How do you feel about adoption?

[MOB Karen]

Let us know what you think of this topic. :D

[MOB Karen]

I would have done it if I couldn't have my own children naturally.:D

[Amber818]

I would do it too...you never know we might do it...

[MOB Karen]

I would do it too...you never know we might do it...

Have you ever seen the Chinese babies on the adoption show on the Discovery Channel? They are so adorable, I could eat them up! :D

[Amber818]

Have you ever seen the Chinese babies on the adoption show on the Discovery Channel? They are so adorable, I could eat them up! :D

Yes they are....chubby cheeks...love them!

[ladymelissa]

I am not sure how to vote here. Personally, we don't want any kids at all. So we would certainly not adopt, but I think it is a wonderful option for others. There are so many kids out there that really need good homes.

[LaceyinPgh]

Obviously, adoption is a wonderful option. This is especiallyt rue if the couple can't have children naturally. But as I have never been in that situation, I don't know how I would feel if I had to adopt over having my child naturally. Considering I am at a stage in my life where I don't want children, it obvioulsy isn't an avenue I'll be exploring.

Couples do need to research laws and prepare themselves for any situation that could arise from a birth mother changing her mind. For internation adoptions, couples should be well informed on the development and physical issues their child could have as well. This should be done as part of an investigation BEFORE you even start an adoption procedure.

[WebLady]

I am not sure how to vote here. Personally, we don't want any kids at all. So we would certainly not adopt, but I think it is a wonderful option for others. There are so many kids out there that really need good homes.
I agree ... It is sad to see so many unwanted children out there. I also agree with Lacey in that you need to do your homework it too.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well this has been a topic of discussion the last couple of days and we even talked about it today. We are definately going to adopt at least one child. This is something I think about nearly every day of my life lately as everyone knows what we are going through. I really thought that Matthew was not into it, that he would not go for it but he was the one who came right out and said we WILL adopt!! I cried when he said that, I really did. It gives me hope that one day, no matter what I will get to be called "mommy".

[MOB Karen]

Well this has been a topic of discussion the last couple of days and we even talked about it today. We are definately going to adopt at least one child. This is something I think about nearly every day of my life lately as everyone knows what we are going through. I really thought that Matthew was not into it, that he would not go for it but he was the one who came right out and said we WILL adopt!! I cried when he said that, I really did. It gives me hope that one day, no matter what I will get to be called "mommy".

I think that's awesome, Shawna!!! I think you'll be a great Mommy too!!! :D

[WhiskeyGirl]

I think that's awesome, Shawna!!! I think you'll be a great Mommy too!!! :D

Thank you Karen!! That means a lot to me!! That means alot to me because you are a AWESOME Mom and it means a lot to me!! Thank you so much! :D

[Kacie_bride]

I would defiantely adopt a child if I were unable to have children. I would like to adopt one even if I do have one naturally. I don't know if we will or not, probably not.

Like Lacey said, I think people should be aware of the laws in their state before taking the plunge. For instance, in Texas the biological mother has one year after the adoption papers are signed to take the child back. That, to me, is ridiculous. I actually know of a person it happened to. It is sad.

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I would do it, especially if we couldnt have kids.

[darkangel090260]

adoption should be out lawed.

[ikkin510]

I think adoption is wonderful. People who can't handle being a parent at that time in their life have an option and it helps people who can not have children.
Steve and I have talked about this a lot. We would actually like to have children AND adopt. There as so many children out there that don't have homes. I would like to adopt a toddler maybe even one a little older. Those are the children that get looked over all the time because they are no babies.

[rainbowtreat]

Ok I havent read any ones yet because I voted wrong lol, I WOULD DO IT. sorry to screw up the voting I clicked on the wrong one by accident.

One thing I dont like about adoption is how hard it is. I know a family that would be ( are ) great parents. They have had a very hard time conveiveing. She is now pregnant with her second child. But because they dont own their own home they would not be able to adopt.

I grew up living in an apartmetn and I was fine. My kids are fine, they dont need a house to be a home to have a great life.

I am also talking every week to one o fmy customers at work. He and his wife adopted because she had somethign like 6 miscarriages. She could conceive but just could not carry a child. They are in the process of tryin gto adopt another. The one family they are matched up with want a video confrence. The mother is in jail and her mother is taking care of her 5 other children untill she gets out. She is due in early Oct. I think. And they ahve to pay a huge amount of money upfront and if the mother changes her mind they dont get that money back.

I treid talking to my ex-friend about her visiting with a couple that wanted to adopt her baby. I knew for a fact she was not going to give tha tbaby up and I tried telling her that you cant do that to those people. You cant keep meeting with them and getting their hopes up like that if you think for a second that you are going to keep this baby. 3 weeks before the baby was bron she made the choice to keep it. That is just wrong. She knew all along she was never going to give it up.

I love adoption because there are so many couple who would make great parents that want to adopt. They just make it so hard here in America. I knwo their are rules and laws. but to me it is just a very difficult process. I have seen more and more people go over seas to adopt. It is alot easier.

