Do you, or are you going to, spank your child?

[MOB Karen]

Let us know your views on this subject. :D

[Amber818]

Yes I will...I do not plan on beating them but I will swat their butt if it needs to be...

[MOB Karen]

I spanked mine, but I don't feel an obligation to spank my grandbaby. It's funny how that works. I don't feel the need to teach him right and wrong like I strongly felt I needed with my own children. He has a mother and father to do that for him. Of course, I would never let him to anything bad, like play with dog poop. Yes, he did that. :bbconfused:

[LaceyinPgh]

I'm not a parent. So I don't really know. I know I have had the urge to beat the tar out of other peoples' ill behaved little heathens though. I also know that from time to time I got my butt beat when I was little. I can't think of a time I didn't deserve it. And, it has had no ill effects on my psyche unlike Dr. Phil would like you to believe. Frankly, several of our friends aren't spankers and their kids are some of the most obnioxious little monsters you could be around.

[WebLady]

I say 'Spare the rod, spoil the child'

I think people need to punish their kids! No, don't beat them, but a good pop on the hand or butt will put the fear in them. I know I got spanked a couple of times when I was a kid, my brothers didn't really get spanked and they were bad kids, worse as teens. They had no fear of punishment and Mom just felt like the victim, when it was her that created the situation.

At a certain age you can't really spank kids (like teenagers) but if you raised them right and spanked them when they were younger, then you can use other forms of punishment, like taking away privileges and/or things they like.

I'm not having kids but I've had to deal with my fair share of them. And I've known many ppl with kids and I see how they deal with them. I tell ya I think I have more sense than most of the ppl I know with kids. But they don't want to hear my advice because I don't have kids ... so I guess I can't have a rational thought without giving birth :bbrolleyes: I'd be a darn good mom if I put my mind to it, I just don't want to :p ;)

[WhiskeyGirl]

I was spanked as a child and Matthew was not. Matthew was not a heathen and he is a very well adjusted adult. Infact, he was a good teenager and I was not! (so please tell me how that works) I do not want to spank my children at all!! I do not believe in it as I feel resentful to them (my parents) for having done it. Do I want my children to resent me?? Absolutely not!! I want to have as much respect for them as they should for me. I do not believe that inflicting pain on your child teaches them anything. There are many ways to deal with things.

And as far as slapping their hands....DO NOT DO THIS. Childrens fingers are very fragile and I have heard of many parent's BREAKING their childs fingers or hands because they were "punishing" them.

[Amber818]

I was spanked as a child and Matthew was not. Matthew was not a heathen and he is a very well adjusted adult. Infact, he was a good teenager and I was not! (so please tell me how that works) I do not want to spank my children at all!! I do not believe in it as I feel resentful to them (my parents) for having done it. Do I want my children to resent me?? Absolutely not!! I want to have as much respect for them as they should for me. I do not believe that inflicting pain on your child teaches them anything. There are many ways to deal with things.

And as far as slapping their hands....DO NOT DO THIS. Childrens fingers are very fragile and I have heard of many parent's BREAKING their childs fingers or hands because they were "punishing" them.

I think this is one of those things that changes from individual to individual. For instance, my brother and I got our butts whipped if we were bad...I am not however resentful because of it. If we weren't bad we wouldn't need a spanking...that is how I see it. JMO : )

[Kacie_bride]

Justin and I were both spanked lots and lots of times. I do not resent my parents for doing it. He doesn't either. Both of us have a very deep respect for our parents. I know I deserved it probably every single time.

I will spank my children. Do I think that all children who are not spanked with turn out to be little urchens, no, but a lot do. Sometimes you need a little more to get their attention. Talking is not that effective in some cases.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I think this is one of those things that changes from individual to individual. For instance, my brother and I got our butts whipped if we were bad...I am not however resentful because of it. If we weren't bad we wouldn't need a spanking...that is how I see it. JMO : )

My father was VERY strict! And there are many more issues under lying...but I don't think a child should ever have to cower when their parent's punish them! Yes I did bad things...but sometimes the things I did never warranted being hit with a leather belt or slapped across the face!

[Natasha]

For me, it depends on your definition of spank. My 3 year old gets his butt swatted here and there. Sometimes, I swear, it is the only thing that will get his attention. But, I would never say he gets his butt beat or whipped.

