The meeting of the Families...

[kevinsbride2B]

This time next week I will be packing my bags to head up to Northern Ontario 4 hours North of Toronto with my Mommy so she can meet my soon to be inlaws. This will also be the first time I see my fiances parents since we became engaged.
I'm INCREDIBLY NERVOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm really not sure what to expect. Will they liek eachother? Will there be talking or awkward silence?
My Mom and I are extremly close and she knows how nervous I am. So she went out and bought them a beautiful water fountain bird bath as they have moved into their newly renovated cottage in Northern Ontario. There closes neighbours are kilometers away or for the American's out there miels away. Their closest friends up there are the birds and the deer, so this present seems appropriate.
My inlaws are VERY different from my Mom and my side of the family. I coem from a very warm, huggy and wild family, where my inlaws are more reserved and tidy.
Wish me luck all!!!!

[AngelinLove]

Good luck..just be yourself and remember that you fiance loves you for who you are!!! It is awesome that your mom will be there to support you though!!

[Amanda&Hugo]

Not to seem materialistic, but I think your mom's getting them such a nice gift for their new home is a really nice gesture. It will be a great first impression- that she thought about them as they are moving and wanted to give something to recognize your joining the 2 families... try to be calm. I am sure your new ILs will realize how important this is and appreciate you for it!!

Also, maybe try to think in advance of some topics you could talk about. I did that a lot when my mom and I had to meet with my very different MIL. Usually talking about the family and recent events with family members is a good way to go. Of course there is always the wedding, if they see eye to eye on things and you are willing for both to talk about it.

Finally, one other good icebreaker may be to bring some photo albums- you know, ones of you growing up, and maybe the ILs will share some of your fiance. You could even say you are doing a picture display at the wedding (I did this) and you would like to pick out some pics together to go in it. It was a minor thing I could give the ILs input into and a bonding experience too as we talked about the events and people in the old photos and got to know our history better. Good luck!!!!! And let us know how it turns out!!! :)

[WebLady]

DH and I were together for 6 yrs before we got married and our parents only met our wedding. Well my mom had talked to DH's mom on the phone a few times before she passed away. They are also very different and I was worried that my mom would embaress me in front of DH's dad at the wedding.

So I know how you feel, but it seems like you have a good start since your mom is there to support you. I'm sure it will be fine ... just relax and be who you are.

[Jacklynn]

good luck! My fiance's parents and my parents met each other before we started dating so I didn't have that issue

[SaralovesMike]

Good luck!

My parents and his parents met for the first time about a month ago. I think I was more nervous than anyone else! His parents are about 20 years older than mine but the common ground was our dads were both Marines. Everything was fine and it was a great day!

[hummingbird521]

My parents had never even met my FH until the wedding day. So needless to say they had also never met his parents. We are somewhat older than other couples on here and our parents as well. Both families decided that since they would probably never see the other one after this that it didn't really matter as long as we both were happy. Just be yourself and things will go smoothly. After all your FH loves you and they trust him with this.

[cowboysbride]

My parents and my IL's love each other...my FIL got my mom to dance (NEVER DANCES) and my MIL got my father to dance (TOO CUTE)! We are just one big happy family...my mom and MIL cry when they part ways...they think they were seperated at birth (sisters)! Two peas in a pod!