[AngelinLove]

adoption should be out lawed.

Why do you feel that adoption should be outlawed?


I voted that yes I would do it. I don't know if we will, but I know that we would!!!

[darkangel090260]

Because quite a few of they children are from loving home. They have family out there that have fought and spent 1,000 of $$$$ try to get them home. But sinces someone thought it was best to call a hotline and say there parents are abusing them. They no long have there mommys and daddys to love them. I can go in to a hour rat over state ran adption and how they system is there only to make the state more money. Look up and see what i am talking about there are thousand of family right now fighitng CPS for there children ,because some one made of a bunch of BS or blow thing way out.

[ladymelissa]

Because quite a few of they children are from loving home. They have family out there that have fought and spent 1,000 of $$$$ try to get them home. But sinces someone thought it was best to call a hotline and say there parents are abusing them. They no long have there mommys and daddys to love them. I can go in to a hour rat over state ran adption and how they system is there only to make the state more money. Look up and see what i am talking about there are thousand of family right now fighitng CPS for there children ,because some one made of a bunch of BS or blow thing way out.
I find this very hard to believe. Do you have links that you can site to support this?

If someone called CPS on someone and CPS shows up and can't find anything wrong with the home or a single bruise on the the child that wouldn't have occurred just playing, I highly doubt they would just take the child away. They may watch the household for awhile just to be safe, but if the parents aren't doing anything wrong there should be no problems.

[70707Bride]

I would love to have my own kids and also adopt. I'd love to have an Asian baby, I think they are so cute when they are younger.

[darkangel090260]

http://www.geocities.com/whosyurmamma/tribute_stars.html
http://members.familyrights.us/oregon/index.html
http://www.beanswers.com/pages/dcsa.htm
http://www.massoutrage.com/

and you can also do a search and get many manyt more

[AngelinLove]

I find this very hard to believe. Do you have links that you can site to support this?

If someone called CPS on someone and CPS shows up and can't find anything wrong with the home or a single bruise on the the child that wouldn't have occurred just playing, I highly doubt they would just take the child away. They may watch the household for awhile just to be safe, but if the parents aren't doing anything wrong there should be no problems.


I have to agree...since I used to work for CPS...I for one KNOW that more times than not you are forced to leave children in a situation that you as the worker feel is unsafe, but since there is not enough there for the state/law/courts/etc. to do anythinga bout you have to walk away and leave the children until things get worse...adn usually they do. I agree that sometimes mistakes are made....but most of the time the parenst don't have their **** together and are not taking care of their children or are abusing them and that is when teh state must intervene. In 80% of cases that CPS is called out on the allegations are not even substantiated and nothing is ever done. On another 12-15% the cases are opened and the families are either serviced in their homes or in really bad situations the children are placed in foster care TEMPORARILY until the family life can be improved...these children are not even placed for adoption. Only about 5%, if that, of the children that CPS investigates are removed from the home and their parents rights are terminated and they are placed up for adoption. This is a long process involving many different people and 99% of the time the children are being severely abused or neglected. These parenst do not deserve these children..and fi adoption was outlawed then what happens to ALL the children who are being severely abused and neglected...who will ove and care for them?

All I can say is that unless you have been a CPS/Foster Care worker then you cannot truly see what the cases are like and all of the services that are put into place to fight for family preservation/reunification if at all possible!!!

[AngelinLove]

http://www.geocities.com/whosyurmamma/tribute_stars.html
http://members.familyrights.us/oregon/index.html
http://www.beanswers.com/pages/dcsa.htm
http://www.massoutrage.com/

and you can also do a search and get many manyt more


Anyone can start a website and "organization"/"rights group" and there are many vigilante type ones out there...but they are only going off of what people say...not the facts. I have agreed that mistakes are made...but tehya re also made in hospitals, jails, prisons, courts, and every other company/organization/agency in the world...no system is perfect..and most of the cases that are discussed on these sites are full of opinion and inaccuracy.

[darkangel090260]

http://www.judicialaccountability.org/articles/fostercarechildrenca.htm

[AngelinLove]

You are entitled to your opinion, as am I and I don't wanna turn this into a personal debate!!! All I can say is that I have been a CPS worker and I KNOW how the system works. Yes the state does get money to pay for teh care of children in foster care...because the foster parents have to be paid, plus food stamps, medical insurance, clothes stipends, the children's attorney costs, etc. have to be paid. No matter how many children are placed into foster care teh workers do not make any more money or get any "bonuses" or anything of that nature. As a matter of a fact there is only funding and allotment for so many workers and no matter how many children are placed in the system that allotment does not go up...nor do the workers get raises. I will be the first to admit that the children's services, and all social services are screwed up....this is not why. You can do a search for stories and parenst that have baused/murdered/molested/neglected their children and I bet you you will get just as many hits..if not more!!!!

