HappyFamily
01-17-2011, 11:01 AM
I thought that I would just share my experience that I had with my MOH. Hopefully it will help someone or help someoe realize that they're not alone. Thankfully this situation was settled far enough ahead of time that I don't have to stress out about it.
My sister-in-law (brother's wife) was origianally going to be my MOH since I got along better with her than my sister. Everything was going along just fine until around May. We had an agreement that she would watch my two older children when they got out of school and watch the baby 3 days a week. My soon to be step-son would still go to daycare since he has social issues and needs to go to daycare in order to socialize. In exchange I paid for her car insurance and bought her son clothes whenever he needed them and just paid for a lot of stuff for them. She agreed to all of this since she was already watching her 18 month old son and wasn't looking to get a job outside of the home.
Now about May she just up and left and didn't give me any notice. She left me one day to figure out what to do with my kids. Luckily we had other family members who could help out. Needless to say I wasn't happy lol. Supposedly it was so she could get a job in the mountains cleaning cabins. So at first it wasn't really a problem. I wasn't really that mad. I tried to be understading. Until they started texting me and putting stuff on Facebook about how I didn't do any of the housework and they had to do everything and I was just taking advantage of them.
Now I realize that I probably didn't do as much as I should have but at the time I was workig 7 days a week, 10 hours a day and 12 hours on Saturdays. Plus my two older children were in t-ball and softball.
It also came out that they were upset because we were planning on going to Disneyland that summer and we were planning what they called a fancy wedding but we weren't moving out of my mom's house. The reason that we're living with my mom is because she wants us too because she's had two bouts of cancer in two years and she needs somebody to take care of her and help out with the bills. So moving out really isn't an option.
We haven't really spoken about this since it happen but needless to say they are no longer in the wedding (my brother was going to be a groomsman) and as of right now aren't going to be invited.
I just thought I would share this so that people know that they're not alone. Like I said earlier luckily it happened far enough ahead of time that it didn't stress me out so now my sister is my MOH.
My sister-in-law (brother's wife) was origianally going to be my MOH since I got along better with her than my sister. Everything was going along just fine until around May. We had an agreement that she would watch my two older children when they got out of school and watch the baby 3 days a week. My soon to be step-son would still go to daycare since he has social issues and needs to go to daycare in order to socialize. In exchange I paid for her car insurance and bought her son clothes whenever he needed them and just paid for a lot of stuff for them. She agreed to all of this since she was already watching her 18 month old son and wasn't looking to get a job outside of the home.
Now about May she just up and left and didn't give me any notice. She left me one day to figure out what to do with my kids. Luckily we had other family members who could help out. Needless to say I wasn't happy lol. Supposedly it was so she could get a job in the mountains cleaning cabins. So at first it wasn't really a problem. I wasn't really that mad. I tried to be understading. Until they started texting me and putting stuff on Facebook about how I didn't do any of the housework and they had to do everything and I was just taking advantage of them.
Now I realize that I probably didn't do as much as I should have but at the time I was workig 7 days a week, 10 hours a day and 12 hours on Saturdays. Plus my two older children were in t-ball and softball.
It also came out that they were upset because we were planning on going to Disneyland that summer and we were planning what they called a fancy wedding but we weren't moving out of my mom's house. The reason that we're living with my mom is because she wants us too because she's had two bouts of cancer in two years and she needs somebody to take care of her and help out with the bills. So moving out really isn't an option.
We haven't really spoken about this since it happen but needless to say they are no longer in the wedding (my brother was going to be a groomsman) and as of right now aren't going to be invited.
I just thought I would share this so that people know that they're not alone. Like I said earlier luckily it happened far enough ahead of time that it didn't stress me out so now my sister is my MOH.