Do you feel any different??

[Amanda&Hugo]

I guess I should have made this a poll, but I don't know how... I am just wondering, reading through a lot of other people's thoughts, do you feel any different now that you are officially husband and wife?? A lot of people say they do, and this past year a lot of my coworkers got married and swore it was different even though a lot of them were living together before.

Well, after hearing all this I really expected some sort of earth-shattering difference in my life after getting married. So, it has been over 3 weeks now and... nothing!! It totally feels the same except now we have to refer to each other as "husband" and "wife." That's really the only difference and it's not major... I guess it must be different for everyone.

What was your experience???

[WhiskeyGirl]

I feel the same! Nothing changed really....except we fall deeper and deeper in love every day, but that would have happened anyhow! lol. So yeah, just like you, nothing has really changed. I think that's a good thing. ;)

[designdiva]

My husband and I just celebrated our one year anniversary last month. We did not live together before we got married and it still didn't feel that different after we got married. It was basically the same, there was no big transition. And you still learn new things about each other as time goes by. And it sounds so cliche, but it's true. Every now and then I am just amazed at how much I love him more all the time. Enjoy this time, don't worry about the big set up of everything being different once you're married. It's great that things have flowed smoothly into married life. Congratulations and enjoy this time. :)

[hummingbird521]

For us it was different. We only lived together before marriage for 2 months. So all of it was new to us. We had the usual things in the transition to learn, such as his daily habits and mine. His sloppiness and my neatness. But the biggest thing is our kids. Not only was it just the two of us learning each other, but it was his two children and my one teenager to learn each other. We continuously learn new things each day. In fact the other morning we were talking about if either of us had had any second thoughts after moving in together. he said he did not have one and i told him i had had some on occassion. I had been single in my adult life for three years and it was more of a transition on my part than his. While i wouldn't have changed anything about it, i did however have a lot to learn. haha. I had grown accustomed to it only being myself and daughter and the quiet that comes with that. Now it is 5 people and no quiet and hardly any privacy to go along with that. But we have adjusted well. And we would not change it for the world.

[LaceyinPgh]

I feel the same way that NOTHING changed. I don't feel closer to my husband. I don't feel as if we have had any major discoveries. Our daily lives go on about the same. After living together for 5 years though, I can't see what new things we could find out. To be honest, the only new thing is that we both get up and put on a new piece of jewlery. Everything else is exactly the way it was before we decided to get married.

[cowboysbride]

I don't feel any different...although I do feel more "complete"...if that makes any sense...just knowing that he is coming home at night (we didn't live together) and hearing him call me his wife is certainly nice! I asked Eric this question on our way back from the honeymoon and he said No, he felt no different....he said he was married to me the day he met me!

[designdiva]

You're exactly right about the "complete" part. Just knowing he's going to be there at night and beside me in the morning just makes everything feel right. when he's not there I don't feel complete, I'm lost and not happy. That is the one "difference" I feel, it's even harder to be apart the longer you're together. (at least for the first years I guess, eventually I'm sure I will enjoy some time apart haha but not right now)

[CindySue]

I feel a deeper connection with Brian now that we are married. We seem to have more of an emotional bond now than we did before. And like Ellen said, I feel complete.......

[WebLady]

This tends to come up alot ;)

DH and I were together for 6 yrs before we got married, we lived together for nearly 5 of those years. So our daily lives didn't really change much but I do feel different. Mostly just because it is official and I can now say we are actually married and call him my husband :wub: Fiance' was getting old ;)

I also like having his name and being able to call myself his wife and I love hearing him say wife, whether to me or to someone else. I also like all the holiday cards with Wife/Husband on them. On our first Christmas he signed my gifts 'From your Husband' :wub: But I guess I'm a sap for that kind of thing.

[Jenn060306]

Everyone told me that i would find a major difference in our realtionship after we got married.
I have not found much of a difference at all if any. Mark and i lived together for 2 years before we got married. I have talked with Mark a fair amount about this whole thing. He also hasn't seen a difference and belives that if there are any changes it was because we are having so many different things in our lives changing as well.
I do feel like every day is a new adventure and that i love him more and more

[CarlosHoney]

Yes. I feel different. I feel like it's more real now, more substantial.. And I feel like we're a real family now. Not that we weren't before, but with the same name (soon) and everything, now things are completely different.

It's still the same, though.. Just different.

[usahgrad]

Other than having no wedding to plan, I don't feel much different. I still say or write the wrong name now and then (which I'm sure sounds great when I'm calling about jobs...oh well, one more thing to knock me out of the running :) ). We don't see our family members as much now; guess without wedding plans, there isn't much to visit us for. I went through a bout of post-wedding depression, but a good portion of that was due to a bad landlord situation and the slight depression after the wedding was just escalted by that.

We're really happy and I think that's what counts.

[kheath10]

Well I feell a little diffrent, just knowing that I really have a husband now. A help mate some one to talk and share ideas. Someone to take half of the load. Some one to have allways by my side , someone to share everything with no matter what. Also getting used to his two sons, they don't live with us but he is close to them and we have to discuss them a great deal . I have to get used to that and when they come over training them to keep our house clean, they are not used to somethnigs . But trust me they don't play with me! My daughter has been in the house she knows first hand . So other than him telling me ahead of time when they will be comeign over and disscussing things of that nature . that is all that has changed and just realizeing we are married now and we are as one . Nobody outside of the marriage matters, except for god and we put him first of all things. So I belive that we have issues and disagree but we wil make it with prayer and christ. Good luck to each of you !!