[WebLady]

Can we stop this now please ... I don't want to see this to get 'dirty'

I am sure there are good and bad things that go on in this industry, organization or whatever you want to call adoption (as I'm sure it is with any other system)

We all have our opinions and many differ and that is fine. This thread was about stating your opinion and respecting that of others, not to try to prove yours or debunk another.

[MOB Karen]

Absolutely, Brandi. It's futile to try to sway someone who doesn't see things your way, so let's all try not to do it.

[MOB Karen]

For some reason, and I don't know why, Amber has a very hard time getting pregnant. She has not been on birth control for many years, and has only been pregnant once, and she lost the baby in the first trimester. So, adoption may be an option for our family for her and Jason. We don't know yet, but we are so happy that Amber may have a chance to be a Mother if it doesn't come naturally for her.

[Kacie_bride]

adoption should be out lawed.

This is your opinion and you are entitled to it. I am not trying to sway you in one direction or the other. I hope this is okay for me to ask. I am just curious as to what you think should be done with all the children who are given up because they are not wanted?

[AllyM1]

I have no faith in CPS... none at all. My cousin was being abused and starved, my parents contacted CPS over 20 different occasions and everytime CPS went to her house my aunt and uncle would make up stories and nothing happened.

My parents wanted to have parental rights for my cousin because of this but they did nothing. She is finally out of there because she is 18 but CPS are worthless..

And I don't mean anything to you Angel because I know not all CPS are like that but Franklin County CPS in Ohio are worthless pos.

Anyway, I strongly agree with adoption. I think I would still adopt even if I could have children.

[cowboysbride]

My stepfather married my mother and took my sister and I into his care when I was 3. My bio father is a horrible excuse for a man and left us to root hog or die, had it not been for the love of my stepfather (and I despise that word) God only knows what would have become of us....he treats us like his own and if you could have seen the pride and joy on his face the day I got married you'd understand how much he truly loves us both!

I would adopt a child that needed me in a heartbeat!

[mariaandmanish]

I would definitely adopt if I couldn't have children naturally. Manish and I have actually even discussed the possibility of adopting at least one anyway... even if we have a child naturally. I don't know if we'll actually do that or not, but there are a lot of unwanted children in the world, and I think that anyone who adopts is doing something amazing.

[darkangel090260]

I am just curious as to what you think should be done with all the children who are given up because they are not wanted?

How about people take responsibility for there actions. I mean there are so many different forms of Birth control on the market use it. If you do not what to have a child then be informed about your options. Ohh and abortion is not a option of birth control

[brewsells]

I would definatly adopt a child in a heartbeat if I was not able to have any on my own.
Ellen, I have the same situation as you. My "stepfather" adopted me and my sister and took us in as his own. Adam has done the same thing with my kids, which makes me love him even more. Any person that will take on children that aren't their blood are wonderful creatures.

[racecargirl]

I think adoption is great. My parents adopted my sister. However, just be prepared. You don't know the family's history and my sister has had a lot of problems. At one time it almost split my parents up. She has two blood sisters who have also had a lot of problems. And I have heard both ends of the spectrum, where the adopted child turned out fine, or where the adopted child had a lot of issues. Before you commit to it I would strongly recommend doing a lot of research on adoption. There are a lot of issues that come up with an adopted child that don't come up with your own child. Such as, do you tell them they are adopted, medical history (a lot of times you don't know the families history), mental issues, etc. There's no right or wrong answers with these things, but I think it helps to be prepared.

[Kacie_bride]

How about people take responsibility for there actions. I mean there are so many different forms of Birth control on the market use it. If you do not what to have a child then be informed about your options. Ohh and abortion is not a option of birth control

I am not trying to argue with you or anything. I hope you are not taking it that way. I was just seriously trying to ask what you think the government should do with any unwanted children. Yes, people should take responsibility for their actions, but many many do not. I just wanted to know what you think they should do with the children whose parents do not take responsibility because you will always have those who do not. There is also always going to be times when something happens to a parent and there is no family around or willing to take on an orphaned child. I am just wondering because you may have a good idea. I just wanted to know what that idea was.

[LizabethDavis]

If I was unable to have children of my own, then yes, I would consider adopting.

[racecargirl]

I was reading what dark angel said and Kacie bride said. I've had many discussions with friends on this subject and isn't it interesting that you have to have a license to drive and you have to have training for a job, but there's not a lot of education out there about having children? Sure there's home economics in school, but it's usually not a required class. Something to think about.

[WebLady]

I was reading what dark angel said and Kacie bride said. I've had many discussions with friends on this subject and isn't it interesting that you have to have a license to drive and you have to have training for a job, but there's not a lot of education out there about having children? Sure there's home economics in school, but it's usually not a required class. Something to think about.
HAHAHA, DH and I have had a similar conversation ;) But not really related to adobtion, just the way some ppl raise their kids and/or have too many.

[Jenn060306]

Mark and i would adopt if we were not able to have our own children.

[KristyGirl]

I think it's a wonderful option. We personally don't want kids, but if we did and had trouble conceiving, we might consider it.