Butterflies....

[WhiskeyGirl]

It's exactly one month until my wedding day and I'm startin to get those pesky old butterflies in my tummy. We've met with the new photographer, spoken with the florist numerous times, arranged to get out marriage license, are getting more into our dance lessons, and we are getting set for two bridal showers coming up. It didn't really hit me until now! Lol. How are you all dealing with your wedding butterflies? I'm thinking I might just start drinking to help me calm down...lol. :lol: Jk. I've actually taken to just doing house work and it seems to help me calm my nerves temporarily. Or at least keep my brain occupied...lol. So the question is, how are you dealing with your butterflies? Or in some cases, but its not this way for me, cold feet?

~CanadianBride~

[sstark1218]

Our wedding is still over a year away, but every now and then I get butterflies. I try to find something to take my mind off it because I know it's nonsense. I just tell myself that this is the man I want to spend forever with and remind myself of how happy we are and that takes care of it for me. Good Luck and keep us posted!

[LaceyinPgh]

I have been lucky so far, no butterflies. Since I have just about a year to go we will see if I remain butterflyless. The only thing I do it have weird dreams. But I think all brides have weird dreams. If it is bothering you too much, maybe delegate some tasks to your groom or MOH. That way you have less things to worry about. Take some time and focus on all you have accomplished from since you started to plan. That should relax you some, looking at all the things you DON'T have to do. Or, in a worse case scenario have a martini or three. Remember, it is happy hour somewhere.

[WhiskeyGirl]

This weekend is my bridal shower where my mom and my MOH lives. I have to drive two and a half hours for a couple of hours at the shower, only to turn around and drive home after that. It's not that I have too much on my plate right now, its just that my nerves are getting to me. I know that he is THE ONE, I would have never have said yes if he wasn't. I just am one of those people who gets nervous being infront of large groups of people...lol. I also can't help but wonder how the whole day is going to play out, I mean I'm not trying to control it by any means. I'm just wondering how its all going to come together. I'll keep you posted on how insane I am getting. We are also in the middle of building a brand new house and have never done that before. We just picked out our appliances in between all the running we've been doing for our wedding. Lol.

~CanadianBride~

[LaceyinPgh]

You are going to be so giddy that day you won't know if there is 1 person in the room or if there are 100 people in the room. So don't worry about it. My fiance's sister just got married in April. She said when she stepped through the doors and saw all the people at the ceremony she didn't want to walk down the aisle but as soon as she got to her soon to be husband, she forgot everyone else was there. So, don't worry about it.

As for buidling the house, don't worry about that either. It will all fall into place. Just take your time. Remember, it is ok to have a house free or wedding free day sometimes too. I think some brides tend to forget that. You are almost to the finish line....you can do it.

[Mirtra]

[/b] You shouldn't have butterflies if you love the person you are marrying.

Perhaps you are unsure of your love?

[Mirtra]

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[WhiskeyGirl]

Butterflies have nothing to do with the Man that I love! I am insulted that you would even say so. I am naturally a nervous person, so I therefor have butterflies. In fact my mother told me she had butterflies before my Dad and her got married and they have been married for 34 years now! It does not have anything to do with THE ONE, it has to do with the fact that we have been planning for over a year now, and it's coming up quite fast. I was nervous when I graduated from high school, I was nervous for my brother's wedding and I am nervous for my own. Like I've stated before, I am very shy and do not like to be in front of large groups of people, it is NOT because I am doubting my love for my FH!

~CanadianBride~

[LaceyinPgh]

How dare someone say that another bride on this board is nervous because she isn't sure if her soon to be partner is the right one. Shame on them! Everyone gets nervous before their wedding. There are just oo many factors that the wedding is dependent on that could potentially go wrong. Some of us just don't like being in front of groups like Canadianbride. Others, like me, are complete and utter perfectionsist who will drive themselves insane making sure the ribbon length on all the bouquets are exact. There are thousands of reasons to be nervous leading up to your wedding. It is a big and expensive day that we all want to go just right.

In the future, let's not try to cast doubt in other relationships. Negative feedback is never welcome! This is a place where we turn to find solidarity with our bridal sisters.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Thanks Lacey, I know that I can always count on you to be back a girl up when people are being negative or catty. And you're right, its not polite to say such things! One never knows what the situation is, until they've met you in person, and Mirtra, if you ever did meet me in person, you'd be shocked at what Our Relationship really is like! The love we share is nothing that another could possibly imagine and it's not something that I feel that you are at liberty to judge!!