[LizabethDavis]

It's semi-different for right now. I have a new last name and I call Patrick my husband instead of my fiance. I get a tax-break and will be covered under his insurance. As far as different between us...not really. We may love each other a little more and feel a tad stronger bond because of all that we have been through, but we are the same old people...

[SerendipityCrafts]

I don't feel any different...although I do feel more "complete"...if that makes any sense...

Well said. We waited for so long to get married and now that we are, it just feels right.

[70707Bride]

I would just like to say that, someone I work with just got married and I asked her if she felt any different. She said she doesn't, and you shouldn't. She said "if you feel different then something is wrong. Why should you feel different with the person?". Which is true, and I never thought of it that way until she said that.

[katieandalex]

I'm feeling exactly the same. I don't know if its because we've been together 6 years and lived together for 3 years...but I just don't feel any different at all. Just not a whole lot has changed since we've gotten married.

[ikkin510]

Well, I've only been married 9 days, but I feel a little different. Mostly because Steve and I didn't live together before the wedding. Now he's here all the time and, IDK, I think we both feel much closer. I enjoy sharing the little things with him, like breakfast in the morning. Emotionally, I don't think it's that different. Like I said, living together makes us feel closer, but not much.

[Mrs.Gittins]

My husband and I just celebrated our one year anniversary:D We didn't live togeather before we got married eather. Infact he moved in while me the girls were getting our hair done....But nothing felt differant. The only thing I had trouble with was signing my new last name. I had a terriable habit of signing my old last name.

[Doglover]

i didn't think i would feel any different since we lived together for over 2 years before we got married. But i sorta feel like we have fallen in love all over again. It feels really nice!

[NicksBride]

i feel differnet. As someone said I feel more complete. So much happier, and as Doglover said, we fell so much more in love. I feel loved, important, happy, and truly just so much better since we got married. Its great!

[BriansBride07]

I don't feel different at all maybe it was b/c we lived together for 13 years going on 14 and we were together for 14 years going on 15 when we got married. We also already have 2 children together. So nothing changed in our feeling's for eachother only that my last name changed.

[Doglover]

I feel SOOOOOOO IN LOVE with Evan since the wedding(even more then b4). I get butterflies when he comes home from work sometimes. I just love him! Sounds weird but i feel more attracted to him since we've been married!!

[70707Bride]

I don't really feel different. We lived together for about a year before we got married.

[PNS777]

I don't feel any different at all I feel as every one has said complete. The only thing that is different is my last name. We fell more in love the minute we said I do and signed the marriage lisence.

[ChibiAiChan]

I feel the same way about being "complete" because my husband has lived with me, my sister, and my mom before we even moved out together! It just feels like I'm whole I guess. Really quite satisfying. We just had our first annivirsary on Sunday and I asked him if we should take off at work next year. He didn't even have to think about it and said "yes!" how adorable is that?!

[kevinsbride2B]

Kevin moved in with me in Dec. of 2006. We legally became common law in Ontario in February of 2007. So technically we were married according to the government.
But since we got back from our honeymoon I really do feel different and I was the one promoting the fact that it'll be nothing new to us. Maybe it's because it's still so new I'm not sure but I do however know that I'm lioving it!
I just love being able to look over at Kev and think "your my husband!" Also, for us getting through this year to get to our wedding was a mission in it self.

[shawnsgirl]

I do feel different after the wedding. I won't say I had an "ahhaa" moment or anything that was shoock me out of my boots but I have felt different since the wedding.
I felt complete, obligated, even more secure than I already did, blissfully happy, and overall had and still have the newlywed glow. I love calling Shawn my husband and I get butterflies when I see his ring on his finger. It's just been wonderful since the wedding. I do feel different compared to what I felt before the wedding..I think it's a help without the stress of planning a wedding on my shoulders anymore too!

[BrideInCuffs21]

My FH and I have been together almost four years and sometimes I think that we are already married, I mean when he leaves me little notes around the house he signs them "hubby" Im not married yet, but I don't see it changing....

[HisMuse]

My friend who's been married for a year tried to tell me how much things change and all but I really don't believe it...not on that level. She and her hubby hadn't bought a house yet but we've been living together for nearly 5 years and have a house together.

The only thing that will change for us is my name, calling each other husband and wife and having the wedding rings (although we've always worn claddagh rings anyway). For us, I can't see how we'd ever really feel any more complete than we do now. For a while I contemplated not even getting married at all.

[ger]

I do feel different after the wedding. I won't say I had an "ahhaa" moment or anything that was shoock me out of my boots but I have felt different since the wedding.
I felt complete, obligated, even more secure than I already did, blissfully happy, and overall had and still have the newlywed glow. I love calling Shawn my husband and I get butterflies when I see his ring on his finger. It's just been wonderful since the wedding. I do feel different compared to what I felt before the wedding..I think it's a help without the stress of planning a wedding on my shoulders anymore too!

This describes my feelings EXACTLY!! Thanks for saying it so well!!