[Amber818]

My father was VERY strict! And there are many more issues under lying...but I don't think a child should ever have to cower when their parent's punish them! Yes I did bad things...but sometimes the things I did never warranted being hit with a leather belt or slapped across the face!

I hear what you are saying and I respect your views on this issue. I too have been whipped with a belt, slapped across the face, and whipped with hangers. All of which I deserved. For me personally if my child does something that warrants a spanking they darn sure are getting one.

[officiant-fica]

OK I have to share this story. My daughter is much like her mother. She tends to be a bit defiant, and sassy. I guess I am to blame for that GENETIC trait. So we have a problem with discipline. NOTHING works. I say pick up your toys or they are going in the trash. She picks up a few and puts them in the trash herself. It's things like that, that make me wonder why I had a child. So one day I've had it. Joe and I have agreed to not spank the princess/devil, but I couldn't think of any other way to get through to her. So I swatted. She was SHOCKED at first and started to cry..... then she sing songed "Ha Ha Ha Ha That didn't hurt" and ran and hid. Ok so I laughed, I mean who wouldn't?! So we are back to no spanking except in extreme situations.............

[WhiskeyGirl]

I hear what you are saying and I respect your views on this issue. I too have been whipped with a belt, slapped across the face, and whipped with hangers. All of which I deserved. For me personally if my child does something that warrants a spanking they darn sure are getting one.

I guess what I'm really trying to say is that what my parent's did was too much. At this point I'd like to say that I wouldn't spank my child, but perhaps that woudl change in the future. I'm sure a slight swat has never killed anyone, but when it goes to the extreme, then it's wrong.

My dad has a saying
"Don't hit them on the hand, swat them on their bum it's already cracked."
Lol...it's funny but I just don't think hitting will be for us.

[AllyM1]

My sister and I were never spanked or even as much as grounded. Some people also believe we are spoiled little brats... I personally don't. =)

My parents had a way of speaking to us that made us listen. My dad especially had this one tone that would scare the living :censored: out of us and basically could talk us into submission. lol. The only time my butt was spanked was when someone was joking around.

Needless to say, I will not spank my children.

[WebLady]

OK I have to share this story. My daughter is much like her mother. She tends to be a bit defiant, and sassy. I guess I am to blame for that GENETIC trait. So we have a problem with discipline. NOTHING works. I say pick up your toys or they are going in the trash. She picks up a few and puts them in the trash herself. It's things like that, that make me wonder why I had a child. So one day I've had it. Joe and I have agreed to not spank the princess/devil, but I couldn't think of any other way to get through to her. So I swatted. She was SHOCKED at first and started to cry..... then she sing songed "Ha Ha Ha Ha That didn't hurt" and ran and hid ...
OMG :bbeek: I'm sorry, but I would have to beat that little girl. I'd let her throw all her toys away and she could whine and cry for more all she wanted and wouldn't get a one.

This girl I use to work with had (probably still has) a little devil girl too ... when the little girl was about 3 she slapped her mom in the face and said 'No Mommy' when she had told her to do something. I was like OH MY GOODNESS! :bbeek: I would have snatched that kid up and beat her arse so hard she wouldn't be able to sit for a week. The kid is about 7 now and I am sure she is still a brat, though I haven't seem them in years.

My neice is 2 and she is starting to test you ... she ran from me when we were at the beach a few weeks ago and I beat her but with my shoe! (really it was one little swat and she was wearing a swim diaper, so she barely felt it) She cried for a minute, but she didn't run from me anymore that day.

[AllyM1]

I'm sorry but that's funny...

My neice is a bad little girl as well. She does not listen at all. She picked up a bag of goldfish and dumped them on my parents floor. My mom said, "Jocelyn, could you please pick up the crackers for Grandma?" She looked and my mom, smiled, then started jumping up and down smasing the crackers into the carpet. My mom wanted to beat her little butt.

She had started this thing where when you tell her to do something she'll cross her arms and say, "Uh uh..."

It seems like it's the girls that are the little devils! lol

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I'm not sure and we havent really discussed it yet... we're still a long way from trying to have kids.

