have been Happy Hours after work...I don't normally drink much but even a couple, mixed with a good, fun time hanging out with friends, has really been just what I needed!! Let's just hope these things are enough...I'm already picturing myself snapping at people once it gets closer, though I don't want to do that. *deep breath*

[muguet]

Colours don't have to match exactly.

I agree. A co-worker of mine who I was considering inviting had to tell me that she doesn't like the idea of bridesmaids not matching exactly (color and style of dress), and that letting each member of the bridal party choose her own dress then looks like it was just thrown together and not planned at all. Needless to say, I am very reluctant to invite her, because if I were to invite her and if she does come, I'd be thinking about her saying that to me (note to those considering saying this to a bride-to-be: I would recommend that you remain silent on this - lol).