~CanadianBride~

[sstark1218]

I couldn't agree with you guys more. I was shocked when I read that! It wasn't necessary at all. We are all getting nervous, it's natural. Good luck candianbride and lacey with your big weekends! Congrats!

[Jenn060306]

I can completely understand being nervous. My mother pointed out to me today that when i'm walking down the isle everyone will be looking at me. I'm so nervous about it, but i'm thinking i can just focus on getting to my FH. Everything will be beautiful!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I just wanted to post that I had a wonderful time at my Bridal Shower on Sunday. My Sister In Law/MOH did a wonderful job and I am very thankful. WE recieved a lot of wonderful gifts that will come in VERY handy in our new home this fall! We played a few games and had quite a few laughs. The "How Well Do You Know The Bride Quiz?" was halarious and I was surprised to find out just how well my Mother In Law to be knows me....better then my mom actually. l was really surprised and had a lot of fun!!

~CanadianBride~

[sstark1218]

So good to hear you had a nice time. I can't wait until my shower, although I don't even know when it will be yet :lol: , I'm still excited for it. Your MOL knew more than your mother? That's great.. what kinds of questions were on it? Get back with us! Can't wait to hear more details!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Six days until the big day. Things are starting to fall into place and the stress has set in. I'm ashamed to say that in the last few days I have truely turned into bridezilla. It has been hard on me because all of our guests from other countries are showing up and although they are here for our wedding, they tend to ignore me and forget about why they are here for. My fiance has to keep reminding his mom about what it is that needs to be done at any certain moment or she will forget and dote upon her daugther and grand-daughter all day long and nothing for the wedding will get done! We're pushing through and looking forward to hearing the words "I now pronounce you husband and wife."

We've looked at the weather forecast and on our outdoor wedding day they are calling for rain. No problem though we have a back up plan and we've heard that it means good luck and riches to come if it does rain on your wedding day.

Things are coming together and if I can keep it together too, we'll make it to this Saturday with few problems.

~CanadianBride~

[LaceyinPgh]

You have to get through this to provide hope to the rest of us! :lol: It's almost time, you can do it. I have faith in you.

As for rain, it is good luck. It washes away all your sorrows so your marriage can grow beautifully.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Oh I know it will all work out, we're pushing through it all. Today is my day of rest so I'm takin some time off...and I'm gettin some much needed rest. I'll let you all know how it goes.

~CanadianBride~

[Sweet_Girl]

I totally understand the butterfly thing.. I've started to get them as well cause my wedding is now 2 months away and I guess I'm just worried that things are going to get done or I'm going to forget something or someone and I'm also a very shy person so I'm nervous about standing in front of all the people cause we are inviting over 300 people to the wedding. I just can't wait for the day to get here and get things over with. Plus another thing on my mind is our house isn't ready yet so I'm not sure where we are going to live till it is ready.. But I'm sure this will all work out. I just worry about everything..

also Canadianbride good luck this Saturday and hope you have a wonderful day. :)

[stoneysgirl]

Good luck! Butterflies are extremely normal. We have been trying to conceive since April (due to health problems we are doing this now) and every month I get butterflies in my tummy to find out. A wedding is a big life changing event. I don't know many people that would take that calmly and not worry about one thing or another. It doesn't mean your relationship is doomed. Maybe it just means that you really do care.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Stoneysgirl, I know where you are coming from. We have also been trying to concieve because of fertility issues and I know where you are coming from on the nervousness of it all. Add the wedding and voila, you've got me TOTALLY stressed. Lol. I wish you the best of luck!

~CanadianBride~

[stoneysgirl]

Thanks Canadianbride! Good luck to you too!! Hopefully both of us will have lots of luck! Hey maybe all this wedding stuff will bring us more luck and when it is all over less stress!!!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I'm hoping for WAY less stress! And way less headaches too! Take care....and we're down to four days!

~CanadianBride~

[stoneysgirl]

Yay! I would love to see pictures!! Feel free to email them! How are you enjoying the next few days! We are closing in on a month and I don't have anything. EEEK. It is panic time. I have the deposit made on the chapel.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I would love to post pics or even send some to you all but I don't have a scanner. I'm hoping for one when we move though, so I will keep my fingers crossed. Take care All and we're down to three days!!

~CanadianBride~