[SerendipityCrafts]

A swat on the butt has it's place but I do recall a few times when I got so worked up that I needed to walk away to calm down ...

The last thing I want my kids to remember about their mother is when she flipped out until she was red in the face and horse from yelling. I know I looked crazed and scary because I caught site of myself in the mirror. BTW - one doesn't make much sense at times like this so, you might as well walk away & return later, to calmly make your point known & to dole out discipline if necessary. Unfortunately, I was forced to be the bad cop whilst the ex was able to be "good daddy". His form of dicipline was to tell me to do it.

Parenthood is hard work and parents aren't always on their best behaviour. What does it say about us when most parents would not dream of treating their friends or coworkers the way that they do each other or their children?

[70707Bride]

I voted yes we will (or I will). If they need it, they need it! I didn't get spanked as much as I should have :bbredface: haha. But I did get it a lot. I don't believe in using belts and stuff to spank...those suck.

[LaceyinPgh]

I spanked mine, but I don't feel an obligation to spank my grandbaby. It's funny how that works. I don't feel the need to teach him right and wrong like I strongly felt I needed with my own children. He has a mother and father to do that for him. Of course, I would never let him to anything bad, like play with dog poop. Yes, he did that. :bbconfused:
Ahh! The grandma double standard, you gotta love it! :bbmrgreen:

[Jenn060306]

Mark and i plan on nor spanking our children. Possibly a like bum swat to get them moving but nothing more if even that.
I was spanked and have seen a couple occassions where things did get out of control. I don't feel like i gained much for it.
Mark was a very defiant child. His mother attempted to spank him once but he started laughing at her so there was no use in her mind. She has successfully imbarried him into behaving though. They were out at a restraunt and he kept playing with the little cups of butter. She told him not too but he wouldn't stop. She she told him to leave it alone or she would stick it on his nose and make him wear it like that until they went home. Wel... he ended up taking them with him in his pocket. She discovered him playing with the butter cups in the store they went shopping in after having lunch so she openned the little butter cup and stuck it on his nose. He apperently walked arround the store very well behaved. But she felt really embarrised to have done it too.
Mark's mom seemed to do really well with disaplining her kids. She didn't spank them. She embarrised them into behaving.

[MOB Karen]

Ahh! The grandma double standard, you gotta love it! :bbmrgreen:

Guilty as charged!!! LOL!! :D

[AngelinLove]

We will spank our children's bottoms with our hands, when they are young and need discipline to that degree!!! I would never hit my children anywhere else on their bodies, never use anything but and open hand and never "beat them.

[rainbowtreat]

My kids get the occational slap on the butt. Mostly all I have to do is start counting to 3 if they havent stopped or started doing something I have sked of them. Some people ask what I will do if I get to 3. Well one day I will find out. But I never get past 2. Just this morning I had told my daughter to go blow her nose but she didnt want to stop playing her game. I didnt even ask her again I just said 1 and she was up and gone to the bathroom.

My kids get sent to their rooms and they both hate that. THey would much rather be with every one else. I guess they are affraid they are going to miss something. It is the fact that my husband or I sent them there that bugs them. It wasnt their choice.

I have had a hard time breaking them of not listening because it got to a poitn when I was the only one with them and at the end of the work day I didnt want to fight with them. I wanted to spend what time I had with them before they had to go to bed to be a good time. They are over all good kids.

There are the times that they just dont want too listen and are so hyper and fighting with each that a swat on the butt gets them to calm down and stap out of it.

As for hitting your child with any thing other hten your hand I think is not right. I cant stand to hurt my kids. I had some friends who had to go pick their own switch to be beat with. No thank you. The stupidest idea I have ever heard of.

there is a spankign and then there is a beating. A huge difference. I fo rone would never slap my child in the face. And as for slappign their hands, i have never slapped my childs hand hard enough to break anything. OMG I mena how hard would you have to hit them. I have hit their hands when they were younger but never left a red mark or anything. Just enough tap to get their attention. My kids dont cower away from me. But they know I mean business. Now they do listen to my husband better then they do me but thats ok. I am not the only one dealing with them any more.

