wedding planning...(just me, myself and I) and my fiance.

[bride@35]

Hi, Im just feeling like no one cares about my wedding. We got engaged 3 months ago and my mother, stepfather and brother hasn't asked how we are doing. When I do mention it to my mom, she doesn't carry on the conversation to well. She'll just ask a couple questions, like where is the wedding going to be, and do i have a maid of honor. And not really get into much detail. Then a minute later she will change the subject.

We all get along but we dont communicate well. Were paying out of our own pocket for the wedding and I was hopeing I would get some help and ideas, suggestions from my family.

Anyone been in my situation?:confused: :bblol:

[CindySue]

Congrats on your engagement and welcome to the board. Wedding planning can and a lot of time is a royal pain in the a$$.
About your family, I really dont know what to tell you here. I planned most of mine on my own but I did have a few people I could get advice from. My FMiL was my rock. My mom was out of the state most of the time I was engaged so she didnt say much about it.
Have you asked for any ideas or help? They might not want to say anything until they know that you want their help........
BTW - What are your plans so far? Maybe we can help you!!!
Good Luck!!!!

[Kacie_bride]

I'm sorry your family is not wanting to get that involved with your wedding. That sucks. But you have come to the right place. We will defiantely help in any way we can. You are getting married 2 weeks before me so I can defiantely be of some help. Just jump right in. Welcome to board and congratulations! We all look forward to hearing about your plans.

[Valmai]

The most help i get is from here as well. When i told my dad i was getting married his reply was 'oh ur cousin is getting marrried in may too' end of conver!!! I know hes a man and i may not be young but i am his only daughter and it is my one and only wedding so i know how you feel - now i just sign in here and then i feel all weddingy (made up word) again lol xxx

[WhiskeyGirl]

Hi and welcome to the board.

Maybe your family does not offer anything up because you have only been engaged three months. Have you set a date and let them know? Have you ASKED your mom for help in planning? SOmetimes I find when we say families don't communicate it really means "my family can't read my mind!" ;) I know because I've been there and so has my DH. You have to keep the convo going, if she changes the subject change it back! If you have any questions and want suggestions ask. Sometimes these people don't read our minds and we don't tell them we need help or want help! Ask and most times you shall receive right?? ;)

Good luck with every thing...just remember she can't read your mind and you can't read hers. Maybe she really wants to help but doesn't know how to assert herself. Again welcome and have fun planning the wedding of your dreams! :)

[SerendipityCrafts]

Hi, Im just feeling like no one cares about my wedding. We got engaged 3 months ago and my mother, stepfather and brother hasn't asked how we are doing. When I do mention it to my mom, she doesn't carry on the conversation to well. She'll just ask a couple questions, like where is the wedding going to be, and do i have a maid of honor. And not really get into much detail. Then a minute later she will change the subject.

We all get along but we dont communicate well. Were paying out of our own pocket for the wedding and I was hopeing I would get some help and ideas, suggestions from my family.

Anyone been in my situation?:confused: :bblol:

Give them some time though ... perhaps it's just too far off to be something to get excited over yet?

We all get along fine but I just figured no one (apart from my mother who is so totally over the top about us getting married) was particularly interested in our plans because it's a second wedding for both of us. Maybe they don't think that it means as much to us either?!!!!

Hugh and I have both said that we are more excited about this wedding our first - him/me - everything just seems right - hard to explain.

Truth be told, while I am a little dissapointed the most aren't "into" our plans, I am also rather happy about it as well. It's our day and it's going to look and feel just how we want it to look and feel. :) We have planned all of it ourselves without the interference that I remember from my first wedding.

We are also going "cheap and chearful". You really don't have to spend a fortune to have something meaningful. Think about it .... when it's all said and done, you will be able to sit back and know that you did it on your own as a couple, and you can be proud of your accomplishment!

[LaceyinPgh]

I did my entire wedding almost completely by myself. To be honest, I think I prefered it that way. I didn't have anyone else getting on my nerves or offering suggestions that I didn't want to hear. At first it is overwhelming. But just stay on top of it, stay organized, and don't play nice. You will have a beautiful wedding.

[bnd94]

Yep, I can totally relate to you. I am going through the same exact thing. Well maybe not exact but similar. :bbwink: My Mom does the same thing. Do you get along with your FMIL? Mine has been great!! She even went to get my dress with me and is helping me with all the details and most importantly I can talk to her about how excited I am and she is just as excited.:D It is the perfect time for you to form a bond with her unless you don't get along. Even then maybe this will help you get along better. Other than that I don't have any other advice for you, cause I have just distanced myself from my Mom and although it works for me I wouldn't give that advice to anyone else. It is too sad for me to keep trying to include her and she just doesn't want to be for some reason. Just know you are not alone and if you have any questions or just need to vent these ladies will help you and you can pm me anytime. :hug:

[Elizabeth79]

Im pretty much in your same situation. I totally pictured my family going nuts, but so far not even a card. I often feel like I'm doing it all alone but mostly I feel like they are sucking all the fun out of it.

[bride@35]

I felt like I was alone in this. Im glad I found this website. In one of the threads one said that she likes planning it on her own. In a way, sometimes I do too. Families usually add stress, and right now I dont need that. I do plan on talking to my mom about all I have done in planning the wedding, soon.
I found alot of things online for the wedding, which saves me time and money.

I feel better now, thanks to everyone here:D

[darkangel090260]

yep we are doing 99.9% our selfs . including all the cooking, baking, dec and everything ells under the sun

[bride@35]

I talked to my mom this past week about my wedding planning. She is happy for me, and is glad that I found someone to share my life with. But, she wasn't to interested in helping or giving me ideas, which is okay. Beacuse usually my ideas and hers differ. I guess I watched to many of those wedding movies in the past where the whole family gets involved big time :bblol: . Then I asked my stepfather if he can take pictures at the wedding and after, (he is a photographer, and did weddings on the side). He said yes, :D . I would have to buy the film and have it developed, which is still okay. Cuz I checked how much photographers charge ($$$$).

It feels good to post messages on here without them knowing about it. Thanks to this website, and you guys:)

[WhiskeyGirl]

We're always here to help as much as we can! :D