[officiant-fica]

OMG :bbeek: I'm sorry, but I would have to beat that little girl. I'd let her throw all her toys away and she could whine and cry for more all she wanted and wouldn't get a one.
LOL Brandi, Yes, I want to beat her sometimes and I think that is why I try to aviod it. And the toy thing. Well, she doesn't whine or cry for new stuff. I seems like she simply does not care. The hardest part about it is that she is just like me.
If kids came with a manual it would be soooo much easier. But even the child rearing books are usually so far to the left or right that they are useless. As a parent I do the best that I can. I try to keep hold of the things my parents did right and aviod their mistakes. But I swear eveyday is a learning experience! Some days are rewarding and others, I just can't wait for them to be over!

[WebLady]

LOL Brandi, Yes, I want to beat her sometimes and I think that is why I try to aviod it. And the toy thing. Well, she doesn't whine or cry for new stuff. I seems like she simply does not care. The hardest part about it is that she is just like me.

Well good luck with your little devil/princess ;)

[cowboysbride]

I was spanked and needed it, I respect my mother for it and will spank my children as needed.

[mariaandmanish]

I was spanked when I was a child, and can honestly say that every time I was spanked, I deserved it. Manish was not ever spanked, and doesn't believe in it at all. I, personally, think that a chidl may need to be spanked from time to time to prove your point, (by spanked, I mean a hit on the butt, without leaving any marks or truly causing pain). I had a healthy respect for my mother growing up, and knew that no matter what the punishment was, it was deserved. I want my children to feel that same respect and understanding.

[brewsells]

I can count on one hand how many times I have "Spanked" my children. THey have had their share of swats but I don't really like to spank. There are other ways we discipline our children that works just as well, and I have very well behaved children.

[EarlyBird]

my mom said when i was little she would say "vanamarie you have till the count of 3 to stop that or i will warm your butt" and i would taunt her. like if she told me to stop touching something, i would hold my hand an inch or two above it justttt to piss her off and then look at her and smile very viciously. My mom would follow through and spank me and then she would go in the other room and cry- she said it messed with her mind more then mine. Therefore, i think i will probably use the method of spanking, not beating, but i respect my parents more then anything , i cant say whether thats b/c of the spanking but i definatly have respect for the discipline they gave me. Most kids will cry just b.c they are being told not to do something but if i saw that i ever left a mark or something i would probably discontinue the practice- Time outs only work to a certain extent with most kids that i know- but of course, this is all a generalization and i can only speak IMO

[hummingbird521]

my mom said when i was little she would say "vanamarie you have till the count of 3 to stop that or i will warm your butt" and i would taunt her. like if she told me to stop touching something, i would hold my hand an inch or two above it justttt to piss her off and then look at her and smile very viciously.

my mother said i would do the same thing but after taunting her i would then reach out with my other hand and spank my hand that was reaching for it. lol. hahha. she said then she would be to tickled from laughing to swat my hand.

[candyt2009]

Yes I do spank my child .where am from there is kid out here that don't respect their mother or don't listen to their mother or father . My children no better no to play with me

[candyt2009]

I'am sorry but have to post one more time sometime when am walking in the street .I see little kids doing some bad thing and there mother sit there and watch then .I look at my 4.5.10 and my 12 14 years old and say If you even try that :censored: with me am going to get at y'all .My 4 years just look at me and think to herself I better not

[Nekochanpurr]

When i have kids i will spank them if need be. I was spanked, and i know i deserved it every single time. My sister and i could be brats! Haha, once we laughed at my mom because 'it doesn't hurt' so she got a wooden spoon with a hole in the middle (no wind resistance!! lol) we never did that again (actually, we hid the spoon in her van!! lol).. She never hit us hard enough to hurt us, but we understood we were doing wrong. My children will grow up the same. And also.. i will have no problem with his/her grandparents disaplining them. If grandma needs to swat 'um, then they are going to get swatted.

[katieandalex]

Its illegal in IA to spank your children, but I will still do it if need be. I won't spank them all the time and I won't be beating them, but if it comes to it, then it has to be done. My parents spanked all of their kids and we turned out fine, but they only spanked us when we did something really wrong.

[soontobemrs]

Growing up, my mom was the spanker - I think my dad hit me twice and felt really bad but I know what did so it was deserving. As far as my daughter, I I've spanked her a few times when she really needed a reality check but that was it.